Hi!
First of all I would like to apologize if at some point this question bothers you, but I would like to ask for advice.
My partner (M) and I (F) have been together for a year and a half, he is completely vanilla with strong traditional convictions and I have had a past linked to bdsm and the Dom/Sub relationship.
The truth is that when we first started dating I told him about it and he told me that he didn't care, but that he couldn't see himself hurting someone he loved. I didn't bring it up again because I had that part of me asleep, but now I feel like I need that again and I don't know how to introduce it and make him see that it's not pain, but something that goes beyond that.
Could you please give me some advice?
Thanks in advance.
There is nothing for you to apologize for. I’m happy to do what I can to help and you’re not the only one to have run into this issue before. I’ve even had partners that were very vanilla and I had to adjust to what they were comfortable with. I don’t know that any two (or more) partners ever exactly match their kinks and levels. So you have to find what works for the both of you. It’s a growing process for you both and the key is being able to talk about it. The trouble is that talking is often the hard part for most people. Do you feel you can talk about it with him openly and that he will receive what your saying? That’s going to be key and it will be tough if he can’t meet you that far.
Exploring kinks can be a challenge for the vanilla flavored people and especially if they are the victim of traditional brainwashing. Yes I say brainwashing because that’s what I feel it is. People can be so conditioned by their family, culture, religion, society. It’s hard to shake that. Their brains are so conditioned to think of all kinks as bad and they really can’t process how satisfying those desires can be so freeing and liberating and fulfilling. The key for you to open up his world is going to be doing it by small increments. Think of it as expanding his horizon and comfort zone. You just may have to be a bit patient with him and always check in with each other afterwards.
Most partners really want to please each other. Hopefully yours is the same way. So if you sit him down and explain that this is something you are desiring and that you want to share with him and that it will really turn you on I’d be willing to bet that he will at least listen. Don’t start him out with whips or nipple clamps or anything that will make him feel like he’s hurting you. Start him out with some basic power play maybe. For example tell him that it really turns you on when he tells you to suck him and how, or to manhandle you into what position he wants you to be in. Tell him you love it when he pins you to the bed. Or maybe suggest tying you to the bed. Something soft and easy for him to buy in to. I think once he sees and feels how you react to it that he will be on board to try some more. Then you can gradually introduce more into the equation. Do you guys ever sext? Try sexting with him about a fantasy like that. Seeing if you can get his anticipation up. Guide him towards the things you want because remember that he has no clue about that stuff. His ignorance and lack of openness comes from his conditioning. It’s up to you to break that and guide him. Remember that a d/s relationship also requires the sub to guide the dom in her comfort levels. You’re just unfortunately starting from zero experience.
He’s probably not going to turn into the master dom to your sub but hopefully the two of you can reach a happy middle that gives you some of that d/s experience you crave while opening up his world but still making him feel comfortable. I hope you have some success with it. I’d love to hear how it goes and if the two of you are making progress together. I’ll be sending you both some good d/s vibes!
Your hands feel so little and petite in my big, strong ones! You are daddy’s delicate little flower! My precious girl! My sweet temptation! I know you love it when daddy grabs you and claims you! When I pin your arms like this! I can feel it in your breathing, in your fast heartbeat, in the flush of your cheeks! You know daddy aches for you, burns to have you! You love it don’t you, kitten? Love how daddy claims you and takes you? You may be daddy’s delicate little flower, but that’s not what you want is it kitten? You want daddy to be rough, to claim you hard, to take you just how I want too! You want to be bruised and sore, your body spent, aching, quivering! You want daddy’s hands pinning you down, flipping you over, spanking and smacking you, fucking you hard and rough, pounding your sweet little body into the bed until we are both dripping with sweat and cum and our mixed juices! I want to hear you scream with primal pleasure! I want that release as I take you and you surrender completely to me! Tell me, kitten, is that what you crave? Is that what races through your head when daddy pins your little hands like this? Those little, delicate hands!
Sometimes you just have to sit naked in the rain and feel the water and wind washing over you! Feels so amazing! The droplets of water cascading over you, the wind whipping the trees and caressing your skin. Watching nature let loose in front of you and just taking it all in.
There may or may not have been mushrooms involved as well. 🍄😍❤️😂
Her submission is her gift to you. A precious gift to be earned and respected and cherished. A gift she can take away at anytime. She has the control and the power. Without her consent you have nothing. You must earn it everyday. Show her that you deserve and cherish that gift. That she is safe in your arms and your care. That you will protect her, keep her safe and that she is always loved. Only then does you deserve that gift.
Do you know that’s all that daddy ever needed too? To feel you close to me, your warmth against me! To feel the softness of your skin, the sweet scent of your hair as I bury my face in it! Do you know the calm and the peace that you bring to me too? That just the feel of you safe in my arms brings a calm to my soul and smile to my face! Do you know that I can feel the stress and the worries of the day melting away as I hold you? Do you know that taking care of you brings peace and happiness to my heart? Can you feel my breath, slow and steady? My heart calming, slowing, steadying? Know this, baby girl, that daddy needs you just as much as you need him!
I just want a tiny house, a big library and a bondage room. Is that too much to ask for? 🤔😂
where do you find the inspiration for the things you write?
Hi there and thanks for the ask. It’s a combination of my own experiences as a daddy and dom, my desires and my fantasies. I enjoy writing and sharing them and I try to set a good example of what a supportive and caring Dd/lg relationship should be.
I love how you get lost in the passion and desire! Your little mouth and tongue hungry and aching to lick and suck anything! Feeling you pull my hand to your mouth to lick and suck at my fingers as daddy pounds into you from behind! Your desire overwhelming! You crave having something, anything to fill your little mouth! Such a hungry little slut for daddy! My beautiful, horny, needy girl! You make daddy throb when you lose yourself like that! Make me ache and swell for you! Can you feel it as I fuck? Feel me pushing deeper? Harder into you? Craving you and needing you as much as you need daddy!
Do you know how exquisite you look to me, baby girl? Relaxed and lounging as you stare up at me, legs crossed lazily, your seductive eyes, your full lips, your luscious body a playground begging me to come savor every beautiful inch! But I see so much more than that when I look at you! I see that twinkle in your eyes, hinting at the wicked intelligence hiding in there, the wit, and the sarcasm laying in wait for me, challenging me, engaging me! The twist of your head, the nibble on your lip, the little bounce of your foot up and down as you watch me gives away that delicious, naughty imagination of yours! I can almost see the salacious ideas spinning in your head! The naughty things you are contemplating doing to me! The things you are imagining, craving me to do to you! The fantasies and desires you share with me make me throb for you at just the thought! The way you eagerly embrace mine and crave even more! The swell of your breasts as your breath comes quicker, your nipples crisp, hardening slightly giving away your arousal! I see all of it, baby girl! I drink it all in! Every drop of you! Down to your core! And I want more!
Do you know how much I crave you, baby girl? How I desire you? That perfect pairing of luscious body and wicked mind! I need them both! I ache to dive into that mind, your soul, just as much as I ache to thrust into that beautiful body! Your beauty is a prize any man would cherish but its your beautiful soul that captured me! The caring, kind soul hidden in that sweet body that spoke to mine. Its delightful wickedness, sultry and seductive! Too tempting to escape! Like a sirens call it entangled my soul, pulled me under, drew me closer, merging with mine until they were inseparable!
I relish in all the physical treats with you! Tasting and caressing every inch of you! Feeling your body quiver at my touch, your breath rising, your soft moans and gasp! I love how you turn your cheek into my hand as I caress your beautiful face! Your lips parted slightly, the softest moan drifting out to tempt me as I pull your lips to mine! The tease and tangle of your nimble little tongue as it slips between my lips making my head spin with desire! I feel the goosebumps rise on your skin as my fingers lightly trail down your soft curves! The catch in your breath as my fingertips brush over your nipple and settle to cup and caress your breast! Will you caress me with your imagination as I caress and stroke your soft skin? Let it run wild and release all your desire on me? Give me every dream and fantasy to fulfill as I savor you?
My hand slips slowly lower, palm flat against your stomach, feeling little rivulets of sweat, the curve of your stomach, down to cup your soft mound, fingers curling down to your soft folds as I hold your sweet sex! I feel your hips rocking forward, pushing up to meet my hand as you moan into my mouth! A whispered, “yessss!” as my fingers slip between your wet folds! Stroking and caressing, feeling your little clit begin to pulse with pleasure for me! Feeling you contract around my fingers as I slip two of them inside of you, stroking your inner folds, exploring you, rocking back and forth gently as you grind against me!
You press your lips to mine, parted and panting, kissing me between moans, pressing your body close to mine as I caress and play with you! Your soft hands roaming, caressing, hot on my skin, burning me with such delight! I feel them seeking my excitement, grasping and stroking my hardness, tantalizing me, your fingers magic on me! You know how to make me throb for you! You pay attention to everything! Every stroke and caress and what it does to me! You set me on fire as I kindle yours and turn it into a blazing inferno ready to engulf us both! I have so many plans for you! So many ways I want to taste and take and please you! The delicious hours we will spend playing and fucking and savoring each other! But it all washes away in our desperate need to have each other! My need to be inside of you and take you! Your need to be filled by me! To feel me inside of you! That most intimate connection! The closeness of it! Feeling our desires merge! Our minds lost in each other! Connected by our passion our intimacy! You pull me onto you! Guiding me into you! Your eyes locked on mine as I thrust into you! Seeing them widen slightly as I push deep into you, stretching you tight, throbbing and swelling for you! The moan rolling from your soft lips as I feel you cumming around me with the first thrust! Hips grinding against me as I thrust in and out slowly! Feeling you cumming again and again as I kiss you hard, hands clinging and clutching you, wrapping in your hair and pinning you to the bed as I take you, barely able to contain myself but aching for the feeling of you, being inside of you, connected to you, never wanting it to end! I take you slowly! Slow deep thrusts, then shallow teasing ones until your clawing at my ass to pull me deeper! Then thrusting hard and deep! Taking you and pounding into you until I feel you gushing for me again! Then back to the shallow strokes as you melt into me! Kissing, clutching, nuzzling me! I can’t last much longer! Every time I barely escape losing control and exploding inside of you! You can feel it! You crave it! Aching to feel me explode for you! Inside of you!
You push me over on to my back, wanting the control, rolling with me, keeping me deep inside of you! Sitting up on top of me, straddling me, grinding slowly! Your eyes looking at me hungrily! Your luscious body glowing, flushed and glistening with out sweat! You place your hands on my chest, nails digging in slightly as you start to grind! Back and forth! Your hips driving me mad with desire! Closer and closer to the edge as you grind harder, faster! My hand slips up to your soft throat! Fingers curling around it, gripping you softly, but tight! Reminding you that you belong to me! My other hand slipping up to your breasts, cupping and squeezing, feeling them rocking and bouncing in my hand as you grind and ride me! Your beautiful mouth forms a soft Ohhh and your eyes roll back as you start to cum again on me! Taking your pleasure from me just as you give it to me! I feel your contractions! Your wetness flowing! Your whole body quivering with pleasure! I can’t resist anymore! Growling, cursing, moaning, I thrust up into you! Pushing myself deeper as you grind and cum for me! Can you feel me explode for you, baby girl? Feel me swell and begin to pulse my cum deep inside of you! Filling your sweet cunt as you cum all over me! Soaking us both in our mixed cum! Can you feel my hunger? Feel me burning as I thrust into you losing all control? Feel my muscles tight and hard under you as I take you with all my strength! Is that what you craved? What you ached for?
You collapse on my chest! Panting! Spent! Your beautiful hair spilling over your face, my chest! I caress you softly, brushing the hair from your pretty face! Caressing your back, your arms, your ass! I feel you drifting off against me! Completely relaxed! Safe in daddy’s arms! Satisfied and satiated for now! I savor the smell of your hair, the feel of your soft warm body on top of mine! The feel of your breathing, the best of your heart! I savor it all, never wanting to lose the memory or the feeling! Do you know how exquisite you look to me?
When I tell you that I miss you, baby girl, do you understand what I mean? It’s not that it’s been too long since I’ve seen you. It’s not that it’s been too long since we’ve talked. I can be talking to you that very second and miss you terribly. When I tell you that I miss you it means that I ache for you to be here with me this very second. It means that I want to share every second of my life with you. It means that I want to hold your hand as you sit quietly next to me. It means that I want to push you up against the wall and make love to you until we collapse spent and gasping. It means that I want to go for a walk with you or sit in the park with you. It means I want to talk to you about the inane things in my every day life or about politics or about music or every fucking thing in the world. It means that my life is not complete without you in it and without you here next to me. Every second of every day I miss you! Not because you are far away but because I want to share it all with you. Because I don’t feel complete without you here with me. Because a part of my soul lives within you and I’m not whole without you. That’s what I mean when I say I miss you. Do you understand that baby girl?
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