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Will Smith Barred From Attending Any Academy Events for 10 Years

“During our telecast, we did not adequately address the situation in the room,” the Academy said in an open letter.

Welp, so much for the prediction that he and Chris could host within a few years as the ultimate Oscars gimmick.

Two genuine apologies and he resigned from the academy. But it's just not enough for these people.

All his projects are on hold. Deals are on hold. Now he can't attend the Oscars for ten years.

I've never witnessed anyone in Hollywood actually be punished by Hollywood until now.

Shame comes from hiding the human's natural state (another talk on polarity)

There are no "decent" human beings. Everybody has skeletons in their closet they're hoping somebody else will accept and that is most likely the person they will enter into a romantic relationship with - somebody who accepts them. If you are attracted to scum, you are latent scum. You will always be attracted to the dark side you suppress (unconsciously) and think that person is just charming/unique when you're really looking at you. I am especially wary of those who never point out their own flaws - this is somebody who is likely attracted to narcissists because they have latent narcissistic traits in them - these are people who are riddled with shame, anxiety and low self-esteem. There are no books, therapy or meds that can help with your consciousness other than facing the truth of reality.

Those who call themselves a certain label are telling you who they are - with every label they have the capacity to become the adversary of that label. So if somebody is vocal about being anti-abortion, they also have pro-abortion ideologies and vice versa. This is with every label; everybody has the capability to be both, one or neither positions at any point in their life because they will naturally want to experience that state of being once they're satisfied with their conclusion of one aspect. There are even states of duality and non-duality because that is also a polarization we can believe in. Consequently, becoming anything will make you appear as "bad" in somebody's eyes, even if you are neutral which is now considered "supporting evil." Balance and compromise are what is actually "evil" You either chose one side or opt out of that world completely and accept that. 50:50-ing yourself throughout your life isn't a way to live and only causes more mental fragmentation.

Somebody who calls herself heterosexual but is actively suppressing her attraction to males because of her “beliefs” is highly likely to end up with a male because her attention is overwhelmingly on her attraction to males. Same with women whose entire identity is being attracted to women they will end up with the "one exception male" at some point in their life which is what the discourse about what a "real lesbian" is about. This is what happens when you pay attention to something: by law, your attention naturally flows to both polarizations of the aspect you are fixated on and it's in human nature to explore both sides. I can see that this post is my mirror, why can't other people see it as theirs? There is where blinders like being male-minded, having autism and following religion make their grand entrance to capitalize on a population who is completely unaware. The fingers you point are pointing back at you so you can learn from them.

This is why I place emphasis on being neutral because you can only become conscious through neutrality and acceptance of both sides of the truth. This is why you seemingly can't get a straight answer from spiritualists, they're not about to mess up their own neutralized state to validate a belief you'll go to the polarizing end of in a year. You're supposed to be in a state of non-resistance/fluidity, but since most people won't look at the whole truth, they become sick and stagnant.

Most people are unconscious, so they reveal their true intentions in everything they say even if they are unaware of it. Everything you are drawn to is a reflection of you because you want to understand this aspect of yourself further. Once you've embodied the truth, everybody becomes transparent; when they talk about what they hate, you can also see what they love. Most people's shadow is that they are really happy with the way the world is, so they will continue it. Since most of them are in denial that they have a part in the world they've created, they'll continue to suffer from mental illnesses and other diseases. There is no need to expend energy on saving them - they've chosen to do what they want.

Trauma is based on a similar polarizing concept: if you are scared of being abandoned, other people's actions will overwhelmingly be placed under the perception of you being abandoned. Holding on to the pain of an event you were supposed to learn from doesn't do anything but get you addicted to that pain and identify with it. As a result, you will become abusive to demonstrate how much pain you're in. Unconscious or mentally ill people are dangerous and it's all due to the shame of their true Self. Those who are addicted to pain are dead inside and continue to engage in dangerous situations and perceive hostility where there is none because it re-opens their wounds. Most people do not believe they can neutralize trauma and renew their minds, so they won't. The only cure for this is unconditional acceptance.

Those who are upfront about holding two perspectives at once or do not care about appearing hypocritical are the most balanced, aware and honest people because every truth does have two sides to it if you believe in polarity/duality or complexity in general. Anybody pushing only one side of the truth has an agenda or is an unconscious follower because there will always be an exchange no matter what path you choose to follow.

Next time someone tells you women are meant to have children blah blah blah have them look up what a placenta is. We are so misinformed about the female body that despite most of us hearing that word before, we don’t really think about its role. The placenta is built by the embryo (not the mother) to essentially hide itself from the mother. Because otherwise she would KILL IT. It’s a foreign body with half of another person’s genetic code. Also we all have heard about the hormone HCG but most of us hear of it in regards to pregnancy tests and not the fact that it forces the mother’s uterus to start secreting a protein to feed the embryo. With every pregnancy, the fetus and mother are in competition. The fetus wants to grow and the mother tries to protect herself and not DIE. we are capable of pregnancy, we have the organs necessary to birth new life. This does NOT mean our organs are for anyone but ourselves. Every part of you is there FOR YOU. Regardless of what anyone might say. Don’t be ashamed of not wanting children. Don’t feel like a broken woman for not being able to have children. Don’t let anyone tell you your sexuality is wrong because it doesn’t result in offsprings.

a couple years ago the eric carle museum of picture book art had an exhibit on diane & leo dillon who are responsible for so many iconic illustrations. i went back twice just to see the collection again. this is a sliver of their work— it’s hard to find high res images.

I’ve been trying this out and it’s been quite helpful 🤗

“Some people are offended by raw natural beauty–by a woman being grounded in her body and undulating around life feeling beautiful without much effort or fuss. Since Ancient times, women have danced as a sign of belonging to Earth and made the world a more beautiful place for us all. Our ancestors were the ones who cultivated the superpower of natural beauty in the sacred feminine and it was used to defeat negative energy. Therefore do not secretly hate the lighthearted, the innocent, the erotic, or the playful. Like a wildflower, admire and gaze upon, but don’t ruin things for everyone by plucking and pulling it out of the ground. The organs of humankind benefit from seeing more natural beauty emanate.”

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India Ame’ye Author (via eatmangoesnekkid) 

Opening to “Cultivating Natural Beauty” Chapter (Unedited)

It was Abrahamic religion who taught us to be suspicious of the natural beauty of the sacred feminine ( (a deeply necessary energetic frequency that is part of earth and part of us all) , to fear it to bring temptation to “holy men.” This kind of woman who walked relaxed with her sex all the way out in front of her was ridiculed and punished by other patriarchal-infested women who felt threatened by the power of her beauty and unapologetically attractive, sensuous nature. She was akin to the devil and this kind of ignorance still lives in our subconscious, especially in the cells of women, and inhibits us from truly desiring to cultivate our natural beauty because we do not want to be hurt.

Cold climates lacked warm sun which meant that they were also devoid of sensuous and primal erotic power. They were the same places and spaces where the lack and scarcity principles around beauty and sex were born. In cold systems, cultivating natural beauty was never priority–these people were just trying to survive brutal weather, so of course, they didn’t respect natural beauty nor did they have the ease, resources, vitality, or desire to cultivate it.  By the way, the sun is the greatest resource there is, even greater than fiat currency because it raises one’s magnetism for multidimensional creativity. Abrahamic religion saw beauty as unnecessary, frivilous, and even dangerous, but it was the ancestors of darker warmer people, whether African, Asian, etc. who took the Oracle of beauty very seriously by caring deeply for themselves (their cells) and  adorning themselves accordingly.

When you take time to cultivate your natural beauty, you are arriving back home to your most potent and truthful essence and getting beyond the disembodiment traumas of our collective existence. When we begin to take 100 percent responsibility for our bodies, it bleeds over into feeling empowered enough to take 100 percent responsibility for our nutrition and wellness. This doesn’t mean that uou can’t wear designer labels, lipstick or whatever. You can, of course. But the aim is for it to become a pattern for you to be connected to your natural body that you begin emanate more naturally.

Let’s take the lips for example. To create a value system where it becomes habit to nurture your lips underneath your lipstick is incredible potency not just for your face but for your health. I mean, to truly love on and care for lips and not just cover them up with chemicals while scrolling on the internet, but desiring to take time to build a relationship with them, discover natural ways you can make them healthier and feel more luxurious to your own eye, so that your loving most truthful essence can proceed you where ever you land in the world. Building a relationship with every area of your body favorably impacts every area of your life. It’s all connected.

(via eatmangoesnekkid)

I wonder if cis people ever step back and think about just how much trans people have to spend just to live a happier life. I wonder if they realize just how many trans people live poor/live in poverty because they have to juggle between everyday expenses and the expense that being trans is. And that's the expense left if your insurance is "kind" enough to even try covering your healthcare if you need medical care in regards to being trans.

Virgins and heroes: The socialization of women thru literature.

In early 1970s romance novels, no sometimes meant yes and a rapist could figure as a hero. And if you are in your middle ages, this is what planted in your mind those sexual scripts of "rape fantasy'. The Hallmark Channel only makes it softer.

Forty years ago public discussion was just beginning about equality in the workplace, domestic violence, sexual harassment, reproductive rights and other issues affecting women. Romance novelists quickly joined the discussion, grappling with these same issues through the lens of love.

Heather has no understanding of her sexuality and no power of consent. She has two bad choices: First, she can either be raped or kill her sexual aggressor; later, when Brandon rapes her, she can resist or learn to love her rapist. From this unpromising beginning, romance narratives quickly shifted in their exploration of women’s sexuality and the nature of consent.

In early 1970s romance novels “no” sometimes meant “yes” and a rapist could figure as a hero. By the end of the 1970s “no” meant “no” and a rapist could no longer fill the hero slot.

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— p. 3-4 of the Introduction to A Passion For Friends: Toward a Philosophy of Female Affection by Janice Raymond

“Women together are not women alone.”