I'm a 42 year old pansexual male. I’m an artist, poly, and enjoy swinging kinky fun. My posts on here reflect that. Please do not message me about being a sub of any kind.
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I’ve had this meme on my Tumblr page for years. Literally, years. Recently, I noticed that they removed it for “Violating Tumblr’s Community Guidelines.” Really?! Where? How? I know that ceiling is terrifying, but, seriously…
so you just bought rope and you wanna know where to start? here’s a suggested curriculum of free tutorial videos.
these are all self-tie friendly.
1. karada (aka diamond harness, aka body harness)
2. pentagram harness
3. how to coil rope
4. how to join ropes
5. basic crotch rope
6. rope corset
7. basic chest harness
8. futomono
9. single column tie
10. double column tie
11. diamond crotch rope
12. hishi body tie
Would love it. ;D
who wants to have Dinner with Bailey?
Have you ever encountered the Animated Knots website/app? It's great for learning knots/referencing if you need a quick reminder
oh neat, that's very good for learning. Some day I will use the non-trick way to tie a sheepshank.
I do like to know my knots offhand: in my scout troop to get certified in a basic knot you had to be able to tie it blindfolded, behind your back, and at speed (independently) and that is a pretty reasonable set of goals.
You might not know that Sounds of Pleasure has a bunch of side pages, including: Tag index - lots of audio categories Audios by - list of people with audios on SoP How to submit audios FAQ Q & A blog - ask anon questions and get answers Recording Tips - advice on making erotic audios Best of - best of audios list Articles on porn for women, audio porn and ethical porn
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Hana to hebi: Zero - Hajime Hashimoto Kinbaku Arisue Go AV Noriko Hamada Submitted by @squirmforgood & @bondage-gifs
single-rope “a bit o’ crotch torture” tutorial!
[find full video (and many more) here for 1$ pledge]
rope and photo by me; model: @ropebaby
New self tie! This time it was definitely tighter (still hard to make it tight enough on my own, but I’m sure I’ll learn)
I followed the tutorial from this video
Have fun if you try this one too!
By Reiko Kogure
Helpless, By Choice
so you just bought rope and you wanna know where to start? here’s a suggested curriculum of free tutorial videos.
these are all self-tie friendly.
1. karada (aka diamond harness, aka body harness)
2. pentagram harness
3. how to coil rope
4. how to join ropes
5. basic crotch rope
6. rope corset
7. basic chest harness
8. futomono
9. single column tie
10. double column tie
11. diamond crotch rope
12. hishi body tie
My wife was a performer on a trans-site for a brief while. We started dating afterward, and have been hitched for 6 years this December. Out of a total of 12 years together, not once have I asked, nor have I wanted her to fuck me, and I’m pan-sexual. ;D
If some like it, great. Others don’t, fine. I think it’s tantamount to harassment to force someone into a role they’re uncomfortable with, either topping or bottoming.
Final word, you do you Jessica. Keep playing by your rules. Love the content BTW. 😊
I've noticed what you talking about with how trans girls are required to top translated into normal sex. I (a trans woman) can meet a guy tell him I'm bottom only, and then mid sex hes like "so are you going to fuck me or what", and I've actually had someone refer to porn as why i should fuck him despite me being a bottom. he told me every trans girl likes to fuck guys. like what the fuck? its dumb and i wish you the best, bottom girl solidarity
That is exactly why when I started porn I was like “hey, if the arguement is that I’m in porn because I’m a girl, I’m not going to touch my penis. If I’m a girl that’s not necesary. If I can’t be in this porno without fucking some dude in the ass then you’re not booking me because I’m a girl you’re booking me because I’m a shemale. And my transition, my femininity, my identity isn’t up for sale like that. I’ll get fucked like a slut like a girl, but I won’t be a shemale.” and that’s what got me in tons and tons of trouble. That’s why after getting on the cover of the only trans magazine for the swimsuit edition the year after Aubrey Kate, Evil Angel wouldn’t film me, Trans500 wouldn’t film me, Trans Angels wouldn’t film me. These guys take it as a personal attack that I won’t use my cock. They even write in to websites and say things like “Don’t you ever hire her again!”They don’t care that most trans girls are human, feminine, and submissive. They don’t care that producing this content for them to jerk off over results in girls like you going out and dating and having guys tell you to your face what I heard on my first porno set “well you’re a tranny sweet heart so just do the tranny thing”We’re not allowed to be seen like girls are seen. They put us in a box and make us do these dominant aggressive shemale things so they can jerk off. They say “that’s what sells!” when I have 28,000 followers on tumblr, 53,000 followers on twitter, 63,000 followers on instagram. I have 69 subscribers to my onlyfans and there isn’t even a single video of me touching my penis ever. If it doesn’t sell then how did a girl with almost no mainstream exposure what so ever sell 69 subscribtions to guys who will never see her touch her penis? They are creating a culture where we don’t get to be as feminine as our genetic female counterparts and we all wonder why victoria’s secret won’t let us walk the run way. Only final note on this. All the producers who insist this is what sells and it’s what we have to do? They don’t date trans girls. Not a single one of them. They all date genetic girls. They turn us into a sexually dominant fetish and use us and go back to their cunt. They’re around trans girls all day, work with trans girls, insist this is how we have to be, and then go home to their genetic women.
Please reblog, this is so important.
Anatomy for Rope with IPcookiemonster Shibari Safety by DeGiotto Rope Shibari Safety by Esinem. (Part One) Part Two)
How to Coil Rope by @ miniature-minx available for FREE download if you click the link for “get full video” Twisted Monk How-to: over a dozen beginner-friendly faves, including: karada (aka diamond harness or body harness) pentagram harness single column tie basic chest harness strapon harness basic hair tie
@ropebaby‘s youtube channel, featuring: rope bra basic crotch rope Rope Corset and more!
How to Join Ropes by @wykd-dave Futomomo by Degiotto Rope Leg Corset by Ganraptor Hishi (Diamond) Leg Tie by EpicRope
Tying the Wrists Up Behind the Neck by Topologist Hogtie by Twisted Monk Gyaku Tannuki by GanRaptor Hishi TK by EpicRope
Dynamic Hip Harness by Moco Hip Harness by Nina Russ Tobutsuru Hip Harness by stefanobirdofprey Peach Tie by Tifereth
Gote Shibari (also called a TK) by Esinem Tengu by Ganraptor Tengu Hishi by Ganraptor Armbinder by Ganraptor
updated 1/14/18
Sometimes the help you need isn’t the help you want. Call 1-800-273-8255 if you’re thinking of suicide.
Looking for tutorials? Blogs to follow? Want to figure out that one tie you saw at the dungeon last week? This post has got you covered – written to be accessible for complete newbies, with resources even old hats at rope bondage can appreciate be they bottom or top.
(1) Tutorial Websites and Videos
Beautiful Bondage
Cam Damage
Crash Restraint Website
Crash Restraint Youtube
deGiotto Rope
EpicRope
Esinem Website
Esinem Shibari Classes
Evie Vane’s Videos
Kinbaku Luxuria
Kinbaku Today
Kink Academy
Kissmedeadly Doll References
Miss Eris
ReKink Rope Bondage Tutorials
Rope Baby
Rope Connections
RopeTopia Resources
RVA Rope
Secondfloor Lotus Studio
Shibari.Ph Resources
The Dutchy
The Twisted Monk
Two Knotty Boys Video Downloads
(2) Safety and Technique Information*
* = most of the website and video list also covers safety information
Kinky Clover Rope Bottom Guide
How to Be an Awesome Rope Bottom
A Guide For Rope Bottoms and Bondage Models
Bondage Safety for Bottoms
Resources for Rope Bottoms
Safety with Rope
BDSMWiki: Beginner Rope Bondage
Blackout: What to Do When Someone Faints
Crash Restraint Rope Advice
Fixing Problems Before They Happen
Free: Bondage Safety
Rope Incident Reports
On Circulation
On Nerve Damage
Pain in Kinbaku
Nerves in Rope Bondage
Nerve Injury Reference Card
Nerve Injury Treatment and Management
Remedial Ropes
Self-Suspension
Shibari.Ph: Read This Before Trying Bondage
What is Shibari?
Who Can be Suspended?
(3) Books
The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up by Evie Vane
Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
Rope Bondage The Smart Way: A Step By Step Guide To Using Rope Bondage In BDSM by Pete Riggs
Shibari You Can Use by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay
More Shibari You Can Use by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay
Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys
Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys
The Seductive Art of Japanese Rope Bondage by Midori
The Beauty of Kinbaku by Master “K”
Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage by Shin Nawakari
Rogue Hojojutsu by Douglas Kent
Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land by Douglas Kent
Complete Shibari Volume 2: Sky by Douglas Kent
Bondage For Sex by Chanta Rose
Tie Me Up! The Complete Guide to Bondage by Stephan Niederwieser
(4) Tumblr Blogs
@schwein-child , @goodmorningm0therfucker , @kissmedeadlydoll
@camdamage @ropebaby , @hornyropebunny @tohjiro
@japanesebdsmofficial @squirmforgood @evilthell, @amaury-grisel-shibari
@rumen-basheff , @kanan0690, @theropediary @jewelryandfire
@cubicletocollar, @em-ties, @strictly-dirtyvonp, @secondfloor-fet
@gaping-lotus, @jesseflanagan, @nawayoi @uncoiled-rope , @boshai,
@tieduptee, @furi0usge0rge, @daddysprettypinkprincess, @shibarikuma,
@daddyrigsme, @shaktibliss @nikolasromanov, @tied-yuno,
@kinkyropecuriosity @danielriquelme-shibari @tentesion, @wykd-dave,
@ella-winters, @squirmforgood, @bondage-gifs, @master-rene-will,
@orpheusblack, @alekzander-kinbaku, @misunguided @untitledminor,
@tied-yuno, @kbnawa, @ropedisco, @cordineclubarchives,
@tiedandtwisted420, @fred-rx, @skinny-redhead, @nikolasromanov,
@enbydea, @neckropenightmare, @hangknot, @se7enbondage
Tumblr blog list from @thebeautyofrope‘s awesome post because I simply could not do a better or more complete job myself
Please note that none of these links, references or websites are meant to serve as a complete guide to rope bondage by themselves. Rope classes and real life instruction are invaluable, and online materials do not make a complete substitute for learning best possible practices. Stay safe and have fun!
I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.
If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.
Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.
Websites:
Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.
Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.
DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.
Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.
Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.
Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.
Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.
The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.
Dating and Relationships:
10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)
Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)
Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)
How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)
Play:
Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)
Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)
Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)
Safety:
Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)
Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)
Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)
S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)
Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:
BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)
BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)
Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)
If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)
What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Sub Drop and Aftercare:
Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)
Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)
Dominance and Dominants:
A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)
Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)
An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)
Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)
Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)
Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)
How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)
What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Submission and Submissives:
10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)
Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)
Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)
Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)
What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)
Books:
BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer
Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison
Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison
Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel
Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel
Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel
Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel
Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon
SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
The Control Book by Peter Masters
The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters
Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker
Learning time with @kinbakunokaiji and @fred-rx earlier this evening 👍✨
Model: Selkeys
Rigger: Akai Ryuu
Photographer: Akai Ryuu
shot in Warsaw, 2016
Model: Selkeys
Rigger: Akai Ryuu
Photographer: Akai Ryuu
shot in Warsaw, 2016
Learning time with @kinbakunokaiji and @fred-rx earlier this evening 👍✨