What “feeling Better” Can Look Like After Using A Coping Technique:

It's okay to 'grieve' things that aren't just death. I've allowed myself to grieve a friendship ending, a situationship, losing something important to me, etc. It's okay to give yourself time to process the loss of something. Grief looks different for everyone, try to find a way that works for you to help make it easier for you.

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Challenging irrational thoughts

Step 1 - Identify the thought and if possible, why you’re having it.

The first step to challenging a thought is to identify it. If it’s helpful to you, consider writing it out.

Example 1: My friend doesn’t want to be friends anymore. I think this because we usually talk a lot more and lately they’ve been quieter.

Example 2: I’m a failure and can’t do anything. I think this because I messed up and got a bad grade.

Step 2 - Look for exceptions

This involves looking out for similar situations that had ended differently than is being assumed.

Example 1: This has happened before, and it turned out that they were busier than usual with final exams.

Example 2: When my friends get bad grades, I never think they are a failure.

Step 3 - Find evidence to the contrary

Example 1: Last week, she told me how important I was to her and that she missed me.

Example 2: I’ve done a lot of things successfully. I helped a friend through a breakdown yesterday. I got a good grade on another assignment. I passed my drivers test.

Step 4 - Replace it with an alternate thought

When it comes to an alternate thought, if you can put a positive spin on it that’s great. But I find that hard, so I try and find a neutral thought.

Example 1: It’s likely my friend has something going on and she will reach out to me when she’s ready.

Example 2: Failing one assignment doesn’t make me a failure. I’m not defined by any one thing.

Anyway, you are going to get hotter, richer, smarter, healthier etc because you love yourself sooooo much!!! I love that for you!!

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um being a person? exhausting at times. but still there is breakfast to make

Recovery is a conscious choice. Life might feel really hopeless. It might even feel like everything is falling apart. Sometimes you have to take really small steps. Celebrate the tiniest victories, like taking a shower or leaving your apartment. You don't have to wait for the circumstances to be perfect to start changing your life for the better.

I just want to take this moment and say I'm glad you're here. As hard and as terrible the world might seem, it is equally majestic and beautiful, and I'm glad you have a chance to be here and see it and be a part of that beauty. Thank you for being you. Thank you for continuing to be here. I am immensely proud of you and all you've done.