I Have A Doll From Budsies. They Make Some Genuinely Good Stuff. I'm So Happy To See Them Doing This

Reposting old art so I can legally call myself an artist, starting with one of my favorites: the Caiden and Jaiden drawing used to make their irl doll

Watching a video on aphobic memes reminded me of something...

It was basically like "Asexual and aromantic people don't face systemic oppression!"

And... we do. Take a look around at how much value society places on sex and romance. Many systems rely on the expectation you will fall in love and get married. We've all heard the meme about getting married for tax reasons. Romance is even used as a measure of happiness. I'm in therapy, and my therapist will sometimes have to use certain charts and templates with me. A good chunk of them always involve discussing romantic life. I'm blessed that she is perfectly accepting of me being aroace, and we've even discussed how harmful it is that there's so much pressure. I've heard of other people in the community who had their asexuality/aromanticism treated like a problem in therapy.

Or, in the medical industry: I was having severe abdominal pains and went to the ER. The nurses were absolutely convinced it was an STD, despite me swearing I'm not sexually active. They only focused on the idea of an STD. It later ended up being an intestinal issue. They pressured me into doing a pelvic exam, then used the wrong size instrument so I was screaming in pain the whole time. All because they couldn't believe there was a patient who did NOT have sex. Who was NOT in a relationship. The expectation was that teenager = sex.

We are continuously taught this idea that everyone has sex and falls in love. All of our systems are built around it. Our whole society expects it. If you are not in any relationship, you are stereotyped as lonely and/or crazy. If you are in a purely sexual relationship, you are stereotyped as being vain and sex-crazed. If you are in a purely romantic relationship, you are stereotyped as leading your partner on and incompatible with others.

I'm fortunate enough to have grown up surrounded by people who loved and supported me for my identity. I love myself for my identity. But even I have still faced discrimination and harm as a result of it. I still get anxious when a doctor touches me. I still feel left behind when I see my friends getting into relationships. But I don't want to change myself.

I want to change the world around me. We deserve better.

okay, i've gotten sick of this shit. please reblog and like and share and stuff so tumblr can know this is a problem.

i keep getting communities suggested to me on tumblr. this wouldnt be a problem... if it wasnt communities i do not care about at all. there are some fandoms i want to genuinely avoid, seeing as i have no interest in the content and honestly am potentially triggered by it.

speaking of the getting triggered part. it gets worse and genuinely very important.

there are certain nsfw communities that get randomly reccomended to me, and some of these topics can be genuinely triggering, such as r@pe f3tishes (yes, i genuinely got a post from an nsfw community featuring that recommended to me) and other VERY potentially triggering things.

though i think it's important for people to have safe spaces for that kind of stuff (such as the nsfw one, like it is not my place to kinkshame, but to people who have not shown interest in it it can be harmful), there should be ways to avoid these

my solution? the ability to block communities. not just say "not interested" (because we all know that hardly ever works)

if anyone knows any other solutions, please let me know. this is starting to genuinely bother me and make tumblr not very fun to use, which sucks.

"well actually repulsed aro/aces can still be in relationships/have sex" SHUT. UP. SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP. I know! IM ROMANCE REPULSED!! but if you even tried to ship me (and a few of you did) i would come at you with KNIVES. STOP SPEAKING FOR "all aro/acespecs" YOU DONT. SHUT UP

fuck romance, unhappy valentines day to all my aro friends 🔥🔥💚🤍🩶🖤

Ive been getting super into Hollow Knight again, so I made this little painting

"How do you know that if you haven't had sex? You should try it first."

Reblog if you've ever come out as ace to someone and been told any variation of "it's just a phase"

The bots are too much

I'm nonbinary and asexual. I like seeing trans posts. But holy shit I think I'm gonna have to block the trans tag. There are so many of those gross s*x bots flooding my feed that I can't stand it.

This is not the "queer" website when I'm being shown trans f*tish content.

I return with more old art until I get the time to draw again because FINALS TIME WOOOO :(

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