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Finally realized that it's been a long 15 years, but I know I can still have bomb s3x, without the toxic games! Anyway, looking for fun times- no drama. The worlds in a spin cycle rn, so looking for friends before it stops! HMU if you're in the 702 and puff tuff !

I really hate when you spend years in a relationship just for it to end. Kind of seems like a waste of time really. But it is what it is. The fucked up part was that it wasn’t our choice. It was her narcissistic Son and his sociopath wife, who use their children as pawns in their self justified game of power and control issues.

After years of watching how they systematically severed communication with each close member of his family, (never because it was in the best interests of the kids, but because of reasons such as: they didn’t follow their specific list of what they were told to buy as Christmas gifts for the kids...), I saw all the signs. Yeah, that seems like a normal reason for justification- because his Grandmother loved the kids and wanted to get them a few extra gifts, right? Just because she didn’t follow his wife’s orders, she was cut off from seeing her great grandchildren! And similar BS reasons for justification for yanking their kids out of people’s lives, for several other family members. This is just to give you an idea about their general character.

Now, he works all day while she attempts to appear the perfect stay at home mother on Facebook. Yet finds creative excuses to drop the kids off 4 of 7 days each week. One time, she even brought kids by daily for an entire week, because she was supposedly going to work- each day wearing her uniform for a job at Thrifty Ice Cream shop. We didn’t question it, until one night we decided to go into her work to get kids ice cream... guess who had quit nearly two weeks earlier? You guessed it, the Sociopath! But because we love the kids, my ex overlooked things like that.

Ironic thing is that I told my ex 4 years ago that a day would come that they would try to yank the kids from our lives too. Because I did some research online, and learned about narcissism and sociopaths. It was like this couple’s character trait checklist! She said that I was an idiot, and that they actually cared about her, as opposed to how they didn’t really care about all the other family that was ‘cut-off’. Of course, they did. And she was near suicidal and depressed for the 2 weeks during each of the 2 seperate times the played their head games, making my ex believe she would never see the grandkids again...one of which was most effective, because it was during Christmas!

Due to the fact that his wife can only pretend to be the perfect mother for so long before it, and I quote: ‘ cuts into her Me time’, she had to make amends with my ex. Never once apologizing, a telltale sign of their lack of empathy. Instead, buying her a new phone, and periodically bringing her random cosmetics...even going as far as to try to hang out and trick my ex into thinking that they were actually caring about her! At that point I realized that they may periodically and temporarily manufacture a bullshit reason to keep her from seeing the kids, just to remind her of their almighty power- but they needed her as their on call babysitter. I tried to warn my ex of their games, but that only drove a wedge between us, because she didn’t want to believe I could be right.

For years, I put up with them showing up whenever they wanted to demand she keep the kids. Our plans never mattered- plenty of times wasting purchased movie tickets because she had to babysit instead of go. They once even started drama because she told them that she could not babysit, because she needed to go with me to my fathers funeral! And that is when I knew that they began to see me as an obstacle for their manipulation of my ex, and of full control. And years ago, I warned my ex that one day they would try to break us up. I questioned whether I should leave then, but didn’t in the hopes that we would work together to avoid their accomplishing that if and when they tried.

So they started to go behind my back and talk shit about me, or tell her bullshit like they saw me flirting while I was at work, etc. Whatever they could to drive that wedge. We actually had the strength to trust each other, and persevered. But I know that sociopaths are relentless. And that they divide, cause chaos, and pit people against each other while they sit back and wait to jump in and ‘save the day’.

Fast forward to recent times. Covid hits, so we are around each other a lot more. Her son was lucky enough to be in a sector that pretended it was essential to stay open, so he continued working, while I could not. (Used Car sales is hardly ‘essential’.) This also means his wife would be seeing her kids much more, which she dreaded. Because I was home more, and getting fed up with them doing things like bringing up every ‘gift’ they’ve given her, or verbally tearing my ex down by saying things like she was a bad mother when he was growing up... and she started to actually believe that. It was all because of reasons such as: she told them her and I wanted a night alone, and so they had to keep their own kids at least one night that week. 6 out of 7, you think would be appreciated. More like expected.

So they hated that there were more times they were denied in their babysitting demands, because I put my foot down. I hated seeing how they treated her like an emotional yo yo. But I warned her again that they were sociopaths, and never gave a shit about her truly. And all of the ‘bonding’ and gifts were all part of a leash system. I urged her to see through their bullshit. And she did. For a short time, things were semi normal. We still spent time with the kids over the weekend, and the rest of the week was us. Seemed normal, and fair. I knew it was the calm before the storm.

I was right. The few weeks of ‘normal’ was so quiet because they were devising their master plan to finally remove the only obstacle over full control over my ex... me. So they concocted this story saying that everytime we had the kids over, we were ignoring them to spend time with each other... wtf?!? They said that the oldest child told them that repeatedly. When I called bullshit, and suggested we all sit down together to see if the oldest kid really felt that way or not. They said no because that’s too traumatic for the child. So we didn’t see the kids for a week, and I saw my ex slipping into depression again, fearing being cut off...

I finally called them out with support from the 2remaining family members that hadn’t yet been cut off. They agreed that their ‘reason’ was bullshit without all sitting down with the child to verify if this was true or not. Because if it was true, there is no trauma in listening to a child’s feelings. Of course, it was shot down because they are the parents, and it’s their decision. And since we questioned them as parents, (that my ex would never have done that on her own)- that it is a defensive tactic on our part, indication in their minds that it must be true that we ignore the children and only pay attention to each other! And in an attempt to back up their claims, they said that while their daughter was hanging out with her friend, his parents overhead her telling him that she was sad because we ignore them to sit and cuddle or something like that- even going as far as to say that parent came to them threatening to call CPS for neglect if they brought them to our house knowingly. When I requested to speak with that parent, like adults- request denied.

So the most crucial step in their plan came next. They said that the kids were never allowed over while we were together. And if we couldn’t comply that we could not see the kids ever again. A week passed, and all we did was argue. I knew where it was coming from, and saw it was her subconscious way of trying to push me away. And, even though I didn’t have the means to, I knew of only one way to enable us to stop arguing, and to be allowed to see the kids- I had to move out. They knew that I couldn’t afford to because I had just spent a lot of money on the kids birthdays, etc- they knew because they pretended to care and got my ex to confide our financials to them in an otherwise harmless conversation...not to mention they knew my car was wrecked from being hit by a drunk driver parked in a parking lot while we were inside a McDonald’s eating.

I told her that this was their plan all along, and assured her she would see the kids soon, and that it was another head game.

So I packed up what I needed and moved in with my brother. She agreed to let me use her car because I had just been hired at a new job. And two days after I was gone, she had the kids for the weekend. Like magic, huh? Problem was that the kids missed me. And they called their mom asking if I could visit them. She (passively-aggressively) agreed, not because she cared about her children’s feelings, but because they didn’t want to appear to be heartless parents. Maybe because they knew that, like always, both kids always cuddle with us and fall asleep with us in our bed. Apparently, that is the worst decision ever, because when they found out I fell asleep there- they gave final ultimatum that if we wanted to be together as a couple (after 15 years) that in their minds that was choosing us over the grandkids.

So I packed more of my things I left at the house, and left again- even though there’s no room for any of it in my brothers 1 bedroom apartment. Over the next few days, my ex wanted me to come over and stay a few nights because we missed each other, and the kids were spending 2 nights at her mothers. After work I went by and it was nice. Of course, the next night she’s distant and starts looking for arguments. Come to find out it’s because as soon as her son and daighter in law pick their kids up from her moms, they wanted her to babysit at 10am, for a few days- so THEY could spend time alone together. What a power trip! We argued because I was trying to point out how fucked up it was that they could keep their own kids not for a second- but bring them from one babysitter to the next, preventing her and I from spending time together?!? But I knew that it was hard for her to be put in the middle. I realized that I cannot keep doing this, because in the end, I would never expect her to have to choose.

She pleaded that I just wait to see that it would just ‘blow over’. I agreed, but warned her that they would never change their mind. I knew I should have ‘ripped off the bandaid’ sooner than later, but gave her the hope...Two weeks pass where I come by sometimes when kids are not there, or I’m not working. It was bearable, until a few days ago. I am over, and out of nowhere she says I have to go because they demanded to drop kids off 6am, and she knew since I got off work at midnight that it would be too hard to make sure I was awake and gone by their scheduled time. So, back to my brothers-when I stopped by before work the next day, so was being standoffish. Come to find out kids never came over...weird.

So the next two days are my off days. She wants me to come over and I did. When she gets call from them about wanting her to babysit the following day, my ex acting weird. I hear the daughter in law say ‘since I haven’t asked in last few days it’s not a problem if you babysit tomorrow, is it?’ When she is off phone, she realizes she was caught in a lie, and gets defensive admitting she made up that kids coming over when they really weren’t, because she needed time to think. I was pissed that she asked me to come over, and that she could’ve just told me that. Come to find out she needed to think because she was starting to see that I was right and that getting me out of the picture was their end game. And questioning her plan of waiting for it to ‘blow over’...

So I told her that I can’t do this anymore. It wasn’t fair being a pawn in their power trip. And as much as it hurts, that this was the end of us. I also had to realize that as much as I love those kids, that they can no longer be a part of my life anymore, because their yo-yo games hurt too much, and the kids have been put through this several other times- having loved ones cut off suddenly. Upon research, sociopathic parents do this to keep control tricking children that they are the only true constant and perfect people. It’s just so fucked how people can be such pieces of shit stains, and passing that way of parenting on to their children...

It’s going to be hard, but I cannot continue to waste any more time in something that is a pipe dream- and not a good one. Especially since each time I remove more of my things from the house in the attempt to take steps to give/get closure- all we do is argue. Sociopaths are cunning, because they seem they are in the right, knowing that letting go causes resentment hate sadness despair, and all the other feelings which lead to argument by human nature. So then they will say, see we are the one and only constant in your life too- and as long as you do as we say, everything will be okay! We will protect you! Fucking waste of DNA.

What I’ve learned about sociopaths, I know that in the end, they will also turn on each other- ending in as destructive of a path as they’ve made everyone else around they’d lives in the past. The sad part is knowing their children will be stripped of any true feelings, and continue their psychotic and destructive legacy.

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