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Oooof didn't realise these two will end up clashing...dang ...may have to consider not starting not me when it airs...how will I fend off the spoilers thooo
i’m sorry for the person i’ll become when not me starts airing at the same time as bad buddy. it’s gonna be gmm lockdown in this house.
When Pran said "You've got to stop doing this to me. We are not a thing" on the rooftop, I found the English translation a little confusing. The first sentence makes it sound like Pran is asking Pat to stop being clearly romantic with him because it's hurting him, but the second sentence makes it sound like he's telling Pat to stop being clearly romantic because it's not appropriate to the kind of relationship they have, without any romantic feelings on Pran's part. Can you shed any light on what exactly Pran was trying to communicate?
Oh certainly.
This was one of my favorite parts because they used super subtle language rather than the usual Thai words for couple (which I can't spell but can now recognize) or faen.
The first bit is Pran saying basically:
"I've had enough. Stop jerking me around, emotionally. You've been flirting on and off with me for years and it's not fair. Because i know what's going on and how I feel about you. And I kind of always have since the pond incident."
The second bit is:
"It's not fair of you, Pat, to do these kind of things to me (possession, jealousy, casual affection, flirting) without you, Pat, having actual romantic feels for me. (And acknowledging them.)"
Pran thinks Pat is being casual with him. But Pran is not a casual person. This is about sincerity.
I think Pran also thinks that Pat hasn't acknowledged his own feelings to himself yet. Remember, they have known each other a very long time. And Pran is a lot more self aware than Pat is (and he also knows that). I think he realizes that Pat is a little in love with him but Pran believes that Pat will never come to place where he can admit that to HIMSELF.
Thus the kiss is a real shocker to Pran, because he didn't think it would ever happen. And it's not that he thought Pat didn't have the guts, or wasn't action orientated, it's just that he didn't think Pat would ever have the level of self awareness required.
Pat grew up in the course of one episode, if I were Pran, I'd be surprised too.
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As an IRL example, it's not quite the same thing but...
You ever have that friend who is clearly queer but just isn't yet?
So they aren't pretending, it's not even self delusion, because they just don't realize it. Sometimes it's family background, but sometimes it's just that they are too emotionally young. They haven't figured themselves out. How can they when they haven't had the right life experiences yet? They aren't to be blamed or pushed because of this. It's a void not a wound.
As friends (or sometimes family members) I think we often see queerness in the people we love before they see it in themselves. (Especially if we are a little older and already out.)
Because we, personally, aren't dealing with the guilt, shame, fear, loss, and rebuilding of identity that society's expectations place on our friend's way of thinking about themself. (Even if we've been through it, it's different for everyone, and we can easily forget because we want to.)
Even if the friendship group or family is accepting, it can be super hard. Because then there is a whole new set of expectations to come up against.
When analyzing Color Rush, I mentioned that no one really talks about how first love as a queer person is also a grieving process. (And anger: why must we grieve as we experience passion for the first time when the hets don't have to?)
Because as we open the closet door and walk into a queer identity we mourn the dead straight identity we left behind.
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Which is a long way of saying, what we see on this rooftop with Pat & Pran is first love and new passion, but it is also grief.
You know what I really love about it? I love that nobody explained Pat's feelings to him, nobody told him 'you're acting like this or that you must be into him'. He felt what he felt, and yes he got a nudge from Paa's 4 signs, but he went on this journey of discovery on his own, he really sat with himself and worked it out, and thought it through. He went all the way back through their history and questioned what he felt and did even then. His realisation came from within, it wasn't something anybody pushed him to, not even Pran. It came straight from his own heart.
There's a line in Pran's perspective from the novel that I really love that sparked for me here: There were times when I looked at Pat's face while treating his wounds and wondered what he meant to me. Here, Pat is the one who is going on that journey of trying to figure out what Pran means to him, and he's doing it not because anybody pointed something out to him, but because he felt something within himself and chose to explore it rather than ignore it like he would have done before. And he doesn't really discuss it with anybody, not Paa, not Korn, not Ink. Even when they try to draw him out about what he's thinking he demurs. He doesn't want anybody else's voice in his head about this. There's going to be enough of that if what he discovers within himself is love, enough voices saying this and that. And because it's Pran, something in him knows that he has to be absolutely sure if this is the path he's going to take. He can't go into this on a whim or anything less than 100% certainty. Because once he makes that move there will be absolutely no turning back.
seize the chance | "requested" by anonymous
The "OH" Moment
"Whoever falls in love first loses' is not a bet when you've both been in love with each other since high school.
Why can’t I say it?
“You’re telling me right now!” BAD BUDDY (2021)
Pat, you’ve got to stop doing this to me. We are not a thing, we are not even friends. That’s right. How can we be friends when our parents despire one another. How can we be friends if we live next door to each other yet can’t even talk? How can we be friends if we have to compete against one another in everything? You know what? When you were away, I was so damn happy. I didn’t have to compete against you. I wasn’t being paranoid. I didn’t need to know what your GPA was. I didn’t need to know which sports you were involved in. But guess what?It was so depressingly loney for me. What we have now, what should we call it? If we’re not enemies, do you think we can be friends? Why? Do you want us to be friends? No. BAD BUDDY THE SERIES (2021)
Nanon’s acting in this scene was breathtaking.
The subtlety and nuanced approach he took to containing Pran’s sorrow and tears was incredible. He sustained Pran’s struggle to keep from crying and maintained his composure until the perfect moment.
The audience could see Pran struggling but Pat couldn’t and that was so believable. The tears are waiting to tumble from Pran’s eyes were there but were small enough for Pat to not notice, something that is amazing to see as a viewer.
There are so many layers to his performance as Pran, whether it’s his approach to the lines, the micro mannerisms and gestures he uses to show the audience how Pran is actually feeling.
This scene made the audience share in Pran’s pain, whether you wanted to or not. It wasn’t a question of feeling what Pran was feeling. Nanons performance immersed you in it and reached beyond the confines of the screen.
bonus: gotta poke the dimple
Me, whenever Ida speaks:
#RUNONWEEK | day two: harold…
Park Mae Yi
Seongyeom probably thought Mae Yi being asexual meant that she wouldn’t want to be in a romantic relationship. She identifies as asexual but she’s not aromantic. She is comfortable with romance and dating someone. She represents a wide range of the spectrum. Asexuality doesn’t mean just one thing. Sexuality is complex and personal and is different for everyone.
It stuck out to me that when they first met Ji Hyun asked Mae Yi if she was okay with dating men. Even though he fell in love with her at first sight he didn’t automatically assume that she would be straight or that she’d date him. He was considerate of her feelings and made her feel safe before he even knew her.
BL: Bad Buddy
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#just hypothetically married friends
(1), (2), (3), (4)
Have you not had a secret crush on anyone before?
No thoughts, just Pat looking at Pran like THAT.