I Dunno I Mean I Knew A Lot Of Americans Were Against It But I Assumed They Were All Elitist Right Wing

genuinely so fucking tired of people leveraging the "groomer" argument against people who support sex ed because scientific literature over decades shows that comprehensive sex education starting around kindergarten actually prevents children from being sexually abused and groomed because it teaches children the correct words for their body parts and also teaches them concepts of privacy, personal space, bodily autonomy, the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touching, and the fact that sex is something that only adults do. children with this knowledge are not only better equipped to identify abuse and predatory behavior and communicate that its happening to a trusted adult, but also prevent it from happening in the first place by recognizing when something is happening that shouldn't.

sex education does not sexualize children, it prevents children from being sexualized. anyone who is against early foundational sex education and claims they are doing it to protect children is a fucking liar.

I’m pretty deep in the autumn court rabbit hole so I wanted to share a few things I’ve noticed/decided on that will be included or part of Exile (which is having a name change but it’s what we’re working with atm):

The Autumn Court is likely culturally European (more specifically it is an amalgamation of Britain and France).

Why? Of all the people we know from The Autumn Court (Beron, Eris and Lucien), two out of three of those names are French and additionally Beron is also from the Old English word Baron.

Then the name Vanserra is made up of ‘Van’ and ‘Serra’.

‘Van’ can be both a given name and a Dutch prefix, ‘Van’ is a Dutch prefix meaning ‘of’ or ‘from’.

‘Van’ as a given name is derived from the English surname ‘Vance’ meaning ‘marshland’.

‘Serra’ is derived from the Latin word for ‘saw’, and later Italian.

The naming traditions in Autumn are ultimately rooted in Latin origin; as are both the French and English languages. Both are heavily reliant on Latin as the origins of the majority of their words.

Therefore culturally, I believe Autumn has a very distinct European feel (think the English and French Courts circa 1500-1600)

In terms of politics and court relations.

Aesthetically I think Autumn is once again the union of French baroque/rococo and English country manor.

Lots of greenery and sprawling gardens; jewel tones with architecture inspired by Versailles and the French Courts.

Fashion I think Autumn would favour heavier and more modest dresses that The Night Court to both accommodate the colder weather and the ceremony of court life.

Lots of Autumnal tones and colours, damask fabrics and intricate needlework.

The men all wear beautiful tunics and robes that are a mix between Tudor style doublets and the long coats of the Rococo era. & lots of riding boots.

Of course at the timeline of the acotar series Autumn still worship The Mother and the creation story involving the cauldron.

But there are those in Autumn that still worship the Old Gods or the First Gods, primordial spirits of the forest and land.

Distinctly Pagan vibes; heavily inspired by Celtic paganism & the festivals celebrated by the Romans (these two things might seem very different but share a lot in common)

Even though these Old Gods are not worshipped widely anymore in Autumn, their festivals are still a large part of the culture and way of life in Autumn.

The celebrate the equinox, solstices, and special holidays that honour specific stages of the life cycle/seasons (they celebrate, the spring, the harvest, the winter solstice, the summer solstice, and then festivals to honour the gods of the forests, and hunting goddesses)

All very nature focused and giving thanks for all the earth provides.

A lot of these festivals and the rituals performed during them is a celebration and a time to give back to the earth.

Lots of campfires and ritual dances, oracles and prophecy.

& drinking!

Oh before I forget! The Vanserra motto is ‘vulpes pilum mutat, non mores’ meaning ‘a fox may change its skin but never it’s character’

Eris’ own personal motto is ‘le tiemps viendra’ which translates to ‘the time will come’.

Lil Anne Boleyn reference there for you guys

But seriously he’s just waiting for his dad to die, or be killed.

The seven Vanserra brothers are all named; Eris, Torian, Aurin, Leon, Julien, Adrien and Lucien.

Stages of Decomposition, Embroidery by calicoranger @ Etsy

ERIS! ERIS! ERIS!!! AHHHH PLEASE there aren’t enough Eris fics out there 🥺🥺😭😭

okay, okay this was totally enough to convince me to do it! the vibe is (not quite) enemies to lovers, hades/persephone, predator-prey type-a-deal.

stick with me on this one guys!

Like I see it starting when Eris is our New High Lord of Autumn and he's still jaded from his childhood and the things his dad made him do. he's got a complicated relationship with his brothers but he's trying so hard to be good. he's broody and angsty and doesn't really open up to anyone cause they all still think he's this unfeeling killer when really its not the case at all.

like sure yeah he's angry and dealing with a lot of trauma and he's not a good communicator but we can fix him right? Because deep down he's sweet and he loves fiercely and just wants to build a better world for his people and to build a family and run round in fields with his dogs. we get protective eris and he gets to be vulnerable around reader once he starts to fall for her and then when the mating bond snaps into place??? he's feral sexy and dark but soft for her!!!

made a quick moodboard to show the vibes but any title suggestions would be much appreciated.

vanserra thought of the day:

eris is the son beron respects the most but likes the least

A little study of Quannah Chasinghorse at the met tonight because she’s just so 😭

thinking about az’s fucking slutty dirty little waist

The Three Laws of Fandom

If you wish to take part in any fandom, you need to accept and respect these three laws.

If you aren’t able to do that, then you need to realise that your actions are making fandom unsafe for creators. That you are stifling creativity.

Like vaccination, fandom only works if everyone respects these rules. Creators need to be free to make their fanart, fanfics and all other content without fear of being harassed or concern-trolled for their creative choices, no matter whether you happen to like that content or not.

The First Law of Fandom

Don’t Like; Don’t Read (DL;DR)

It is up to you what you see online. It is not anyone else’s place to tell you what you should or should not consume in terms of content; it is not up to anyone else to police the internet so that you do not see things you do not like. At the same time, it is not up to YOU to police fandom to protect yourself or anyone else, real or hypothetical.

There are tools out there to help protect you if you have triggers or squicks. Learn to use them, and to take care of your own mental health. If you are consuming fan-made content and you find that you are disliking it - STOP.

The Second Law of Fandom

Your Kink Is Not My Kink (YKINMK)

Simply put, this means that everyone likes different things. It’s not up to you to determine what creators are allowed to create. It’s not up to you to police fandom. 

If you don’t like something, you can post meta about it or create contrarian content yourself, seek to convert other fans to your way of thinking.  

But you have no right to say to any creator “I do not like this, therefore you should not create it. Nobody should like this. It should not exist.”

It’s not up to you to decide what other people are allowed to like or not like, to create or not to create. That’s censorship. Don’t do it.

The Third Law of Fandom

Ship And Let Ship (SALS)

Much (though not all) fandom is about shipping. There are as many possible ships as there are fans, maybe more. You may have an OTP (One True Pairing), you may have a NOTP, that pairing that makes you want to barf at the very thought of its existence.

It’s not up to you to police ships or to determine what other people are allowed to ship. Just because you find that one particular ship problematic or disgusting, does not mean that other people are not allowed to explore its possibilities in their fanworks.

You are free to create contrarian content, to write meta about why a particular ship is repulsive, to discuss it endlessly on your private blog with like-minded persons.

It is not appropriate to harass creators about their ships, it is not appropriate to demand they do not create any more fanworks about those ships, or that they create fanwork only in a manner that you deem appropriate.

These three laws add up to the following:

You are not paying for fanworks content, and you have no rights to it other than to choose to consume it, or not consume it. If you do choose to consume it, do not then attack the creator if it wasn’t to your taste. That’s the height of bad manners.

Be courteous in fandom. It makes the whole experience better for all of us.

Will I ever get over Nicole Coughlan in Wiederhoeft? The answer is no