Beneathyoualways - A Work In Progress...(i'm A)

About My Gentleman...

Written by A Goddess from Alabama,

I am at a point in my life where I can almost exhale. My career has served me well with travel both in and out of the US. Now I am mentoring others and looking forward to leaving the 9 to 5 grind of healthcare compliance reimbursement. The next phase of my life involves more creative endeavors and volunteer work with several non profits that focus on hunger and making learning easier for all people.

I grew up in a very, very small town in Alabama and found escape through books. I realized early in life that there was so much to explore and to see in this world. I placed my wanderlust on hold, got married and settled into the routine of life. Was it a FLR? No it was not. But as I reflect on those 14 years, I can see where I was more of the leader. It was considered being “bossy.” I did want and expect things done in a certain way…my way. The women on my mother’s side of the family were all strong, in charge types and men seemed to be quiet followers. After the divorce, my focus was on raising my child. At age 53, the idea of exploring the world is still alive. Now that my child has finished college and started her career, I travel yearly with a group of female friends. I know travel would be more enjoyable with a gentleman that will embrace me, my dreams and enjoy sharing in the new phase of my life……all within a loving FLR.

I spent time reflecting on past relationships. The one thing that stood out was that I was the one directing the relationships. So I started to research the dynamic of what I thought was a bossy woman. The picture or definition I saw for a woman in charge of her man did not define me and was not what I wanted. So I kept researching and discovered FLRs and immediately connected with what I found. It was refreshing to see that it was “okay” to be a woman in charge of her man/relationship in a loving and real way. It was such a relief to find that there are men who also want this who are normal….they work, have interests, friends and are successful.

Being introduced to FLRs has been a wonderful and refreshing boost to my search for a relationship. I completely accept who I am in terms of what I need and seek in a relationship. The idea of being in a loving FLR makes me smile inside!

The happiness, emotional well being, personal satisfaction and realization of dreams for the woman in a FLR is a huge benefit of being in a loving FLR. When this happens, the man and children (if any) benefit from the female’s loving and wise guidance, this becoming the best they can be also. Some couples may be challenged by what other people think about their relationship and feel pressure to conform to the norm of others opinion. I believe that what happens in a loving relationship is between the two involved and if the bond is solid can withstand outside challenges. The only challenge I encountered was in finding a partner. But of course all challenges can be overcome!

I have recently started a relationship with my new gentleman who was raised in a strict, loving matriarchal home. Seeing a woman in charge of her man and a man who happily surrendered to his wife’s direction was what he saw/experienced as a child.

My new gentleman and I were having dinner for our first date. We were at a great restaurant and the ambiance was perfect. The waiter came over and I ordered for him…from wine and appetizer to the entrée. My man did not complain or refuse any of my choices. The waiter’s reaction was priceless! He was a little taken aback. It was apparent that he had not seen a couple where the woman was in charge. I totally enjoyed the moment!

My gentleman fully embraces FLRs. Our interactions have been very effortless because we both know we work better in an FLR. We can freely discuss FLR dynamics and other topics from politics to books and art. He is very smart, caring and most of all, a complete gentleman who shares my passion for learning and traveling. We are both excited about the journey that has started!

To learn more about FLRs any woman or man should look to the Internet. There are so many sites out there that address FLRs and are in English, German and other languages. The site lovingflr.com helped to answer my questions and provided a tool to learn more. Many good books are also available from the website and bookstores. My best advice……read, read and read some more. Befriend others who want or are already in FLRs for support and social outlets. I believe that if I had been introduced to FLRs in my 20s, I would have made different choices and would be in a loving Loving FLR marriage. Remember that your FLR reflects who you are as individuals and how you come together as a couple. It won’t be a carbon copy of anything you read or encounter.

It is great that more women are becoming empowered to embrace leadership roles in their relationships. We can be strong, confident, loving AND in charge in our relationships…

Thanks to A Goddess and lovingflr

Just need a big bull in our hotel room now to satisfy my needs 😘

If you want to...

Call your boy beautiful and precious and special and wonderful, go for it.

Watch or listen to your boy sleep for hours on end while you keep his nightmares at bay, go for it.

Cradle his face mid fuck, kiss him stupid and tell him how much he means to you, go for it.

Kiss every mole and every freckle on his body, go for it.

Tell him a thousand times each day just what a good boy he is, go for it.

Make love to your boy, go for it.

Tell him that not only he’s the filthiest, needy whore know to mankind he’s also - and above all - your whore, go for it.

Fuck his tight little ass over and over again and claim what’s yours, go for it.

Be the sappiest, gentlest of Dommes out there, go for it.

Want to drive your boy insane with want, go for it.

Cradle your boy in your arms for hours on end, go for it.

Do everything you can to see that happy, content smile on his face, go for it.

Go for it, for your boy is worth it.

And most importantly my strength @geminimistress

only fro the last six years