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SEVENTEEN (세븐틴) ‘Ready to love’ - OT13

Y’all ever play night in the woods man, that shit is, oh god, that shit is, fuck, that shit is, man that shit is...*sobs*

broo every heist movie got someone they refer to as the “kid” cause he’s like the nerdy one meant to do the nerdy shit and then you google the actor and they’re like 40

It's tough being a queer Christian because you have one vocal minority within Christiandom that wants to condemn you to hell and treat you like you don't understand your religion and on the other side you have another vocal minority of queers treating you like you are incompetent at best and a traitor and evil incarnate at worst. It's the wick burning at both ends of the candlestick.

oh butter FUCKS. this is so groovy!!

Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Hello! I thought I would compile a list of healthy coping mechanisms for you all, but I also thought I would explain what coping mechanisms are and why we need them.

Just a disclaimer before I get started: I am a first year psychology student, I don’t know everything but I do know some and I have made sure to do my research before making this post.

What Exactly Is A Coping Mechanism?

By definition, provided by the APA, a coping mechanism is any conscious or nonconscious adaptation that helps decrease tension and anxiety in a stressful situation. In other words, a coping mechanism is a skill or strategy to help alleviate your stress or anxiety.

Coping mechanisms are linked to coping behavior and coping strategies.

However, one thing to note is that not all coping skills will work for you. The effectiveness of a coping skill is dependent on a few factors: the situation or the circumstances; the type of stress you are under; and you, the individual.

Why Are Coping Mechanisms Important?

They are not only important but necessary in order to help alleviate stress. Coping strategies also give an individual some sort of control in a given situation. If an individual does not know how to cope or they do not have coping strategies, it could lead to them hurting themself because they cannot process what they are going through. They may find ways to cope that are harmful to them because they don’t know how to manage the situation they are in. 

Example: an underage person begins drinking alcohol regularly to cope with their depression.

Also, having healthy coping strategies means that you realize the problem, and you want to fix it. So you’re taking active steps towards that.

What Are Some Types Of Coping Strategies?

Emotion-focused

Centers around the management of the emotions that accompany an individual’s stress

Problem-focused

Centers around gathering information about the source of one’s stress and then learning new skills to adapt to the problem.

Appraisal-focused

Centers around an individual changing the way they think

There are more but these are the main 3. 

Examples of Maladaptive (bad) Coping Strategies:

Substance use

Self-harm

Eating when you’re stressed

Avoidance

Lack of sleep or sleeping too much

Procrastination

Isolating oneself

Self-deprecating humor

Trying to escape the problem

Examples of Adaptive (good) Coping Strategies:

This is probably the part everyone has been waiting for but I wanted to do some explaining rather than just giving you all a list of good coping skills. 

Emotion-Focused:

Call or text a friend

Journaling

Write a letter to the person(s) who is upsetting you but never send it. You can do whatever you like with it afterward.

Breathing techniques (e.g.,  breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds; breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, breathe out for 8 seconds)

Appraisal-Focused: 

Write down 2-3 things you like about yourself and/or your situation, once in the morning and once at night. Or whenever you need to.

Write down positive or motivational quotes and stick them in places frequently go or look

Counteract every negative thought with a positive thought. 

Other:

Go for a walk

Do something creative (e.g., draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc.)

Blow bubbles (it may seem silly but it works!)

Read

Exercise or any other kind of physical activity

Puzzles (any kind, but personally I like ones that make me think!)

Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.

Trying to make a point to my father.

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

You are the dancing queen, young and sweet, now in quarantine

i made a quiz: what does your soul smell like? (friendship/ relationship compatibility in the results!)

which time of the day are you 🌙✨ 

pink in the night

These will make you smile for sure. 

Source: @watercatlor

new aesthetic: no academia

-ignoring google classroom notifications

-wearing the same grey sweatshirt for days on end

-your notebooks sit in a pile on your desk, staring at you mockingly. you tried to study a couple days ago, to no avail.

-awkward silence that hangs like a fog on the zoom call

-your teacher emails you asking why you didn’t complete the assignment

-forgetting to shower

-pressure from teachers to be productive and maximize your time in quarantine, but all you can manage to do is stare at your phone for hours every day

-the isolation is driving you mad. it feels like a middle school summer again.

Everything is The Good Place and nothing hurts. 

since i only ever send rick rolls to ppl i figured id just post one for all my followers for april fools day this year to save myself the effort

happy april fools y’all

forgive yourself. whether you fail a test, eat too many cookies, say the wrong thing, fail a class, or spend a whole day in bed — learn to forgive yourself. the next day will be better. the next day will be a day closer to your next success. you can do it.

oh u haven’t heard?? it’s all gonna be ok

Everyone’s quarantined but it’ll just be another day on the island.

it’s the first friday the 13th of the decade

twice x mv solo concepts concept                 －⟨ genre / halloween / superpower / film ⟩