I Really Think We Should All Outgrow Once And For All The Idea That A Character Making A Dumb Decision

domestic/relationship situation prompts that make my heart warm:

building a new piece of furniture from a flat pack together

baking a new recipe together

playing a competitive video game together (may i suggest mariokart)

painting their nails 

bringing them their favourite hot drink in bed

reading to them late into the night

sleeping in and cuddling the entire morning

going clothes shopping and trying on outfits for an event they’ll be attending together

preparing/packing for and going on a picnic 

doing laundry

making them tea/coffee (exactly how they like it)

saying goodbye over and over because they keep forgetting things and coming back

leaving notes for them around the home

repairing a broken appliance 

changing the bedsheets

exercising together

deep cleaning the home

deciding what takeout to order

bingeing an entire season of a trashy reality show in one sitting together

reorganising the bookshelf

listening to them rant

running them a bath with their favourite products 

covering them with a blanket when they’ve fallen asleep on the couch

going grocery shopping together (+ bonus: putting away the groceries)

dancing in the kitchen whilst cooking dinner

encouraging them to finally buy that thing they definitely deserve to treat themselves to

fixing their hair/clothes just before they rush out the door

getting the giggles together over something that isn’t that funny

swapping gifts for a holiday

brushing their teeth together 

Admiring himself

(via)

a comic about friends

in preschool someone read us the story of the red oni and the blue oni and it still gets to me a little

hey, hi, hello! this is my first self help masterpost which i made bc i was supposed to me studying bc who cares if i fail my exams ur mental nd physical well being is worth more and if you see this then ur worth everything and i love you a lot and hope this masterpost helps you find your way <3

dealing with depression and feeling suicidal

imalive

mental health chat rooms

the thoughts room

the dawn room

the comfort spot

it will be okay

7 cups of tea [vent site]

make everything okay

blahtherapy 

emergency compliment

tempted to quit antidepressants?

the best things in life that are free

reasons to stay alive

dealing with depression

steps for beating depression

reasons not to commit suicide

things to love about life 

adjusting your life for recovery

crisischat

changing your life

gives me hope

kittencam

puppycam

omfgdogs

cat training

natural treatment for depression

dealing with self harm

basic care for open wounds and burns

self harm safety

caring for self harm wounds

caring for cuts

caring for burns

fading and covering scars

stopping self harm

20 reasons to give up self harm

more reasons to stop self harming [bottom of page]

deciding to stop self-injury

self harm information booklet

limiting the damage of self harm

fataltotheflesh *trigger warning: cutting*

alternatives to self harm

more alternatives

146 things to do besides self harm

25 alternatives to self harm

make a happy box

dealing with loneliness and break-ups

the nicest place on the internet

brownie in a mug recipe

comfort food recipes

movie masterposts

7 reasons why it’s okay if you’ve never been in a relationship

getting over a break up

6 healthy ways to get over a break up

when you’re the only one not in a relationship

perks of being single

scientifically proven perks of being single

more perks for singles

is your friend dating your ex?

more ideas to help with loneliness

things to do when you feel lonely

things you can do when you’re lonely

dealing with loneliness

making friends

becoming a magnet for friends

how to cope when you feel left out by friends

dealing with anxiety and stress

more calming sounds

draw with sand

stress relievers

the quiet place

treatment and care for anxiety

dealing with panic attacks

overcoming panic attacks

progressive muscle relaxation

anxiety relief

overcoming ocd

calm pictures for anxiety gif masterpost

things you need to know to overcome ocd

stress relief games

rain sounds

nature sounds

effective anxiety breathing exercises

ocean soundscoffee sounds

90 seconds relaxation exercise

draw with silk

rainy day simulator

create a forest

dealing with bipolar disorder/ manic depression

helping your loved one through a manic episode

helping a loved one with bipolar disorder

dealing with bipolar mania: help for caregivers

7 ways to deal with a manic depressive person

dealing effectively with depression and manic depression

simple tricks to deal with anxiety and mania

5 tips for coping with mania

coping skills for bipolar disorder

50 natural ways to manage and cope with bipolar disorder

10 small steps you can  take to improve bipolar disorder

dealing with hallucinations and schizophrenia

helping a person with schizophrenia

treatment and recovery for schizophrenia

60 methods for coping with hallucinations

helping someone cope with hallucinations

coping with schizophrenic hallucinations and delusions

5 ways to quiet auditory hallucinations

a practical guide to cope with hearing voices

helping people who hear voices

strategies for coping with distressing voices

dealing with eating disorders

dangers of diet pills and laxatives

dangers of laxative abuse

physical effects of an eating disorder

recovery toolbox

why do we need to eat?

why you should eat often & strategies

reality of anorexia and bulimia

recovering from an eating disorder

recovery and relapse prevention

dangers of purging

milestones in recovery

understanding recovery

making a recovery meal plan

what to do when you feel fat

dealing with anger

click rocks

bouncy balls

wobble *trigger warning: water*

play with pentagons

pixie dust!! 

managing anger

controlling anger

dealing with anger and impulsivity 

dealing with criticism

gruntle.me

dealing with insomnia/sleep deprivation

what time should i sleep?

calculating the perfect bedtime + sleep efficiency

42 simple tips to deal with insomnia

tips to beat insomnia

11 ways to get to sleep and stay asleep

trick yourself into dozing off

natural remedies to help sleep

natural remedies for sleep apnea

restoring restful sleep

how to make yourself so tired that you’ll fall asleep

steps to recovering from insomnia

recover after a sleepless night

fix snoring

how to pull an all nighter and do well in an exam

benefits of sleep

why sleep is important

lgbtq+

masterpost on just about everything about this

lgbtq+ everything masterpost

how to make a chest binder 

how to wear a chest binder + faq

how to hide a pad if you wear boxers 

pre-T trans men who want to deepen their voices

lgbtq+ novels 

dealing with sexual assault and abuse

uk helplines for male survivors

uk male survivors

when a man is raped (includes how to help victims)

helping a friend or family member who was a victim

coping with the after-effects of sexual assault

coping with rape

coping with acquaintance rape

coping with rape-related ptsd

dealing with rape

understanding and helping male survivors

survivors chat

dealing with domestic violence and abuse

steps to take if you are a victim of family abuse

safe house

napless shelter for women and children

ywca women’s shelter

domestic violence and criminal harassment unit of the vancouver police department

canadian bar association- family violence

vancouver coastal health services

victims info

domestic violence help

ywca domestic violence help

domestic abuse services

domestic violence resources

hotlines

uk

women’s aid: 0808 2000 247

mankind: http://www.mankind.org.uk/

australia

women’s domestic violence helpline: telephone (08) 9223 1188 free call 1800 007 339

men’s domestic violence helpline: telephone (08) 9223 1199 free call 1800 000 599

1800respect: 1800 737 732

http://www.violencefreefamilies.org.au/help_lines

worldwide

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/

usa

crisis hotline: 1-888-7helpline

americans overseas domestic violence crisis center: 866-uswomen

childhelp national child abuse hotline: 1-800-4-a-child

http://www.thehotline.org/

canada

childhelp national child abuse hotline: 1-800-4-a-child

assaulted women’s helpline: gta 416.863.0511 toll free 1.866.863.0511 tty 416.364.8762 toll free tty 1.866.863.7868 mobile #safe(#7233)

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/canada/canada1.html

learning to love yourself and be happy

21 tips to release self-neglect

9 ways to love yourself

loving yourself

let yourself be happier than you think you deserve

who to fall in love with first

7 reasons to shamelessly love yourself

5 ways to love your body

17 reasons to love your body just the way it is

20 ways to love your body

learning to love your body in 4 steps

do i deserve to be happy?

100 reasons to be happy

300 reasons to be happy

 hard day?

tips to relax

learn how to relax and sleep like a baby

14 ways to live a more relaxing life

40 ways to relax in 5 minutes

virtual piano

spot the difference

internet explorer 6

falling falling

staggering beauty *epilepsy warning*

heeeeey

20 ways to relax and unwind

jukebox time machine

read any book

colour quiz

useless web

pointless sites

build a squid

mario sequencer

seaquence

dealing with substance abuse

11 ways to handle substance abuse

how to quit smoking

how to beat drug addiction

the best way to quit using drugs

ways to end drug addiction

how to help a friend quit drugs

caring for someone with a drug problem

alternatives to alcohol

alternatives to drinking

alcoholism-solutions

alcohol abuse treatment and self-help

how to stop drinking alcoholhealth effects of alcohol

alternatives to drugs and alcohol for solving our problems

healthy alternatives to smoking

10 tips to quitting smoking

10 unusual quit-smoking tips

tips to help you stop smoking

quitting methods and what to expect- smoking

overcoming drug addiction

helplines

us: national drug information treatment and referral hotline: 1-800-662-help (4357)

us: alcohol abuse and crisis intervention: 1-800-234-0246

us: national cocaine hotline: 1-800-cocaine (262-2463)

us: al-anon/alateen hotline (for friends and family) 1-800-344-2666

uk: drinkline: nat’l. alcoholism helpline: 0800 917 8282

nz: alcohol / drug helpline: 0800 787 797

aus: alcohol & other drugs information service (adis): freecall 1800 131 350

australian helplines

more helplines

"Anyone can remember the important stuff, can you remember the trivial stuff?"

Worldbuilding: Clothes and Beauty

Every society has a standard of beauty.  Whether or not everyone meets that standard, it does normally affect fashion and clothes.  While things such as climate also have a play on fashion, knowing the standards of beauty in your character’s culture can add a depth to that character and give perspective on what he or she calls “beautiful.”  Also, it will give something of an image of what the character likes to wear. In this list, I have written a list of questions pertaining to fashion.  It’s not an exhaustive list, however.  The goal is to get you working on the fashion of your world.

Have fun, be creative and detailed, and answer questions not listed!

Because my computer crashed and lost the prepared list, the questions are not directly taken from the NaNoWriMo website. However, some of the questions are asked from memory.  Others sounded like questions I had.

How does the weather affect clothing?

What kind of designs are common on clothing? Detailed embroidery?  Different dyes?  Logos?  Beads?  Sequins?

What would someone wear to a dance? Are there different kinds of dances that would require different kinds of clothes?

What would someone wear to a dinner party?

What is appropriate every day clothing?

What kind of clothes would the rich wear?

What kind of clothes would the poor wear?

What kind of clothes would those in between wear?

What clothing distinguishes someone as a noble or in a position of authority?

What is normally appropriate for children to wear?

What would one wear to a wedding or a funeral? Do the guests wear something different than the two getting married?  Does the person marrying the couple wear something different from the rest of the people?  Does the bride get all fancy?  How is the dead body dressed?

What kind of shoes do the people wear? Do people have different shoes for different occasions?

What is the significance of tattoos? Are they taboo?  Indicate a warrior?  Indicate a married couple?  Just another part of fashion?

What is the significance of piercings? Is it a status symbol?  What places normally get pierced?  What do they normally put in the piercings?

What kind of jewelry is worn? Earrings?  Necklaces?  Bracelets?  Nose rings?  Toe rings?  Crowns?

What does jewelry signify?

What features are admired? Symmetrical faces?  Slim bodies?  Tall or short?  Are certain kind of skin colors admired?  Certain colors of hair?  Long or short nails?  Small feet?

How does it differ with gender?

What kind of hairstyles are in fashion?

Does hairstyle indicate status in society?

What kind of fabrics are worn?

What fabrics are consider luxurious? Silk? Satin? Velvet?  Dragon hair?

What are some clothes that only certain people wear? Do priests have a certain uniform?  The military?

What are some ways people beautify themselves?

What kind of perfumes and/or colognes are worn?

What kind of soaps do people put in their bathes?

How often do people bathe?

What kind of hair care is there?

What kind of makeup do people use?

What is makeup made of? Modern ingredients?  Magic?  Crushed up beetles?  Powdered flower?  Ink?

How has magic affected fashion?

Super soft intimacy

cradling the face, looking into their eyes

pressing foreheads against each other

sighing into the other's mouth

kisses all over the face

calling each other petnames they wouldn't use in public

hugging the other from behind

sliding hands under their clothes

softly stroking their warm skin

ruffling the other's hair

murmuring sweet things into their ears

stroking the other's finger while holding hands

nuzzling into their neck

massaging their feet

napping together

having the other's head on their lap

staring into each other's eyes

pressing soft kisses on their shoulders

smiling into the kiss

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A special kind of intimacy between characters

[Not restricted to romantic dynamics!]

- I tear bread into smaller pieces to feed them to you, as if I am Jesus, or a mother bird. You may view me as a savior but I would kill for you

- Being there for the other person when they're sick - In a gross, disgusting way. Holding them unwaveringly through the wretched and repulsive, unflinchingly. Don't apologise, just survive. I'd do it again.

- You're scary, but I'm scarier. You don't know that yet, but I hope you won't fear me when you do.

- You're scary, and thank God for that. I'm more than happy to close my eyes when you use it on others. I am a coward.

- One character knowing exactly what the other one would really like to ask for, but is too self conscious or selfless to. Thus, they do it and provide, without the other person needing to outright request it. The self conscious character always makes sure the other one knows it's not obligated and they're always free to decline, and the other one nods firmly, knowing that, and still doing it.

- Sitting next to each other at the end of the world. Because it won't be okay. But they've accepted that

- "You destroyed the thing I love and I can't forgive you for it." "I can't forgive myself either." "I still can't hate you despite that." "I can."

- "Please hate me" "No."

- One character understanding when the other is in too low of a state to act like a decent person currently, and so they don't step over those lines that they'd normally tolerate. The first character holds the other one responsible for things later nonetheless, when they're able to actually carry it

- Two characters sharing the negative perceptions and opinions they've had of each other over the years. This can either lead to a realization that, respectfully, out of deep understanding of each other, they decide to not stay in touch with each other again from now on. Or, it can lead to a realization that thanks to this understanding they now have, they're more ready to become closer and have managed to clear the air with this conversation

- Characters of notably different ages talk and reflect on time that has passed between them. They feel a connection over how different their circumstances were. The younger one audibly wishes they could've done or changed something significant, to which the older character pointedly and gently tells them it wasn't their place to. Let us old crooks handle the tough things. (It wasn't your fault you spent formative years like this. I'm sorry you had to)