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This is a new alternate blog started because Tumblr has designated my original “The Hotwife Blog” as explicit, thus almost everything I post is flagged/removed unless it’s extremely tame.

This blog is about the Hotwife phenomenon. I began researching the subject many years ago seeking to understand what about a Hotwife was so sexually exciting, and if I was crazy for wanting my wife to be one. Was there something screwed up in my head, that my wife having sex with other men turns me on? At the time I had no idea there was even a term for my fantasy. I found out that not only is it the most common fantasy men have, but it is also a lifestyle that is much more mainstream than I ever imagined. I also found a lot of confusion and conflicting information.There are a lot of wife sharing lifestyles, many of which overlap or share some of the same basic ideas, but too often the Hotwife lifestyle and cuckold lifestyle are depicted as being one in the same. In actuality they are very different. Unfortunately, Tumblr is probably the worst offender at spreading misinformation. It is full of captioned photos linking cuckolding and Hotwifing. Not to mention most of these photos are of young women with perfect little bodies fucking hot young guys with big cocks, which doesn’t represent reality for most people. Add to that captions saying something to the effect of how the husband is a sissy and needs to lick the cum off her when she gets home, and you can get a really distorted view. I understand these are fantasies, but anyone looking for information about the lifestyle, especially women, could be immediately turned off before having a chance to explore the true lifestyle. I hope to clarify the classic Hotwife lifestyle with this blog. The following is a compilation of information gathered from across the Internet along with my own experiences and preferences. Hopefully, for anyone who happens to stumble across it, this blog will give a little clarification into this quickly growing phenomenon.

First let’s define the Hotwife. A “Hotwife” is a happily married woman who has the freedom to have sex with other men with both the permission and encouragement of her husband. However, while the wife is free to play with others, the husband remains completely monogamous to her. The husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits. The wife’s sexual pleasure should not be confused with romantic feelings for her sex partners. The other men just are sexual adventures, she loves her husband and both spouses understand the distinction between love and sex.

The hotwife shouldn’t be confused with other forms of wife sharing lifestyles including swinging and the aforementioned cuckolding. Swingers are typically couples that enjoy having sex with other couples, so both the husband and wife have sex with different partners. The term “cuckolding” is tossed around quite a bit these days and while “Hotwife” is often used synonymously with the term “Cuckoldress” within that lifestyle, it is a different idea. Cuckolding, while also wife-centric, focuses on demeaning and abusive behavior towards a submissive husband whom usually considers himself sexually inadequate. Where Hotwifing could be considered the polar opposite of cuckolding. It focuses on the wife’s experiences. Hotwives and their husbands are motivated by the sexual thrill, for its own sake. The exhilaration she gets having sex with other men and knowing that this excites her husband. Humiliation has no part in it. Recently the term Stag, for the husband, and Vixen, for the wife, have starting to be used to further define this lifestyle and distance it from Cuckolding.

Clearly, the Hotwife concept is at odds with cultural conditioning and human tendencies toward jealousy and possessiveness, so it’s no surprise most wives are shocked to learn of their husband’s desire. At the same time, most husbands wouldn’t allow their wives to become Hotwives. Although they may entertain these thoughts in fantasies; possessiveness, jealousy and cultural conditioning ultimately prevail. However, we know that some husbands seem to handle this without ill effects on the relationship. The jealousy often still exists, but comes out in their sexual excitement, rather than through fear or anger. And some husbands seem to just be immune to jealousy, either by virtue of their own personality, or by their confidence in the security of their relationship and the love they share with their wives. Surprising to most people, couples that participate in the Hotwife lifestyle aren’t unhappily married couples that have fallen out of love and are just looking for a way to fuck around. In most cases, the couples have been together for a very long time and are very much in love. They still have great sex just maybe not as often as they would like. By exploring this lifestyle they experience more physical and emotional intimacy and end up having better sex, having it more often and being more adventurous when they do it. That being said, these types of relationships are not for everybody. Many couples may dip their toes into these waters, and yanked them out again, because of jealousy and fear. Furthermore, if you have an unhealthy relationship, venturing into the lifestyle is just asking for trouble.

So why would a husband who truly loved his wife want to see her with another man? There are many answers and it varies from husband to husband. I think most are voyeuristic in nature, but the underlying answer is that it’s his love and deep emotional connection with his wife that’s at the core. It’s his wife having sex with others that excites him; not strangers having sex with which he has no emotional connection. He gets turned on seeing his wife excited and feeling free, in the throes of passion achieving greater sexual pleasure through the attentions of more than one man. It makes her more appealing and naughty, basically letting her inner slut out.

So why would a wife who truly loves her husband want have sex with other men? As with the husband, there can be many reasons. For some, they like feeling desired or they may enjoy being seduced. Others may simply enjoy the opportunity for sexual variety, the excitement of new sexual experiences, the “forbidden” nature of what she’s doing and knowing that it excites her husband. In many cases it improves relationships communication and intimacy, as well as, supercharging her sex life with their husband. Some women may immediately embrace the opportunity for sexual freedom, but most will take some time to weigh how it will affect her marriage and your feelings toward her. Many wives will suspicious that you have some ulterior motive… that its just a ploy for you to later say that since she is fucking other guys, that you should be able to fuck other women too. In this case, it will take time for her to truly believe that this is not your desire. It should be noted that, of course, many wives are not interested in becoming Hotwives, even though she may enjoy sex and may have had numerous sexual partners before marriage, and may even enjoy Hotwire role play, actually being a Hotwife is just not something she will ever be comfortable with. In this situation the husband should not push his wife into doing anything she doesn’t want to do. If for no other reason than it defeats the idea of the fantasy, but more importantly it will most likely damage your relationship.

Hotwifing has several levels of involvement by the husband. The arrangement between each husband and wife will be specific to them depending on the couple and what they prefer. There are no set rules; it depends entirely on the partners to set the boundaries and limitations. The wife may meet other men alone. The husband may never know or meet the other men. She meets them on her own, and makes all the arrangements without any involvement from her husband. The other men may or may not know about her lifestyle, or be aware that the husband knows about them. They may not even know she is married, if she chooses to remove her rings and pretend to be single. Sometimes both the husband and wife meet men together. The husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for the wife to meet her “dates”, but the husband is not involved in any sexual activities between the wife and the other men. Other wives will have sexual relations with other men in her husband’s presence, or even engaging in sexual play that involves all three, as part of threesome where she first has sex with the other men and then her husband, or both with her at once. Whatever the level of involvement, the husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits, whether this happens with his direct involvement or with him just watching or hearing her recount later when she returns home from a date.

The rest of this blog consist of a collection of inspirational images collected from across the web that I believe embodies the true spirit of the Hotwife/Vixen lifestyle.

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Suggestive Dirty Talk Options

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie playing. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.

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An open letter to my Wife and all other Ladies

If your man has had the courage to tell you that he wants you to fuck other men, stop tormenting yourself with the morality of the situation and worrying about whether he loves you, or if this is a ploy for him to have sex with other women. If he is like the other 99% of us who have had the “talk”, then what he wants is for you to experience pleasure and for you to share that pleasure with him in some way.

Each of us are different, pleasure for me is not humiliation, it’s the raw sexual ecstasy that I want her to feel. The thought of watching her pussy stretch around a very hard, thick cock, and makes my cock throb, my breath short, and my lust intense. I can almost feel the pleasure that she would experience between her legs, almost as if my cock were her pussy. I assure you, wives and girlfriends, that this request by your man is an act of love and admiration and is staunchly centered around his lust for ONLY you. In fact most men who want this, rarely fantasize about anyone else but you. You are the center of their sexual fantasies and desires. You will not be “unfaithful” by carrying out this act of love for your husband/boyfriend. Faithfulness is what is in the heart, not a physical act. The words “slut” and “whore” are often used by him referring to you in a loving way…this is what he wants you to be, at least in our secret sexual world (none of your friends and family need to know). The idea of you being promiscuous serves to heighten his desire for you a great deal.

So please, whisper in his ear that you are ready to become a slut for him. Tell him that you want your pussy to be fucked and filled with cum while he watches and then you want him to slide his cock into you and deposit his own load into his little slutty whore. Do it for him, do it for you, free yourself and your sexual desires. You’ll never turn back and wonder why you took so long to get there!

I would love to hear your thoughts ladies and hubbies/boyfriends!

I want catch my wife doing this........that will be best day of my life