•Delilah Paris •Audhd •any pronouns • the greek gods 🏛️ •fandoms: HP (the marauders), miraculous lb, pjo, Sherlock Holmes
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exactly
Also like Lukanette and Adrigami could have been so good but they threw it away immediately. Same thing with the inverse of the love square, like we finally got some absolutely adorable Marichat and it was ripped from our hands
The saddest part about miraculous ladybug is the POTENTIAL it had, layers upon layers of interesting story:
- the love square dynamic
- a hero son and a villain father but neither of them know it
- marinette’s lowkey stalker energy (I wish it was portrayed better I think that could be so cool)
- Adrien not understanding how to express love in a healthy way
- Adrian being a SENTIMONSTER literally incapable of disobeying his father
- the whole concept of Chat Noir giving Adrian freedom and Ladybug taking Marinette’s freedom away
- Marinettes “smart girl, just crazy” compared to Adrian’s “dumb blonde, but pretty sweet” dynamic that we get every once in a while
All of it thrown away by trashy writing 😭
Oh for sure!! She bungled that one. But... if she doesn't want him I will gladly take him
Adrienette is beautiful and I love them but lowkey Mari breaking up with Luka was the biggest fumble of the century
'its just IMPOSSIBLE to not be addicted to your phone nowadays its UNREALISTIC-'
heres some advice to being less chronically online. for gen z (and younger??) who dont even know how to start thinking about it and have only heard shitty advice from older adults who just genuinely do not get it, from a fellow gen z and my experiences so far.
*these are personal and may not all 100% resonate but its still good prompting to start thinking about things! PLEASE feel free to add your own stories/advice in the notes! support your fellow humans, dont gatekeep what youve learned, lets have these conversations! and no negativity/pessimism please <3
first thing is to make it a less scary thought, a more concrete idea and not a hypothetical. it doesnt have to be all-or-nothing, cold turkey, a huge announcement and a fundamental shift in your personality. the internet will be in your life for the rest of your life, this is an ongoing relationship you are trying to make healthier thats all! and it takes one step at a time and some self-compassion, but a true effort nonetheless. 'dont you think thats a bit too serious-' if youre my age you quite literally grew up and developed online, it is literally part of your psyche the way your childhood is, it IS serious, you deserve to treat it seriously.
dont save your login info/dont stay logged in for social media accounts, having to manually log in when you want to go on like youre on some elementary school chrome book is a really healthy and clear boundary to have between being logged off and logged on.
-> bigger challenge - uninstall it on your phone in general, only log on on your laptop/pc if applicable for you!
if youre motivated to, try to work on your posture too. i only say that because most of our bad posture is at least partially related to being on our phones a lot, and when i started wanting to fix my posture, completely separately and unrelated from trying to break my phone addiction, it made it easier to lose interest in my phone since i didnt want to ruin my progress with my posture. it made me start to have a mindset like 'well if you cant do this on your phone with good posture then dont do it' and 'if youre on your phone so long your posture starts to cave in, youve probably spent too long on your phone anyway'
listen to music more. its easier for me to kinda write off my phone and do other things if i just open music or a podcast or long youtube video on it. i know we all love long video essays, but i recommend music more specifically for me at least because im less inclined to pause music or scroll while listening to it for some reason? whereas using a show or video or podcast for white noise, im way more likely to also be scrolling on my phone and that is my activity lol. music for some reason i dont want to interrupt and instead of being on my phone i can clean or do something productive on my computer etc
this one is sooo hard but try to fall asleep with some distance between you and your phone, even just a couple feet. mine stays on the desk next to my bed which isnt that far but its better than on bed like it used to be. when you wake up you probably wont feel like reaching for it right away if its far and even better if you have to get up for it because then at least you stand and move your body first thing instead of looking at your phone first thing. and try to get more and more of your morning routine done before touching your phone over time.
-> for me, i started by just trying to at least wake up a bit in bed before touching it, then stand up before touching it, then stand and stretch, then going to the bathroom first, making coffee first, feeding the cat first, etc. its surprisingly helpful to have a specific chore/task in mind that is The requirement so that everytime you do it you get a lil dopamine rush for unlocking your phone from yourself lmao. when the weather was nice i used to make my Requirement being outside first before going on it and i LOVED that. esp as it got easier and i started doing more and more before going on it and finally walking outside with coffee and my phone felt like such a pleasant little reward.
find a hobby that uses your hands. example: i really need to get back into knitting because when i did it regularly so much time that wouldve been on my phone was spent knitting with music/podcasts/shows/(even online lectures! when i felt productive lol) playing. its the same amount of physical relaxing - barely moving lol - but uses a longer attention span and a much better dopamine hit than scrolling, i literally MADE things.
-> you might be thinking, 'but mindless knitting isnt better than mindless scrolling is it?' but that mindless feeling on your phone is just that, mindless. the mindless feeling you get when doing something like knitting is actually closer to a flow state, which is actually incredibly good for you, like a fulfilling nutritious meal as opposed to 'empty calories' or whatever
get a widget for your homescreen that shows your screen time. i have one and of course it doesnt always stop me but seeing that time go up all day the more i use it and the pride of keeping it low is really helpful
practice grounding. in general.
spend more time on anonymous activities and have more privacy and less attachment with your 'persona' - what i mean by that is, i consider things like scrolling through tumblr (for me personally!) to be relatively harmless because i dont try to like,, brand myself here. if youre a tumblr regular you know the jokes - 0 follows, 0 notes, screaming to the void, moots you dont talk to, blorbo pfp and urls, fake names everywhere, and we're having fun! basically targeting the 'everyone is famous now' thing with this one - embrace being a nobody with no personal stakes here
-> personally ive never kept up with having social media accounts that are actually just, me irl - like a facebook or main instagram, like a locals account yknow? but i think it goes for that too - stop spending so much time trying to further personalize your online presence in the hopes of it representing you perfectly - because it never will, and it shouldnt, and you shouldnt aspire for that. your social media presence is lighthearted and incredibly surface-level, treat it like that! thats not me bashing social media either, having that mindset will make it more enjoyable bc youll be using it as it should be used!
do following/followers or camera roll/files or app purges. this is also a soft launch type of way to practice easing into a better mindset. aside from just literally getting rid of junk, the process of trying to judge whether or not you need something is good practice in mindfulness! even if you dont delete everything you feel like you maybe should, thats fine, youll do other purges in the future too. eventually youll get better at parting with things and realizing when things that feel good in a moment are actually bad for you. and it forces you to regularly check in on your more long-lasting parasocial relationships online and how theyre serving you or not
speaking of parasocial - for actual friends, if theyre irl, think about how much you interact with them online vs in person and why you think that is and how it affects you. maybe youll wanna see them more irl if possible (i promise its better for your friendship), maybe youll realize you dont need to keep tabs on them anymore (old high school acquaintances lookin at you). for celebrities and fandom things - try to think about the bare minimum content from them you could do with. you dont have to unstan all your faves and stop enjoying things - but do you need their notifications on? if you have designated fan accounts, are they still a source of joy or of stress? do you need them on all the platforms or just one or two? do you need to have all that saved content of them? are there aspects of this that you love that could be found elsewhere, maybe even offline? (again you dont have to stay one way forever, just encouraging checking in with yourself!)
if youre of the genre of online where you just cant help yourself from getting involved in big discussions or discourse and arguments - i recommend journaling when you get upset by something online, articulating your feelings without the idea of someone ever reading it and without the goal of 'winning' or being the most correct and logical or even the most sympathetic and morally good. take away every audience aspect of it. what is this really about for you, and why would strangers online deserve to hear your personal well-thought out opinions? why would your thoughts deserve to be simplified and misconstrued and underappreciated the way they would be in this discussion? is there even an outcome to this where you feel truly satisfied? are their people who are more worthy of hearing your thoughts who arent part of this audience? is this a conversation that is best held online where so much communicative nuance is inevitably sacrificed?
in the end these are all just practices in remembering how in control you are. and that goes for if any of these are scary or too difficult sounding too! these all become less scary if you remember that as soon as anything becomes too uncomfortable or painful, you have all the power to stop doing it, make a change, and try again later. so much of advice for quitting bad habits can be intimidating because the pressure and the shame that would come from failing scares you out of the possible benefits of trying - just go ahead and kill that shame from the jump. of course youre going to fail! you are going to have setbacks! thats part of it! you have agency in this, always. the internet is not inherently or completely evil nor good. build trust in yourself to make the calls on when it is serving you and when it isnt on a case-by-case basis, and then give yourself permission to learn through trial and error.
and remember you are worth all of this effort. i believe in us <3
No bond is stronger than a girl and the YouTuber she formed a parasocial relationship with in 2015
Can we talk about the fact that Nooro and Duusu have been missing for like a good hundred years. Like Tikki and Plagg being really chill about Nooro and Duusu being held captive, like mate, you haven't seen them in 100 years!
This has really changed the way I see master Fu and ladybug. Like, Master Fu has done presumably nothing for years on end about trying to get Nooro and Duusu back. I know Ladybug is trying to defeat Hawkmoth, but it just feels like battling "monster of the week" then actually trying to free these poor kwamis. And can we get a bit of sympathy for Nooro. My poor guy is STILL being tortured and enslaved. This baby hasn't seen his friends or his master for a CENTURY. I suppose they are all reunited at the end of season 4 but like still. They get trapped in these wee compartments and can't even move or like speak to each other. How unbelievably sad.
NO CANON DYNAMIC YET. QUICK, THROW OUT HYPOTHETICALS
My all-time favourite youtubers decided to stop posting in july. I truly can't believe that people I have followed for 5 years now are just- gone? Parasocial relationships going hard right now.
Yes, I have "childish" interests, aesthetics and behaviors. No, I am not ashamed
Bitches be like ‘I’m so tired and sleepy’ and then stay up doing hyperfixtation shit for the next 5 hours
take a break while watching this little bunny cross your dash
I hope everyone heals soon 🌱
Here are your pretty flowers
🌹🌸🌻🌷🌼💐🪷🌺
For trying each day.
Don't laugh at people or mock people who are "childish". People are allowed to like things that are considered "childish". Toys, kids cartoons, anything like that can be a valuable source of comfort for the people who like them. It's important to have things in life that make you happy, and without them it gets miserable. Wether that thing is stuffed animals or cooking or writing lyrics, what's important is that others don't ridicule and belittle them for it. There shouldn't be such judgement for the things that make people happy.
why are we here? just to suffer? every 5 minutes i have to clean my glasses
Petition for the Greek Temples to be rebuilt, so that I can pray to the gods in all their glory
When you step into sunlight, you honor Apollo. When you admire the moon, you honor Artemis. When you admire cloud shapes, you honor Hera. When you smell petrichor, you honor Zeus. When you laugh at a joke, you honor Hermes. When your body twitches to dance at a particularly upbeat music, you honor Dinoysus. When you enjoy the first bite of your breakfast, you honor Demeter. When you choose your peace over any conflict, you honor Athena. When you warm yourself up by sheltering yourself in blanket, you honor Hestia. When you listen to Ocean sounds, you honor Poseidon. When you smell flowers, you honor Persephone. When you admire the coolness of first day of Autumn, you honor Hades. When you wear your favourite jewellery, you honor Hephaestus. When you smile, you honor Aphrodite. When you exercise, you honor Ares. When you light a torch in a dark room, you honor Hekate.
Your body is a shrine to Gods, your being an act of devotion for them. You, by yourself, are enough for them.
Aphrodite who cries for the people who hurt themselves because self love is love too
Artemis who doesn’t hunt animals anymore (humans do it enough) She now walks in clubs looking to hunt the real animal
Athena who donates hundreds of books to local libraries and schools
Apollo who watches all street musicians hoping their talents can get them a little money (He gives more than a little)
Dionysus who watches over everyone’s drinks at the bar making sure they stay safe
Zeus who makes it rain for the couples that just want to frolic and dance and kiss in the rain
Hera who donates to woman’s and SA survivors shelters
Ares who is at the forefront of every protest because those are battles too
Hestia who holds and keeps thousands of secrets so the ones who whispered them into flame don’t have to
Hades who let’s families get one last goodbye to a loved one before they die
Persephone who personally makes sure that the ones taken too early feel safe and secure in the Underworld
Demeter who gives Her best crops to food banks and homeless shelters
Hecate who is a street magician and does actual magical for the kids
Poseidon who finds the best seashells and leaves them on the beach for someone to find and treasure
the Gods aren’t gone they ARE the little things in life
— Aphrodite is iridescence, like the shimmer of pearls and seashells, like glittering jewels in the sea
I need to appease the Hyper fixation Gods lest I become an enemy of the state. ANYONE GOT ANYTHING?! EVEN ONES IVE HAD BEFORE IM BEGGING YOU HERE
You don’t realize how important hyperfixations are to someone with adhd until you’re in between hyperfixations and you’re bored but don’t really feel motivated enough to do anything and everything you try feels like a chore and you’re just kind of sitting there existing because nothing really inspires interest or motivation and you feel like the living embodiment of the word “meh”.
ehm I'm afraid to say that mine are Harry potter (marauders obvs), Audhd, greek gods and mlb
what’s everyone’s weird/fucked up interest/special interest/hyperfixation
(doesn’t have to be a special interest but bonus points if it is your special interest)
sorry i didn’t respond for 17 hours i was hyperfixating on something that did not need that much attention
TV writers will come up with vaguely weird & awkward mannerisms for a character and unwittingly craft exemplary autism representation, then try to write an explicitly autistic character and commit a hate crime
TV writers will come up with vaguely weird & awkward mannerisms for a character and unwittingly craft exemplary autism representation, then try to write an explicitly autistic character and commit a hate crime
Things that society considers autism an excuse for
Nazi salutes
sexual assault
Things that society considers autism not an excuse for and things that people think children who do should be met with violence
using the wrong tone
showing too much or too little emotion
asking questions and having an authority figure take it as "arguing"
I hate when people ask me about my preference but I don’t understand their preference level. Like yes I kinda want Chinese food 10% more than I want a sandwich but if you want a sandwich like 40% more than Chinese food then I would say it’s totally reasonable we get sandwiches.
Adults: Following rules is good, not following rules is bad
Little me: Okay :] *follows a rule*
Adults: Oh my god look at this loser. He doesn't know that this rule is Secretly Okay To Not Follow. Dumbass. Let's all laugh at him