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I came out as transfem to my friends a couple months ago, but every now and then I feel like I'm faking it. But when I'm called by my preferred name, my heart starts racing and I get a little smile.

Is this a normal thing?

Lee says:

Experiencing feelings of doubt or questioning like you're "faking it" can be part of the process for many people as they explore their gender identity.

This doesn't invalidate your experiences or your identity; sometimes it's a reflection of navigating a complex personal journey within a society that has rigid norms about gender.

Having doubts is normal, and many people who come out as trans continue to identify as trans throughout their lives, even if they initially had some discomfort getting used to their new identity and occasionally felt like they were faking it.

There are also some folks who feel like they're faking it and while they may not be intentionally faking an identity, that kernel of discomfort and wrongness may be a clue that something isn't quite right yet, whether it's their particular label, their gender expression, their pronouns, or their feelings about the gender roles they feel pressure to inhabit. I'm not saying that this is the case for you-- it seems like it likely isn't-- but I do feel that it's also important to acknowledge that not everyone who questions their gender will ultimately identify as transgender.

There should be no shame in questioning your gender, trying on new labels for a while, even coming out to friends to see how it feels to use the new label/pronouns/name, etc but ultimately reidentifying. The process of exploring one's gender identity is deeply personal and unique to each individual and there's nothing wrong with someone realizing that they aren't trans after all.

I'm writing all of that because I think this type of ask is often sent by folks wanting to know whether what they're feeling is normal because they're seeking reassurance that they're trans.

But we're not really here to reassure you that you're trans. We don't know you! Only you know your gender. If I tried to reassure you by saying "oh yeah I know for sure that you're trans, don't worry!" it would be beyond my scope as someone who is not-you.

I can tell you that it's normal to feel that way, that many other trans folks have felt that way, and that you will find your path eventually. It can be hard to figure it all out, but don't stress! Everyone always seems to have this super big sense of internal urgency, but it's okay to not be 100% certain of your gender identity, and to feel that way for months or even years.

Be patient with yourself. Understanding your gender identity is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. There's no rush to figure everything out immediately or to fit into any particular box. Trust yourself, and allow your journey to unfold in a way that feels authentic to you. All that being said, your current identity is valid, regardless of whether it shifts over time.

It's super common to have feelings of doubt and wrongness and feelings of faking it at the start of a transition, and that doesn't necessarily have to overshadow the joy and happiness that you experience when you're called by your preferred name. That gender euphoria you described is super real!

Seeking support can be incredibly helpful. This might include talking to friends who understand and support your journey, joining support groups for people exploring their gender identity, or finding a therapist who specializes in gender identity issues. These resources can provide a space to discuss your feelings, explore your identity, and receive support from others who have had similar experiences. Your feelings and experiences are real, and they deserve acknowledgment and respect.

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9. Could you be roommates with this character?

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15. What's your favorite ship for this character? (Doesn't matter if it's canon or not.)

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26. What's something the character has done you can't get over? Be it something funny, bad, good, serious, whatever?

27. FREEBIE QUESTION!!

good omens has got me in its clutches again. here's crowley

hi !! for the ask game I was curious about q.7, 8 and 15 !!

for Kaito & Kokichi. sorry if it's a lot you can pick your favorite hehe. have a good day !

nah, don't apologize. honestly the more questions, the more you're indulging me

7. What's something the fandom does when it comes to this character that you like?

for kaito....... well i've only ever seen this once, but a fic writer i like sometimes writes kaito with a chronic illness, like a version of the one he had in game but in a modern au, and i think that's so cool

AND I LOVE KOKICHI KING HORSE JOKES. i will never ever get sick of them – in fact, they are sickeningly rare!!! (unless i've been hanging around the wrong sides of the fandom....?)

8. What's something the fandom does when it comes to this character that you despise?

ahhh....hmmmm. putting on my thinking cap for this one. for kaitoooo... i guess when people lean too heavily into his aggressive traits, cuz he's not THAT bad, guys.

my kokichi one is pretty similar. nothing you can do can really annoy me all that much unless you write him off as irredeemable

15. What's your favorite ship for this character? (Doesn't matter if it's canon or not.)

for kokichi, probably saiouma. mostly because it was the first dr ship i ever really got into, and now im just attached to them XD something about a guy like kokichi dragging an exhasperated shuichi around the place... and their wierd cat and mouse game – shuichi originally seeking kokichi out just cuz he HAS to know what the fuck is up with him and, eventually, getting endeared to him...... ? idk. they're cute. they're funny

and for kaito,,,, hmmmmm, maybe the training trio. they can each take turns smooching eachother

thanks for the ask! <3 hope you have a good day, too

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he's angwy

whoever said money can't buy you happiness was a fucking LIAR

Do y'all think Kokichi would make the most elaborate, well put together presentations about topics that are guaranteed to piss someone off.

He makes a flat earth PowerPoint and he has such confidence in his words and stance that you kinda believe him even though he's clearly bsing

He has everyone's picture on a dartboard and every week he throws one and just goes 'ok, looks like I'm bullying himiko this week!' and just cracks his knuckles and makes a long ass essay disproving every magic trick ever

I really love this parallel between Kaito and Kokichi.

Kaito has the persona of a stereotypical hero. He built his personality around the "hero-protagonist" archetype. He always talks abot himself in that way. He literally calls his close friends "sidekicks."

But with all this, the the main character of the game is Shuichi, Kaito's “sidekick”. And from the viewer’s perspective, Kiibo can be considered protagonist.

Kokichi plays the role of a clichéd villain. He constantly chatters about how he has a huge villainous organization, he exiles unwanted people to Siberia, he controls the entire government, etc. He plays the terrible villain as best he can. Later in game he even pretends to be a mastermind.

But at the same time, he is not the actual villain. He is not a mastermind. He was not the one, who imprisoned everyone in that academy and forced them to kill each other. Moreover, by nature he is a pacifist and spent all his time in the killing game trying to find a way out and save the most people.

In short, Kaito and Kokichi play the roles of clichéd hero and villain, without actually being them.