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tips for anxious tc'ers

having a tc is hard. eveyone knows the feeling of going blank when youre around your tc, or stumbling and choking on your words when you try to speak to them. so i decided to compile a list of tips that i have used that have worked for me (an extremely shy and awkward person) get close to my (extremely closed off/cold-ish) tc. if you're looking for ways to start a conversation with your tc and make that leap into a more casual relationship - read on.

these tips work well for when you're both online and on-campus :)

pets.

this is a very good way to talk to your tc when everyone is stuck at home during online school. how many times have you seen a dog running across the frame in your tc's class? or heard meows in the background? if this every happens, take the leap and ask your tc (preferably after class as not to derail) what their pets name is. when i did this my tc even she sent me some pictures! it's a great conversation starter and you can ask about the pet again in the future :)

casual segways.

this one is a little trickier and more nerve-wracking and it can be difficult depending on what class your tc teaches, but making the leap is really important. to do this, you have to first be having a class discussion in your tc's class. for example, one time we were learning about how different cultures celebrate christmas. so i casually asked L how she'd be celebrating and spending her holiday. this turned into a conversation and brought us slightly closer together. asking your tc personal questions related to what you're learning is great, it shows them you're interested in both them and the class and everybody loves talking about themselves.

joining/coming to class early for small talk.

i know everyone has sat and waited a couple minutes before joining a google meet so that they aren't alone with the teacher, but joining early when it's just the two of you can create some really good conversations. it's scary and you have to be quick, but joining quickly and giving a quick 'hi! how are you?' can create a friendly relationship between you. adding in a 'how was your weekend?' can create a great conversation as-well.

advice, questions, help.

this is an obvious one, but asking your tc for help or reaching out to them for guidance is a great way to talk to them. if you have assignments or assessments in their class, you can ask for advice or for them to check on your work. the worst part about this tip is actually coming up with a question to ask, lol. you can confirm due dates, clarify details, and ask a quedtion about what to do or how to do something.

compliments (within reason)

everyone likes getting complimented, and when we're online it can be a great way to lift up your tc's mood. i wouldn't go too far with compliments, i'd stick with things like 'i like your shirt' or "cool earrings!'. another great opportunity is complimenting your tc if they get a new haircut or change something about their appearance. one time, my tc got bangs and i complimented her. this became a conversation and that was one of the first times i really spoke to her! and if you're worried about being weird or obvious, there have been countless times when ive complimented other teachers on their jewelery or clothes. its alwayd been recieved well.

speak up!

keeping engaged and active during a class is really difficult to do, especially whenever we're online. a good way to create a good relationship with your tc is engaging in their class! obviously, dont be obnoxious or rude, but answering questions and making jokes can be a great way to liven up a lesson. if your tc asks 'how are you guys' in your class and nobody says anything, take the leap and answer! it can be awkward and really scary, but trust me it's worth it. don't let your tc's questions go unanswered.

Everything I do, I wonder what you’d think about it.

“In my memory, it doesn’t end. We just stay there, looking at each other, forever.”

— John Green / Paper Towns

We need updates?! Did you meet her before going to uni?

ok so i know it’s been like 3 months sorry !!! but i did meet her and we just had a really long conversation , i don’t really remember the details of it

i’ve moved countries now but i’m coming home next week for a good while for christmas, i plan to see her at some point then

we have emailed pretty frequently since i moved and some of the stuff she sends me is so cute (also she’s started signing her emails with her first name and now her nickname 🥹)

“I am nothing in my soul if not obsessive.”

— Donna Tartt, The Secret History

she doesn’t even have kids but j is such a MILF

the feminine urge to only study to make her proud

how do u guys deal with the guilt ? sometimes i feel like i make him so uncomfortable and that’s the last thing i ever wanna do.

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imagine …

your tc marking an essay or test and smiling softly at the doodles and drawings you did out of boredom

choosing to mark your work first, so you get it earlier, or last, just to annoy you

your tc immediately recognising your handwriting and admiring it because it’s just so you

being SO. PROUD. when you get a good grade if you were struggling, even in another subjects

hearing you defend him/her in passing conversation with friends, and defending you if another teacher complains about you

your tc understanding stress and being chill about it, extending due dates etc because they want you to focus on your health

your tc admiring you while you’re in your element (besides their subject) like singing/art/etc

your tc looking at you with a smile and fighting the urge to wave as you pass their classroom without realising

noticing when you get a haircut or when you wear a new outfit/accessory to school

him/her letting you off with a warning about dress codes bc you kinda just rock it

your tc cheering just a little louder when you receive an award or achievement

a small part of him/her hoping its you visiting their office when they hear the familiar knock at the door

your tc giving you That look when people are being dumb and not paying attention in class because they kinda just wanna sit and teach you

yr welcome ( ♥︎ω♥︎)੭ꠥ⁾⁾˚ ⁺˳✧༚

Temple of Vesta, Tivoli, Italy