I Just Had An Idea. What If Damian Met Tim During The Time He Was Training With Lady Shiva? I’m Like

i see no cons.

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This post is for ladies only. If you are a guy, GET out of here.

I bestow upon you this dagger. It is an ancient dagger. Use it wisely.

uh huh. I'm delusional. and we definitely did NOT read the same comics. because that was indeed abuse. that was verbal abuse.

damian took every oppurtunity he had to insult and demean tim. he did this specifically to tim, with the intention of causing him harm. that is abuse.

(please note that I am talking about Early Damian. like, when he first arrived at the manor. he character developed After This. this is even pre-damian-becoming-Robin.)

Damian Abused Tim and None of Yall are Talking About It

First of all, let’s define an abusive relationship. Okay? “Abuse” is not characterized by- say it with me now- age, gender, strength/size or otherwise more “common” depictions of an abusive relationship. “Abuse” is characterized by a- say it with me now- POWER IMBALANCE. Got it? Good.

Now, let’s examine Damian and Tim’s relationship to see if there’s a power imbalance with one simple question. Do they both have the power to redefine this relationship? In the case of Tim and Damian, the answer is no. An immediate follow-up to this question should be: who has the power to redefine the relationship? The answer is the more powerful side of the power imbalance, or, more often than not, the abuser. In the case of Tim and Damian, Damian is the one with the power to redefine the relationship. 

Why? Because a), both Tim and Damian’s adults (Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick) are unwilling to balance the relationship (giving them both consequences for cruelty, no favoritism, etc.), b), Damian does not accept anything Tim says- if Tim is polite, he’s being patronizing/condescending and it’s his fault, if Tim’s rude he’s being cruel/unfair and it’s his fault, if Tim’s indifferent he’s being cold/unfair and it’s his fault- as a genuine effort on Tim’s part, meaning only Damian has the power to change their dynamic.

Just because Damian is younger than Tim does not mean that Damian is incapable of being abusive towards Tim. It reminds me of a dynamic in which the “softer” one, e.g. a wife or in this case, a younger sibling, is abusing the “tougher” one, e.g. a husband or an older sibling, and the victim of the abusive is not believed because the “softer” one obviously can’t be an abuser. By excusing Damian’s actions you are practicing abuse apologism. This is Very Fucked Up and it is Not Okay. Just because DC seems to think it is okay and the majority of the fandom brushes past it, it does NOT MEAN that it is not abuse apologism.

I am not blaming Damian for any of this. No one has ever bothered to explain to him that his actions are wrong or explain why they are wrong. However, that does not absolve him of responsibility. Responsibility is not the same thing as blame. In this case, responsibility means an actual, genuine apology on Damian’s part. Responsibility means acknowledging it was wrong of him to abuse Tim, it means an actual change in behavior going forward, and, specifically for Damian, it probably includes therapy. 

Abuse apologism is not okay. I need people to understand that Damian was abusing Tim. There is no excusing or sugarcoating it. Damian. Abused. Tim. I need people to understand that. Yes, Damian can accept responsibility (and the ADULTS- Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick- need to accept the blame) but that does not change the fact that in the beginning, He Abused Tim. Yes, Damian can (and should) make a change, and that change should be reflected in his characterization, but if one were to write him in the BEGINNING he would still be abusing Tim. I am not demonizing him by writing this. This is not me bashing on the character. This is me defining his canonical behavior. This is me telling you all that Damian was entitled and spoiled and rude and cruel and ABUSIVE.

I need you to understand this.

I think more people need to be okay with disliking characters purely because of vibes. Like no, it’s not because I’m biased towards my favorite character. It’s not because the character I dislike did some horrible despicable thing. I just think if I met this character IRL their personality would make me want to go jump off a cliff bc they genuinely just bother me so much. And it’s just because they have Bad Vibes.

reading teen titans 2003 fills me with unimaginable rage and i can’t articulate it but i feel like all the characters are just slightly… off. especially coming from YJ 1998. and i just??? it fills me with such RAGE. like towards the characters.

wdym cassie thought that tim was “on a trip with batman”??? huh??? was that not his RR year? year hell? huh??????? and bart is so serious. bsfr. that is not bart. and conner is just- ugh.

what the fuck even was teen titans 2003. and then damian shows up and its weird???

for some reason everyone is an asshole like- i’m fine with jason and i KNOW what happens when he returns. but watching it play out? he is a BASTARD. kill him. kill him with fire.

and i forgot how much of a BRAT damian was. wdym this is robin? light and joy and comfort? that is not robin. that is an assassin in a vigilante’s suit who thinks he’s entitled to things he is not, in fact, entitled to. why is he even at titan’s tower? he does not belong there. he does not- he- i- blegh. (he shouldnt even be robin but that’s an essay for another time)

and tim and damian interacting! what. damian is both too rude and too nice and its WEIRD. bc at this point was damian not still literally verbally abusing tim? (it was abuse. there is no other descriptor. they weren’t getting into fights, damian was abusing tim verbally and at one point physically. genuinely if you think damian’s general behavior was excusable at all do not interact with me because that is straight up abuse apologism and i will NOT-)

i just- i-

what. what was that?

i dont know the general opinion of it. but i just. it fills me with anger. everyone is weird and icky and ever so slightly ooc (everyone from yj 1998 at least.)

there's this one tim drake dimension travel fic where he gets yeeted to a dimension with a better batfam by mr. mxypltzk (how tf do you spell that) and bart and kon come with him. i remember specifically there's this one scene where tim is practicing in the batcave and the alternate batfam are just... appalled by the amount of force he's using. because they Don't Do That in their dimension.

AND I CAN'T FUCKING FIND IT. I CAN'T FIND THE FIC. IT BRINGS ME GREAT PAIN.

reblogging because i am both experiencing menstrual pain and suffering a really fucking bad headache. take that elon.

reblog to give your headache to elon musk instead

crazy how fanfic authors drop the most beautiful and gorgeous pieces of work ever, leaving you speechless and sobbing at three in the morning as you quietly contemplate the masterpiece you just read

and they don’t get paid for it they just do it because they’re having fun and they want to share their joy with you

like I would literally die for all of you fanfic authors out there reblog to swear your allegiance to fanfic authors

once i got this on a chatfic. a chatfic. yeah, it was a really emotional storyline, it was six idiots insulting each other over text while being incredibly gay.

Heads up everyone, there's a new scam in town!

(Or perhaps an old one and I am late to the party)

Reasons it is a scam:

1) long, but doesn't reference the fic or characters at all

2) wants money - and will only communicate through dms, they don't have a public profile with proof of their work

And finally!

3) I googled this copy paste text and... suprise! It is a copy paste text. Loads of other people have the same ask

Stay safe and don't fall for this all!

this!!!

Calling a canon bisexual woman a lesbian becuase she has a female love interest or is in a wlw relationship is bisexual erasure and biphobic!!!!

remember that time YJ saved the pope?