sharonneedles85

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I really feel like if someone could just tell me how normal people act I could do it. it's the having to come up with my actions on my own that really gets me

hello beloveds ☺️

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Some male thinspo because I don't see a lot of them

ED MYTHBUSTING

Eating disorders are NOT contagious! Stop treating them like they are. It’s a mental illness, just like any other...not contagious!

Thin celebrities aren’t The Reason™️ people have eating disorders, although the way thin bodies are presented may cause or contribute to feelings of insecurity or shame about food and the body.

The invention of size 0 and 00 are not The Cause™️ of eating disorders—and they aren’t unrealistic sizes, some people are just small and need those sizes.

That whole idea that we look in the mirror and see a big fat person when we actually look like skeletons?? It’s just not universal, and it’s strange to assume that it would be. I’m sure some people do have that experience, but it’s not universal. My eyes are fine, I can see my body just fine, it’s about feelings—not about what my body actually looks like.

Not everyone with an ED is super skeletal skinny, or white, or female, or able-bodied, or teenaged. Just like everyone else, we come in all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, etc. We aren’t all skeletal, white, teenage girls 🤷🏽‍♀️

For some reason, in all the fiction I’ve seen about EDs, the girl with the ED has divorced parents with whom she has a rocky relationship? Dysfunctional family situations are a big risk factor and can contribute to stress and disordered eating. But everyone has different experiences and, needless to say (I hope) some of us have good relationships with our parents, some of us have parents who aren’t divorced, etc etc. This one feels particularly harmful though, because it kind of implies that it’s the parents’ fault that their child has an eating disorder because they got divorced.... And divorced doesn’t always mean bad! *EDIT* Divorce can also be very good, as it ends marital conflict that can be traumatic to children and can remove children from a toxic and abusive situation. Unfortunately, this doesn’t erase the trauma that happened before the divorce and doesn’t mean that the divorce itself won’t be traumatic either. Children need love, care, and stability—which they can adequately receive from divorced parents, if no abuse is involved, but sometimes this isn’t provided and the trauma can manifest as an eating disorder.

People with anorexia DO actually eat. Sometimes, we even eat normal, balanced, sufficient meals. Which leads me to...

Not all days are bad days, at least not for everyone. I have an eating disorder, but some days I feel totally fine and normal. Just like any other mental illness...it’s not constant uninterrupted anguish.

“Diet culture” is not The Cause™️ of eating disorders, but it may contribute to feelings of shame about food and the body.

Eating disorders are “about” a person’s relationship with food and their body...but they aren’t really ABOUT a persons relationship with food and their body. For some people, it’s about control, or shame, or gender dysphoria, or fear of adulthood, or purity. For some people it’s about a fear of abandonment, fearing that people will leave you and not take care of you unless you’re sick.

Not everyone with EDs hides their body under baggy clothes! Not all of us feel the need or want to cover up.

Like all mental disorders, EATING DISORDERS ARE NOT A LIFESTYLE CHOICE. They’re complex mental disorders, trust me! No one just chooses to starve themselves, force themselves to vomit, eats until it hurts, or exercise till they pass out. These aren’t fun quirky lifestyle choices.

Not all of us “look sick,” you can be a normal weight and still have an ED. This goes back to #5. I’m olive toned and tan which makes my complexion look healthier than the skeletal, white, teen girl you’re expecting—that doesn’t mean I’m doing great.

Getting up to a healthy weight or “looking healthier/better” doesn’t mean someone in recovery is actually doing better. If they were in inpatient care, they likely HAD to gain weight to get out...this doesn’t mean the mental part of this MENTAL ILLNESS is cured.

On the other hand, being thin doesn’t mean someone, even someone with a history of EDs, isn’t doing okay. Again, and I cannot stress this enough, people with EDs come in all different shapes and sizes. Even if someone is “too thin” and in recovery, it doesn’t mean they’re faking, all bodies are different maybe this is normal for them, or maybe they arent at a normal weight for them but they’re really trying to gain weight and get better. Maybe they’ve broken the ED in their brain and are waiting for their body to follow—don’t invalidate their progress by commenting on their size.

Anorexia and Bulimia aren’t the only eating disorders! There’s orthorexia, diabulimia, binge eating disorder, OSFED, etc. No one is worse than another per se, everyone has different experiences, different severity, and no matter what ED someone has it is always deeply painful and everyone deserves help!

Not all eating disorders are connected to or caused by a single traumatic event or by any traumatic event at all. Everyone has different experiences, and some people are just predisposed to develop eating disorders...

If you haven’t guessed by now there is no single Cause™️ of eating disorders. People have different life experiences, different brains, different habits....

People with EDs are not an enemy to people in larger bodies, fat acceptance, body positivity, etc. That would be like saying that people with depression are an enemy to happiness and positivity, and I think we can all agree that that’s not the case. Body positivity is wonderful, and I’m sure there are far more people with EDs than you think who are strong advocates for body positivity or who want to be able to accept the body positive message but aren’t currently capable because of their disorder.

Having an eating disorder doesn’t mean that you just hate food, that you judge others for eating or what they eat, that you fat shame others, etc. I know a lot of people with EDs who LOVE food and are wonderful cooks. Some people with EDs may feel uncomfortable being around people who are eating, but not everyone feels that way. As with any insecurities, people sometimes project their body insecurities onto others—it’s not a great thing to happen, it’s not fun, but it is fairly normal and it doesn’t mean that someone with an ED is necessarily judging other’s food choices or body.

Treatment and recovery are different for everyone—and they should be different for everyone. It’s wrong and dangerous to administer the same treatment to every person with an ED. People with both Type 1 diabetes and an ED (usually, have been misusing insulin to lose weight) need vastly different care than someone with a different condition, and beyond that different people just need different care. No single thing works for everybody, it would be nice if that was the case though!

Please feel free to keep adding, it’s really important to bust these myths, stereotypes, and misconceptions. Just like everybody else, people with EDs are widely varied and diverse and it’s important that we recognize this to make it easier for people to recognize disordered eating and get help.

Feel free to comment on this post. Are there any ED myths I missed that really bug you? Am I wrong?? Let me know!

Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. TUMBLR RULE. When you see it, REBLOG IT.

Depression Hotline:1-630-482-9696

Suicide Hotline:1-800-784-8433

LifeLine:1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project:1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support:1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline:1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault:1-800-656-4673

Grief Support:1-650-321-5272

Runaway:1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

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Mind infoline (mental health information):0300 123 3393 e-mail: info@mind.org.uk

Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice):0300 466 6463 legal@mind.org.uk

b-eat eating disorder support:0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: help@b-eat.co.uk

b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders):08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)

Cruse Bereavement Care:08444779400 e-mail: helpline@cruse.org.uk

Frank (information and advice on drugs):0800776600

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@ boys with mental illness

You are not less of a man because you have panic attacks. You are not less of a man because you have anxiety. You are not less of a man for having depression. You are not less of a man for having a mental illness. Period.

Doing this as of today!

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

They say you are what you eat, well no wonder I'm not enough 🥴

Black coffee and a nice book 🖤

Been maintaining for what feels like forever 🙄

remember to drink lots of water, because your insides are a swampy bog and a water shortage would affect the local frog population

a part of me thinks that if edblr lived together we would be unstoppable, and another part of me is rational.

we'd be funny but also walking hazards for the most part

Please don't report my account, this is all I have left as a safe space. I don't want to trigger anyone but this is my only safe space. If you're triggered by my content please just block me.

Reblog this to prove your blog was made before the February 2022 tumblr resurgence

Causally didn't weigh for a while and now I weigh 139.6lbs/63.45kg 🙃 I plan on getting back on track with IF and med res

Didn't weigh again because my body is still is bloated and angry mode, plan on weighing tomorrow, hopefully won't be too awful...

Like I said my body is against me currently and for some reason I ate terribly today

Today's Log: Blueberry Jam

Peanut butter

2 GF blueberry waffles

Peppermint mocha Kcup

Almond milk

SF peppermint mocha syrup

Plain potato chips

Slice of Goudah

Light Greek yogurt

French onion dip powder

Liquid IV acai berry flavor

SF berry gum

6 GF thinmints (serving is 4)

Stuffing casserole

My body is against me currently so I decided not to weigh

My dash got real dark real quick today.

Normally I'm here for the ed (sheeran) memes but there are no memes today only pain and sadness.

Please be careful guys I'm begging you. January is the hardest month of the year for most people. My birthday is the one day of the year with the highest suicide rates. But please just make it to spring. We'll have a community picnic and go for walks together. You'll be alright. Just please try to hang on.

reblog to take the person you reblogged from to the aquarium

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EVERYONE DRINK WATER RIGHT NOW AND REBLOG TO KEEP THE HYDRATION GANG CHAIN GOING

I suppose maintaining is better than gaining 😐

hello, random anon floating throughout the ed tumblr community to remind every single one of y’all of how proud i am of you. i not too long ago was in your exact spot and it truly is one of the most brutal things, dealing with an ed of any sort. i’m not going to waste my time by telling you to leave this unbelievably toxic community as it is something we all have to learn by ourselves. i just wanted to pop in and say that i see how much pain you are in. your suffering is not in vain. no matter your cw, sw, gw, or the duration of your ed, your disorder is just as valid and deserves as much love and care as everyone else. weather everyone around you has noticed or no one has, i see you and your pain. it’s not easy surviving this far and you should be so unbelievably proud of yourself. i know i am. just please keep hanging in there. give yourself a bit of a break. you deserve it after all you’ve been though. hopefully you start recovery sooner rather than later, but that’s up to you. i cannot wait for you to find peace within that you oh so deserve to have. i see you and i’m proud of you <3.

Thank you for the kind message Anon 🖤

for anyone considering joining an0blr

i remember coming on here and reading those “get out whilst you still can” posts. i thought to myself “oh me? i’m just doing research. i just want to see what it’s about. i dont restrict that much. im not stick thin. im not /that bad/. i can control myself and leave whenever i want!” it’s been 4 years since i had that thought. im still here. that’s the funny thing with this ana thing. you think you’re different. you think you’re the one in control. you think “oh i’ve only been doing it for a few days/weeks/months”, “oh i’m only restricting a little”, “oh i eat over 1200kcal”, “oh i dont puke or exercise all that much”. you think because of all these things, that you’re different. but we are humans too. we are just like you. we all started out curious, just like you. and now we are in so deep, we can’t get out. we keep coming back to this site. we have friends here. we keep looking for our inspirati0n. so /please/, when we say “get out whilst you still can”, we don’t say it to make this some type of invite-only group. we don’t make it to exaggerate. you need medical help. we all do. you’re never “not far enough” to receive that and stay away from these things. this site will trigger you. and we are all here, having been on your side and now on ours, and we are screaming at you that it’s not as easy as you think. we were all once you.  please get away from here and any other sites like this whilst you still can. please seek medical help now. this place is where people die. please don’t let yourself be dragged in. im begging you, dont let yourself go through this like we have. leave whilst you can.

Some male thinspo because I don't see a lot of them