On November 24th, 2018, I posted a list of major deletions of sites or of content on sites that stripped fandom of its history. A bunch of pro-shipper blogs had just been deleted, and people were nervous. I suppose I was thinking “All this has happened before…”
On December 3rd, 2018, Tumblr’s Department of Irony announced the NSFW ban. Thanks for providing this salutary lesson to The Youth and a billion reblogs to me, I guess.
Today, we have AO3 for writing. Audio, images, and video are in as much danger as ever, yet fans attack AO3 every donation drive. For those of you who forget our past…
HERE IS WHAT HISTORY HAS TAUGHT US!
1992 - Chelsea Quinn Yarbro forces a zine to be destroyed
1995 - Viacom/Paramount goes after fansites
1995 - Anne Rice gets IWTV fic deleted everywhere
1997 - Fox and Lucasfilm go after fansites
1998 - AOL goes after X-Files fansites
2000 - Warner Brothers goes after Harry Potter fansites
2000 - Anne Rice anne rices again
2001 - Tripod Massacre
2001 - Anne Rice goes after IWTV fic on FFN
2001 - The Bronze shut down as Buffy changes networks
2002 - FFN bans porn
2002 - FFN bans RPF
2003 - Gryffindor Tower implodes
2004 - FFN bans script format
2005 - FFN bans CYOA, Readerfic, 2nd person, Songfic
2005 - Sheezyart bans adult content; y!gallery founded
2005 - Viacom/Paramount goes after fansites again
2006 - Sakura Lemon Archive suddenly closes
2007 - Strikethrough, Boldthrough on Livejournal
2007 - Youtube institutes Content ID, deleting many fanvids
2008 - Slash Cotillion closes, taking much historical m/m with it
2009 - GeoCities shuts down, taking old fannish websites
2009 - Greatestjournal shuts down; RPGs deleted
2009 - Marvel gets scans_daily deleted
2009 - imeem, major vidding hub, closes suddenly
2010 - FFN forums purged for inactivity
2010 - DeviantArt purges adult fanfic
2010 - Literate Union goes after Twilight fandom on FFN
2011 - Delicious destroyed by Yahoo’s incompetence
2011 - China arrests women for writing m/m; destroys danmei.org
2012 - major FFN crackdown on porn
2012 - Megaupload deleted for piracy; also destroys vids, podfic
2013 - Max-Dan-Wiz.com purged of fan-generated content
2014 - Quizilla shuts down
2014 - China purges m/m story websites; arrests female authors
2014 - Blip.tv deletes vids
2014 - Viddler deletes vids
2015 - Journalfen’s servers become fully robust, deleting Fandom Wank
2016 - y!Gallery deleted
2016 - Elfwood goes offline
2016 - Audiofic Archive corrupted; major blow to podfic
2017 - Chinese author jailed after being ratted out over fandom drama
2017 - Parents get queer Warrior Cats fic purged from Wattpad
2018 - Tumblr deletes pro-shipper blogs
2018 - Tumblr announces NSFW ban
2018 - Wattpad deletes accounts/fics without warning
2019 - China purges weibo of m/m; more women jailed
This is only a small taste of the many times that:
Fannish moderators got bored, ran out of money, or had a falling out, deleting a site/list/forum along the way.
Sites got bought out and closed for being unprofitable.
Fandom got hit as governments targeted piracy or political dissidents.
Fans grudge reported each other.
Official forums got deleted when the canon finished.
It’s not always malicious. It’s not always about us. But we lose every time.
Some of these purges hit everyone. Many of them hit m/m content specifically or female gaze-y material in general. This is why antis are dead wrong. This is why anti-fujoshi policies end up being anti-m/m policies. This is why we need clear labeling, not content restrictions.
This is why we need AO3.
And it’s why we need a solution for audio, visuals, and video too.
The Procgen Mansion Generator produces large three-dee dwellings to toy with your imagination, offering various architectural styles and other options. Each mansion even comes with floorplans:
https://boingboing.net/2019/07/12/random-mansion-generator.html
This is a young adult novel, someone write it.
rights received
Like what’s it gonna be today? Complete starvation or 3000 calories? I know as much as you, bitch ;)
sapphic spotify playlist / mlm spotify playlist
best friends
bestie by sizzy rocket
boyfriend by tegan and sara
hmu by spacegirl gemmy
iilwmbf by salen
jenny by studio killers
kari equals hottie by the dollyrots
no kings by the total bettys
sleepover by hayley kiyoko
two little girls by ani difranco
breakups - wlw
0108 by nakala
always this way by laura marling
bad at love by halsey
come on in my kitchen by larkin poe
conversations by lauren sanderson
cruise freestyle by nakala
curious by hayley kiyoko
deleted you by be steadwell
good girl by domo wilson
in my blood by ji nilson
let me go by be steadwell
like me by chely wright
me & her by heavens to betsy
new girl by be steadwell
now i’m all messed up by tegan & sara
she’s not you by grace petrie
strangers by halsey
talia by king princess
breakups - mlm
better off just friends by pansy division
closure by ieuan
fighting for by brendan maclean
glenview by pansy division
it doesnt matter to him by john grant
ramona by ieuan
stephen by brayton bowman
straight boy by shamir
the day u left me by ieuan
too much to ask by pansy division
bisexuality
b.i.g by caitlyn scarlett
bad at love by halsey
bi by alicia champion
bi by alizee
bi by living colour
bisexual by grlwood
blinders by phem
boys by maris
boys/girls by torrey mercer
do not disturb by halestorm
gettin’ bi by crazy ex gf cast
girls/girls/boys by panic! at the disco
i do both jay and jane by postman
i wanna bf with a car by kate nash
in or out by ani difranco
not myself tonight by christina aguilera
pretty boys and pretty girls-book of love
swings both ways by robbie williams
cheating - wlw
all the girls love alice by emeli sande
boyfriend by marika hackman
girlfriend by kitty
greatness by jen foster
i kissed a girl by jill sobule
cheating - mlm
all american boy by steve grand
billy brown by mika
deadahh by lil ph*g
girlfriend by mnek
i kissed a boy by jupither
im still your f*g by broken social scene
life lovers by pansy division
to be alone with you by sufjan stevens
christmas
12 gays of christmas-bubba love sponge
a dirty gay christmas-jonny mcgovern
homo christmas by pansy division
i saw daddy kissing santa-rupaul
itsa very queer christmas-erin mckeown
river by sam smith
rudy the big booty reindeer-big freedia
santa baby by rupaul
santa is a gay man-big freedia
crushes & love - wlw
all day and all of the night - kate nash
and then she kissed me by st. vincent
aquafina by cj run
beautiful girl by sophie b. hawkins
boys aside by sofya wang
bwu by tegan and sara
california friends by the regrettes
cardigan sweater by jasmine kennedy
caroline by girlyman
cherry by rina sawayama
come what may by daisy o’connor
daisy by zedd
girl by the internet
hometown by maddie ross
honey by kehlani
i love you, sadie by wyvern lingo
if it isnt her by ani difranco
know your name by mary lambert
mad about the girl by valerie june
marian by julian weldon
marry me by tender forever
proud by ji nilson
radiant warmth by miki ratsula
rebel girl by bikini kill
red by miki ratsula
runway by kodie shane
she by jen foster
she says by ani difranco
she keeps me warm by mary lambert
sing to her by kodie shane
sunshine by grace petrie
watercolor roses by ness nite
wild by molly burch
with a girl like you by thao & the get down stay down
crushes & love - mlm
all american boy by steve grand
american boyfriend by kevin abstract
and i love him by benjamin gibbard
caramel by john grant
denny by pansy division
garden boy by boy blue
handsome man by matt alber
hold each other by a great big world
i met a man by romanovsky and phillips
just some guy by anthony rapp
love came along by pansy division
mannequin by leon markcus
michael by franz ferdinand
my guy by kele okereke
too beautiful by pansy division
two men in love by the irrepresibles
what a beautiful day by brett every
gay & lesbian culture
bears by tom goss
blue collar sex kitten-lauren ruth ward
boys wear pink by todrick hall
butch in the streets by tribe 8
closet femme by kate reid
drag king bar by bitch and animal
dyke bars never last by sapphic lasers
elderly lesbians by sara renberg
everyone is gay by a great big world
femme bitch top by tribe 8
gay bash by melange lavonne
gay parenting by melange lavonne
gay sex by be steadwell
girls like girls by hayley kiyoko
i can be a lesbian by judy small
i don’t do boys by elektra
i’ll never want a bf by bec sandridge
influenced by queers by judy small
lesbian chic by judy small
lgbt by lowell
lgbt by rupaul
like boys by hyphen hyphen
qda by god is my co-pilot
queer by frankie simone
queer for you by the degenerettes
the chapstick lesbian song by cassendre xavier
the ellen page by partner
only dyke at the open mic-kate reid
the only gay person by sara renberg
the queer song by two nice girls
twinkie twinkie little star-pansy division
twinks by matt fishel
vaccines made me gay by grlwood
war paint by frankie simone
homophobia & coming out
american boyfriend by kevin abstract
apple pie by todrick hall
becoming myself by domo wilson
behind closed doors by matt fishel
boys in the street by greg holden
checking out your babe by tribe 8
compulsive liar by ezra furman
dumb by todrick hall
feminist housewives-bitch and animal
forbidden by todrick hall
g.d.m.m.l. grls by tyler glenn
gay thoughts by the growlers
gay sex by be steadwell
heaven sent by parker millsap
hold your hand by nicolette forte
homo song by mara levi
lezbophobia by tribe 8
love is love by naz & ella
love is love by starley
married in london by janis ian
miserable america by kevin abstract
not worth hiding by alex the astronaut
pride by grace petrie
radio friendly pop song by matt fishel
she keeps me warm by mary lambert
since when are you gay? by childbirth
some of my best friends-pansy division
thats so gay by pansy division
the village by wrabel
this is me by jen foster
whats expected of you-lipstick homicide
who wears the pants?? by soko
you can’t pray the gay away-laura bell bundy
pining - wlw
1950 by king princess
better anyway by lauren sanderson
boyfriend by marika hackman
boyfriend by tegan and sara
carrie (i want a girl) by moaning lisa
done deal by grace petrie
explosion by zolita
flirting with her by sir babygirl
girls by girl in red
girlfriend by kitty
girlfriend by ria mae
i need a woman to love by kesha
i wanna bf with a car by kate nash
i want her by blind fury
i wanna be your girlfriend by girl in red
jenny by studio killers
jessie’s girl by mary lambert
pretty girls by sequin sally
sister by kate nash
sleepover by hayley kiyoko
pining - mlm
boys that dance by ieuan
girl crush by harry styles
good guys by mika
good wife by mika
guy.exe by superfruit
him by geo louis
homie lova friend by anye elite
i love you by woodkid
i really wanted you by pansy division
i wanna boi by pwr bttm
i wanted him by lontalius
im the friend by pansy division
my heart aches for you by pansy division
need a man blues by bronski beat
preppy boy by john grant
the art teacher by rufus wainwright
the man i love by chester lockhart
sex - wlw
bestie by sizzy rocket
bitches by tove lo
boinked the bride by ember swift
box by siya
dive by tiffany gouche
dreamboat by mirah
flowers for anna by ames
girls by beatrice eli
hefner by tana mongeau
holy by king princess
i didnt just kiss her by jen foster
kissing pink by kodie shane
lick it by god-des & she
pussy mine by bella thorne
pynk by janelle monae
sweet girl by nicole dollanganger
tangerine by cj run
true love cafe by nicole dollanganger
sex - mlm
20 years of cock by pansy division
beercan boy by pansy division
bloom by troye sivan
chanel by frank ocean
daddy by sakima
dick of death by pansy division
groovy underwear by pansy division
he’s got his mothers hips-john grant
he’s trippi by sakima
i lost my innocence by ezra furman
iced out dick by lil ph*g
its just a job by pansy division
james bondage by pansy division
new pleasures by pansy division
rachbottomoff by pansy division
seventeen by troye sivan
snug slacks by john grant
t.h.u.g (trade) by todrick hall
tease by tyra b
the cocksucker club by pansy division
tinted windows by pansy division
wet by anye elite
transitioning & dysphoria
a guy named joe by joe stevens
boy in a dress by namoli brennet
daughter by ryan cassata
daughterson by joe stevens
dysphoria by saint wellesley
f*gette by athens boys choir
ftm at the dmv by schmekel
genderless by jonesin and the hurt
genderqueer love song by schmekel
girl or boy by dani shay
my lgbt story by itsbambii
new men with old man names-schmekel
second puberty by jake edwards
sex:male;gender:whatever-human kitten
tell me a story by skylar kergil
the village by wrabel
trans is love by marissa kay
trans punx by size of sadness
transgender dysphoria blues-against me
true trans soul rebel by against me
they/them/theirs by worriers
you cant tell me by jake edwards
youth
carla williams kissed me-jamie anderson
compulsive liar by ezra furman
diplomats son by vampire weekend
first time he kissed a boy by kadie elder
grace by jamie anderson
i lost my innocence by ezra furman
kiss the boy by keiynan lonsdale
loners by maddie ross
mr, peterson by perfume genius
pat me on the ass by pansy division
room by palehound
seventeen by troye sivan
seventeen by kevin abstract
son of a preacher man by tom goss
the art teacher by rufus wainwright
It’s been a few hours, you’ve just been hanging there. You’ve been quiet, too quiet. Usually there’s music playing, or your foot steps could be heard. But today, you’re quiet. Your little sister, who doesn’t normally come to greet you because you lock yourself away, decides to see what you’re doing. She assumes you’re taking a nap, or doing some homework quietly. She runs up the stairs, eager to see, but she comes to an immediate halt. You’re not doing your homework, nor taking a nap. Your music isn’t playing and you aren’t walking around. You’re hanging there, completely still, now just like her. At this moment, her whole world shatters. Everything she has ever known, looked up to, loved, is hanging there by a thread. At this moment, her life has been changed forever. At this moment, she wishes she was hanging with you.
Before you decide to take your life, imagine who will find you. Imagine them walking into a room, and seeing you just hanging there. Whether it be your little sister, little brother, mother father, grandparents, a friend. Imagine what will happen when they find you. No, they will not say “Finally, they’re gone.” No, they will not say “I’m happy they did that.” No, they will not say “I never loved them anyways.” They will die. Their hearts will break. They will hurt, more than you ever could. They will cry, scream, and break down. They’ll believe it’s all just a dream, praying to wake up. Except, they won’t feel that for a few seconds, or a few days, not weeks, nor months. They will feel that until the day they die. Everyday will be hell. They’ll think of you ever second. They’ll hate themselves for not being able to help or save you. They’ll wish they could die too. They’ll want to give up, just to be with you. They won’t be ever be happy again. They won’t smile. They won’t go back to their daily routine. They’ll die every time they walk past your room, or see a picture of you, or think of a memory with you. They’ll think, but stay quiet. They’ll visit your grave, feeling a knife go through their chest every time. And every morning when they wake up, no matter how long it’s been, they’ll wake up to thinking they’ll see you, only to be let down once again. And every night, they will cry themselves to sleep, because even though they refuse to admit it, know you’re gone forever.
Before you decide to take your life, think of your family, burying you. Yes, your own mother and father are planning your funeral. It’s supposed to be the other way around, but it’s not. They’ll have to call the cops, sign a death certificate, pick out clothing, buy a tomb stone, a casket, pick out flower arrangements, and more; All for their child’s funeral. The morning of your funeral, everyone who loves you is wearing black. Tears are streaming down their face, while their heart is breaking. Everyone who you thought didn’t need you, or didn’t care, are waiting in line to see you. They aren’t waiting in line at a party, or a graduation, or at a wedding reception. They’re waiting to see you, hands folded, lifeless, in a casket.
Before you decide to take your life, think of everyone you will be hurting. Don’t you dare say no one, because absolutely everyone will be affected. Your grandparents, won’t have a grandchild anymore. Your parents, won’t have a child anymore. Your brother or sister, won’t have a sibling anymore. Your pet, won’t have an owner anymore. That person you sit next to in class, won’t feel your presence anymore. Your teacher, won’t have a student anymore. That time your grandparents told you no, will haunt them forever, thinking it is their fault, that you are now dead. That time your parents yelled at you, will haunt them forever, thinking if they didn’t yell at you, you would still be here. That time your sibling said they hated you, will hate themselves, because they believe you would still be alive if they said they loved you instead. Those kids who made you feel bad, will wish they were dead too, because if they just smiled at you instead, you would be here. That teacher that said you didn’t meet her expectations, will feel like a failure, because you would still be here, if she believed in you. Everyone, who has ever been in your presence, will hurt, because if they showed you they cared, you would still be here.
Before you decide to take your life, think. Don’t just think of yourself, think of the consequences for everyone else. No one’s life will be the same again. That person who God made specially for you, won’t have you. That happiness that was waiting for you, will never show again. Before you decide to take your life, realize that you may be ending your pain, but you’ll be starting a lifetime of everyone elses.
If you are feeling alone, and think that suicide is the only way out:
My ask is open, and I’m always here. I’ll never judge you. I’ll try to help you.
If you are thinking of taking your life, call:
1-800-784-2433
1-800-SUICIDE
like a year ago I saw a trailer for Some Fucking Romcom where I thought for the first thirty seconds the plot was “bride asks her gay brother and his boyfriend to get heterosexual dates for her wedding”
turns out the plot actually was “bride asks her two Commitmentphobic ™ brothers to get dates for her wedding” which, lame
I like my idea, where two gay dudes and two lesbians have to pretend to be straight for an entire weekend
“I can definitely pretend to be straight,” Lesbian One says, “I successfully pretended to be a straight man for twenty years.”
“No,” her girlfriend Lesbian Two says, “no you definitely didn’t.”
Lesbian Two, who is butch, discovers an eyelash curler. “What is this, a torture device?”
Gay Guy One hooks up with the DJ, the wedding planner, three caterers and the best man. Shenanigans happen as he narrowly avoids getting caught by the bride.
Gay Guy Two, of course, finds himself falling hopelessly in love with the groom.
At the climax of the movie Gay Guy One falls out of the closet where he’s making out with his latest conquest, the florist. The bride screams, eyeliner smearing from tears, about how he’s RUINING HER WEDDING and she didn’t choose to have a brother who was QUEER and why didn’t he ever think about HER and why couldn’t he just pretend to be NORMAL for her SPECIAL DAY–
the groom is like “honey, I’m bi”
the bride says “no, you’re not! you’re marrying me! you’re straight now!”
and then the wedding is called off and Gay Guy Two and the groom live happily ever after. the after-credits scene is Lesbian Two suspiciously poking her eyelids with an eyelash curler