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Wearing Gabi Fresh x Playful Promises and the Bisha Hotel in Toronto ON - January 2018
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āA safeword, obviously, is usually used by the bottom (or sub), to say that her limits have been pushed or the scene has gotten to real, scary, emotional, traumatizing, or painful. But tops (Doms) need safewords, too! Being the Dom can often be emotionally difficult. Not only do you have to play the role of a bad guy (rapist, torturer, abuser), but you have to emotionally and/or physically hurt someone you love. While you are acting a scene, your head is probably screaming, āNo!ā because thatās how weāve been conditioned by society. Wanting to hurt, control, humiliate, and degrade someone are things society tells us are bad. In addition, your loved one may be crying, begging, screaming, bleeding, cowering in a corner, or whimpering. Even though part of your mind tells you theyāre safe and this is what you both wanted, there can be that other part that is taunting you, āYouāre a terrible person. How could you want this? How could you enjoy this? These desires are dirty, nasty, perverted, and wrong. How could you be so turned on by this personās pain?ā Not only do you have to be strong enough to ignore this and tell yourself your desires are normal, healthy, and only enacted after communication and consent, but Doms are also in charge of the physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing of another person. Your sub has given you her love, trust, and control: you are in charge of two people! Not only do you have to be careful to remember your agreed-upon limits and listen for safewords, but you have to be constantly monitoring your subās body language, mental state, and emotional signals. Subs who are in subspace often cannot communicate to you that they are being hurt, may forget their safewords, or may not even realize theyāre in pain until itās too late. So have Doms used safewords? Absolutely. If a scene gets too stressful, or the Dom isnāt sure what is going on in the subās head, he may need to call a break with the safeword. A safeword (called by either person) can completely end the scene, or just be a call for a short break so you can ask a question, communicate that something is off-kilter or needs to be changed, or simply touch base with your partner. Often, if you sub is in subspace, you may need to use the safeword, wait patiently for their daze to wear off, and check to make sure everything is okay (and not just āsubspace okay,ā but REALLY okay). Iāve heard of Doms calling safewords. One woman was going to brand her lover in front of dozens of friends, but could tell the mood was off. She used the safeword and they put it off for a few weeks. Other Doms may just need to take a break, or stop altogether because they are not enjoying the scene or are experiencing too much pain/confusion/conflict to play responsibly with two peopleās safety and wellbeing. Just like driving drunk, if you are not fully capable of being in control of both of you, donāt get behind the wheel! BDSM scenes can always wait for another day. Doms can also experience Top-drop or Dom-drop and may need aftercare. (Top-drop is the same as subdrop, but experienced by the Dom and not the sub. Because they are enjoying something society says is wrong and perverted, after a scene the Dom may feel a rush of depression, self-loathing, or embarrassment. One Mistress engaged in SPH (Small Penis Humiliation) with her slave because he desired it, but after such sessions of making fun of him for his body, taunting him, and breaking down his self esteem, she suffered major Top-drop. Doms and Dommes in this position need tender aftercare as well. So even if you are a Dom, top, Master, Mistress, Daddy, trainer, or Mommy, remember: youāre not Super(wo)man! By topping, you take on a huge responsibility, and this can be draining for anyone. Make sure both partners have a safeword, feel free to use it without feeling judged, and are provided with loving aftercare. Be safe and have fun!ā
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ā” Get him up against the wall ā”
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Yesterday my wife suggested I put on my pink panties while she was out of the house. Ā Very HOT made my night. Ā Honestly - I couldnātĀ help but fantasize about how much further she could take this conversation:
Wife: Thatās a hot bum
Me: Thank you
Wife: My friends would find this hilariousā¦
Me: Please donāt!!!
Wife: Ok I will only send your pic to one of them - you choose
Me: I canāt OMG - I canāt let them see me like thisā¦
Wife: Now you choose TWO of my friends - this isnāt optional - donāt disobey me againĀ - you want to showoff in your panties to which of my friends?
Me: Christine and Jen
Wife: Sent - Good boy!
Me: OMG you didnāt actually send it did you?
Wife: I thought you wanted this? Stop being so embarrassed! I only sent it to a couple of my friends.Ā
Me: Ok Iām sorry - You are right - I guess itās not a big deal
Wife: Christine doesnāt believe that is your ass - she wants another picture in the panties to prove it is you.
Me: Ok
Wife: Take a really good pic - I expect it to be better then the last one - I donāt want her doubting it is youĀ - and text it to her directly.
Me: I have the pic of me in the pink panties - Iām so nervous to send itā¦
Wife: Send the pic with the textĀ āPantie boy saying hiā
Me: Sentā¦
Wife: OMG!!! I canāt believe you did that - I never sent Christine or Jen your picture - lol.
Christine: Hi loser - nice panties
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hot n horny love the gloves
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This is the proper way to dress when cooking dinner!
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