I Find It Fascinating That People Who Choose Not To Have Children Are Generally Assumed To Feel Really

I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.

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9 years ago

Love hurts

You were a hunter who tended to expect the unexpected but even you didn't expect to see him after all this time. Castiel. You met Castiel years ago after Sam and Dean introduced you to each other and you had hit off right away. It was a while before the Angel admitted feeling something for you. You were together for a while before he ended it. You remember being devastated and hurt beyond repair as he told you he didn't want to be with you anymore, that it was interfering with his mission - you were interfering with his mission. It was totally unexpected so you hadn't been prepared for it. The hurt on your face must have shown because his eyes instinctively softened and he reached out to you but you ducked away from his touch and ran away. You hadn't seen him since. You never went back. You just left without a word, ditching your phones and cards so you couldn't be traced. You stopped praying and hunted alone. It happened at a bar. At first, you refused to date, refused to sleep with anyone else but over time you realized you couldn't put your life on hold anymore. Your relationship was over and you owed him nothing. You were free to do whatever or whoever you wanted. So you did. You always made sure it was only physical when you were with someone. When you arrived at the bar, you didn't bother to look around, choosing instead to walk up to the bar. The man behind the bar smiled. "What will it be sweetheart?" You smiled back. "Double vodka, please." The man turned his back to you to prepare your drink. "Comin right up." You felt a tap on your shoulder and turned around to see who it was. The guy was cute with dark hair and brown eyes. You gave a seductive smile. "See something you like cutie?" Surprisingly, the man blushed shyly. He gestured to the chair beside you. "May I?" Your smile softened. You loved a man with manners. "Sure." "What's your name? I'm Mike." "Y/N." "It's nice to meet you, Y/N." Castiel sighed for the hundredth time. He really didn't want to go to a bar and get 'laid' as Dean called it. He missed you. It had been about a year since he last saw you. He honestly hadn't expected you to run away and not come back but you had. After realizing he drove you away permanently, he did everything he could to find you so he could bring you back but he never did find you. Sam and Dean had tried to help but you were smart and ditched everything you had so you couldn't be found. The worst part was that you'd stopped praying to him. It left him feeling empty and lonely. His eyes swept the room and he froze, his blood ran cold. There sitting on a chair at the bar was you. And you were with another man. He watched as you smiled and laughed, your eyes soft. His heart sank and he stood there awkwardly not knowing what to do. This was the moment he had been waiting for but now that the moment was finally there he didn't know what to do. Dean stopped next to him. "Cas? What's wrong with you?" Castiel said nothing but pointed at you. They turned to look and were surprised to see you. "Y/N?" Sam whispered. Dean's eyes darkened in both anger and worry. Unfortunately, anger won out and Castiel wanted to hide as he stalked over to you. "Y/N!" You froze at the sound of a very familiar voice. You closed your eyes and hoped with everything you had that Castiel wasn't with him. Your heart sank when you saw your hope wasn't answered. You stiffened, causing Mike to look at you curiously. You turned to him and gave a fake smile. "Sorry to cut this short but I have to leave. I'll be here tomorrow though," you added hopefully. Mika chuckled and leaned in to kiss your cheek. "No problem. See you tomorrow." You watched as he left the bar before getting to your feet and walking past them impassively. You rolled your eyes as Dean grabbed you by the arm. "What?!" Dean's eyes narrowed dangerously. "What the hell were you thinking?! Leaving like that. You do realize we were looking for you for ages, right?" You shrugged. You didn't ask them to look. They should have known when Castiel told them what happened. That was why you hadn't felt guilty over it. "And what about Cas?" Your eyes hardened and you yanked your arm out of his grip. "What about him?" You sneered. "He was looking everywhere for you." You scoffed bitterly. "Really? I find that hard to believe. And even if he did I couldn't care less. What he does is not my problem. Not anymore." You gave one last cold look at him before storming out of the bar, leaving Dean confused. "Alright, spill it!" Dean barked at Castiel. The Angel looked anywhere but at him. "Spill what?" "Why did Y/N act like she was surprised we were looking for her? And why didn't she believe you were looking? She said she doubted it. What did she mean?" Castiel stayed silent. "Cas, man. We can't help you until you tell us what's going on," Sam said sympathetically. "I told her I didn't want to be with her anymore. I told her she was interfering with my mission. She ran away and I haven't seen her since," he admitted. Dean was furious. "Are you serious?! You said that? Well, no wonder she left and didn't wanna be found. This would have been good to know before." Castiel's head snapped up. "Why? So you could stop looking for her?" He demanded angrily. "You would have liked that, wouldn't you?" "I'M not the one that threw her away like trash!" Dean spat back. "I did it to protect her," Castiel argued weakly. Dean snorted. "Some protection. You DO realize for all we knew she could have been captured, tortured or killed by now. And all cause she ran away and we wouldn't have known." Castiel's jaw clenched but he didn't say anything. The older Winchester was right. He saw that now but it was too late. He didn't think you would take him back. Not now. He stepped back, his eyes glistening with unshed tears and he vanished without another word.

7 years ago

Castiel is not ignorant or stupid!!

Can someone please tell me why writers seem to like portraying Castiel out of character on Tumblr? The Angel has been around since mankind practically began and was stationed on Earth for about 2000 years - I’M PRETTY SURE HE KNOWS WHAT A VAGINA IS, AND SEX! He’s NOT ignorant or stupid. He’s shy, socially awkward, quirky, loyalty, trustworthy (most of the time), knowledgeable among other things. Thank you.

4 years ago

Rape Escape

Easy and very effective

Requires nothing but your body

Includes attack

9 years ago
I'm Proud To Be A Woman. Report If You Are.

I'm proud to be a woman. Report if you are.

8 years ago

Casgirl here

reblog if you're a Cas!girl

I feel lonely out here in this desert

2 years ago

Hi! To answer your question about why Rhaenyra didn't refuse Alicent's "request" (and Tumblr won't let me directly reply to you😤) Rhaenyra didn't want to give Alicent the satisfaction of refusing to see her, it's why she tried to refuse Laenor's help at first, she did not want Alicent to see her in pain.

Sorry. Only just saw this. Don't know why it won't let you reply to me.

9 years ago
Haha. Shame You Can't Actually Say It Though.

Haha. Shame you can't actually say it though.

2 years ago

the queen is dead, and bbc america is still playing star trek next gen reruns

tbh it would be even funnier if they switched over to chris eccleston's season of doctor who

1 year ago

IN THIS HOUSE, WE BELIEVE:

CHILDREN SHOULD HAVE RIGHTS

REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS ARE FOR EVERYONE

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN IMMIGRANT JUST A CITIZEN

SCIENCE CAN BE CRITICIZED

ALL PEOPLE ARE WORTHY OF LOVE

WE ARE VICTIMS OF OUR SOCIOECONOMIC CONDITIONS

pt: IN THIS HOUSE, WE BELIEVE: CHILDREN SHOULD HAVE RIGHTS REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS ARE FOR EVERYONE THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN IMMIGRANT JUST A CITIZEN SCIENCE CAN BE CRITICIZED ALL PEOPLE ARE WORTHY OF LOVE WE ARE VICTIMS OF OUR SOCIOECONOMIC CONDITIONS end/pt.

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