Also While I’m Ranting About Gender I Always See Debate About Whether Girls Are Rewarded For Being

also while i’m ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and it’s like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls can’t be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also can’t show up to girly events covered in mud. girls can’t have makeup art as a hobby or else they’re superficial, but if they never wear makeup they’re a slob and dumpy, etc. it’s not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, they’re rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks

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6 months ago

who the fuck named loading circles "throbbers"

4 weeks ago

I don’t know if I’ve spelled it out on tumblr yet, but I want to talk about The Mammal List. 

The Mammal List is something I came up with when I was in a mental health intensive outpatient program four(!!) years ago. The premise is that we are at our core animals, and if I consider myself the way I’d consider a pet cat, I’m much more likely to practice good self-care:

1. Mammals need food. Eat something! If the Hellbeast doesn’t pass judgment on a piece of cheese, neither should you. (She also eats anything small enough to fit in her mouth, so be judicious in that respect. Food is good. Lint is not.)

2. Mammals need hydration. Drink something! It doesn’t have to be water. It could be delicious tuna juice. You’re a discerning creature. I trust you. 

3. Mammals need sleep. Make a soft nest and let yourself enjoy it. Knead it until it’s comfortable. Let yourself rest as long as you need. Just existing is hard. You’ve earned a break. 

4. Mammals need movement. Take your precious body and do something. Don’t hurt yourself. Be kind.

5. Mammals need stimulation. Treat yourself to a new jingle ball or mousie toy. Get a bird feeder and stare at it. Let yourself really enjoy it. Play is in your nature.

6. Mammals need socialization. I know this one is particularly difficult these days, but if you don’t keep reaching out, you’re going to forget yourself and start biting people. 

7. Mammals need cleanliness. Nobody likes scooping the litterbox, but it has to be done. Don’t forget your own body. Make your fur shine. Treat yourself as the luminous creature you are. 

And most important of all: don’t feel guilty. This isn’t about deserving (although you do deserve it). You’re an animal and you need these things to survive, and I very much want you to survive. 

1 year ago
Paris Is Burning, Dir. Jennie Livingston (1990)
Paris Is Burning, Dir. Jennie Livingston (1990)
Paris Is Burning, Dir. Jennie Livingston (1990)

Paris Is Burning, dir. Jennie Livingston (1990)

2 months ago
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1 month ago

i recently saw a tiktok where a woman asked "girlies: what are some things you do to be more whimsical? I love knowing cute little habbits"

and i've never loved a comment section more. some of my faves:

I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?
I Recently Saw A Tiktok Where A Woman Asked "girlies: What Are Some Things You Do To Be More Whimsical?

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3 months ago
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo
From Instagram User @/thebooksmartbimbo

from instagram user @/thebooksmartbimbo

we actually offer the protest psychosis, the book mentioned, as part of our mad studies study guide for beginners!

7 months ago

apple blossomed trees / roots with the birds

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acabwitch - Vedin (vay-den)
Vedin (vay-den)

Ho hum hai, down with empires and up with softness.They/them polyam white queer

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