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Reassurance Masterlist

My blog is mostly harsh to read, so here’s every reassuring post I made:

When you feel it “wasn’t that bad”

How loving parents act towards their kids

You’ve done enough to try and understand your parents

Abuse towards you cannot be justified

Abuse and trauma have no benefits

When you feel you weren’t abused enough

There was nothing you could have done differently to avoid abuse

It’s not your fault you feel like you don’t belong

Talking about abuse isn’t whining

Craving abuse is not your fault

Self-harming is not your fault

Intrusive thoughts are not your fault

Nobody in your situation would be able to get it together

Needing attention, comfort and validation is normal and human

You’re allowed to feel your feelings

You cannot provoke abuse, and you did not ask for it

Abuser’s point of view is not valid

Abusive parents can’t tell you who you are

Responsibility for abuse lies on abuser, not on you

Your pain is not a burden on others

When you struggle to call yourself a survivor

You do not deserve abuse even if you feel addicted to it

Your abuser didn’t have to hurt you

Nobody made them abuse you

Your future won’t be lost even if you can’t move forward right now

You are alive because of yourself

There are good things in you even if you don’t see it

Your problem isn’t that you’re not good enough

You can make up for everything abuse damaged in you

Relapses are not your fault and can be time-related

Craving abuse can mean you’re only craving comfort

Survivors of abuse will strive to create an environment of compassion

Trump Is Trying to Undermine Native Tribes' Right to Govern Themselves

The action may breach the Supremacy Clause of the Constitution.

I reblogged this last night. But it disapeared. This is incredibly important. Under the guise of Medicaide reform, Native american tribes are going to lose federal recognition.

This is cultural genocide.  Please spread this aruond. Colonizers especially.

in batman 2022 bruce wayne's parents were killed in 2001 he would have been like 10? i think. the black parade was released in 2006 when he would have been ambiguously high school aged and obviously very emo and unpopular. what i'm saying here is that i think battinson heard the lyrics "when i was a young boy my father took me into the city to see a marching band he said son when you grow up will you be the savior of the broken, the beaten, and the damned" and decided to become batman then and there.

An old and homely grandmother accidentally summons a demon. She mistakes him for her gothic-phase teenage grandson and takes care of him. The demon decides to stay at his new home.

Kiss Art February // Day 8 : "Shy"

Find a soul that doesn’t lose appreciation once they are used to you.

Abusive parents are the only ones who go convincing their children they don’t deserve basic resources and need to be grateful for being allowed to have any. First, you have to be grateful for having a roof under your head, then you have to be grateful that you get to eat food, then you have to express gratitude for being able to own clothing, then for being allowed basic resources like books and a bag so you can go to school, you have to be grateful for a ride, for a bed to sleep in, for being allowed to live.

These are not things that should require any gratitude. Every child brought in this world has every right to food, shelter, comfort, clothing and any other resource they need to feel safe and happy and to develop all the interests and hobbies they want to. Anything else is unacceptable. Do we bring children in this world just to have them fear for their own lives? Do we have children so we could starve them, have them hurt or killed with cold and heat, to deny them living space and right to comfort? Do we bring children in the world so we could torture them? If not, then there’s no fucking reason they should be grateful they aren’t being killed on purpose.

What abusive parents are trying to do is make the child feel it’s not allowed to exist anywhere past the boundaries the parents set. If they can convince a child they don’t have a right to living space, next thing they can convince the child is that having their personal living space is selfish, that they’re taking living space from someone else, who actually deserves it,  and acting out of bounds when they want to move out. It makes sure children don’t ask for money, so they can’t accumulate money and escape. Hell, it even makes sure that when children are offered money they don’t feel they’ve earned, they’ll refuse it, and it will make it a lot harder for children to get financially safe and independent if they come into adulthood strongly believing they deserve nothing. They will work for next to no wages. They will struggle so hard. Survival will become something terrifying and out of bounds and will force them to come back to parents.

You take your living space as you please. You eat and spend all you can. You take everything and live wherever you want. The assholes don’t get to tell you what you deserve or not. The monsters don’t get to define where or how you’re allowed to exist. Those who would force gratitude for things you have every right to, actually have nothing on you. You do not owe them shit. You were in fact, entitled to the living space the second you were born. You were entitled to food and clothes and any resource you needed. What’s more, you were entitled to loving parents who would make sure you grow up unharmed, healthy and with the best start in life they could have possibly given you. You were entitled to more than they ever gave you. It’s them who owe you a childhood. It’s them who owe you a home and a family. Not you who owes them because sometimes they would remember they in fact had a kid, and it was in fact, illegal not to feed and clothe them. Fuck the guilt tripping. You deserve more than they gave you. 

It's officially Banned Books Week, so now is as good a time as any to remind everyone that libraries still get frequent challenges to books on our shelves. Books continue to be challenged, banned, and even burned. I'm a librarian in a blue state, yet one of my neighboring libraries has recently been the target of book bannings and threats of violence (they had to shut down an all-ages LGBTQ event due to these threats too).

Please support your local libraries. If you want more books by queer and disabled authors and authors of color, TELL US. Give us recommendations. Check out books and ebooks when we get them in. Tell us when you write books too. We're here to make information and stories accessible.

P.S. And if you notice patrons or staff acting like assholes (particularly managers) please let someone know. Library government is weird, so a lot of libraries aren't union and also don't have any sort of HR. Trust me, if you frequently notice someone being a jerk, chances are good everyone else has to and has been stonewalled.