The Most Annoying Thing I’ve Been Told As Neurodivergent Is „you Can’t Do This, Just Because You

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Каждый день я просыпаюсь и я не знаю, что я буду чувствовать, как я буду себя вести, что я смогу сделать, насколько я в принципе буду функциональна. Я никогда не чувствую, будто контролирую себя, свою жизнь. Я чувствую себя призраком, иногда я забываю, что я существую, и о боже, как легко это было бы! Забыть! Я мечтаю об этом! Я не имею никакого контроля, всё что со мной происходит никогда не моя заслуга или даже вина! Это просто случается! Я не человек, я ничего не делаю! Я просто наблюдаю! Поэтому каждый раз когда у меня спрашивают, что будешь делать в будущем, я не знаю! Почему ты говоришь это так, будто я выбираю! Я никогда ничего не выбираю, никогда ничего не контролирую, как я могу знать что случится! Я просто хочу чтобы я снова могла делать то, что хочу, чтобы я была способна подумать «я сделаю это и это» и потом сделать это и это! Я даже не хочу контроля над тем, что происходит вокруг, я только хочу контроль над собой! Я хочу почувствовать себя настоящей, как будто я человек, а не как грёбаный зомби!

he's doing great

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

i just learned that noelle used to be smaller than kris. microscopic

Im getting into parkour civilisation and it’s PEAK

Also memes are funny

found this one image and it reminded me of evbo

My theory of adhd management is that in order to focus there are 4 things that need to be sufficiently occupied:

Eyes

Ears

Hands (or body)

Brain

And if you aren’t occupying them enough or there’s too many things demanding the use of one, it’ll start to wreck havoc on your ability to do things.

So for example, listening to a podcast. This occupies your ears and brain as you focus on both listening and processing what you hear, but it leaves your hands and eyes completely without anything to do. If you tried to sit down and just listen to a podcast by itself you’d probably get unbearably bored and stop doing it.

But if you pair that activity with something that uses your hands and eyes, like a craft, household chore, or commute, suddenly you’re fully plugged in and can in fact focus better on both tasks than you could if you tried doing them separately.

It’s also why you can’t listen to a podcast while doing homework; you’re trying to use your brain for two different tasks. To occupy your ears while doing homework (which is already using eyes, brain, and hands) you need something for your ears that doesn’t require your brain: music. Specifically music that doesn’t use too much brain power, which is why some people prefer instrumentals or songs in other languages.

Hyperfixation and sensory overload change this by moving the threshold for how much sensory input you need to be able to function. If I’m extremely focused on a craft project (eyes, hands, brain) I might not even need something for my ears; my interest in the project makes up for it. If i’ve had a very overwhelming day, trying to listen to an audiobook while I do some stretches could be too much to process. My brain needs a break.

Video games, which pretty much universally occupy all 4 areas, are basically instant, easy focus wrapped up in a neat little bow. No wonder adhd-havers tend to love them.

If you’re struggling with a task, try looking at which areas it occupies and which are left unattended. Then try to find something enjoyable to fill those gaps, and see if that helps.

Do you think Evbo learned how to do those jumps and thought "oh this is so sick what's the best way I can show off my parkour skills"