I keep getting harassed for my abusive past actions even though i'm trying my best to recover and said sorry, it makes me feel sometimes like I'm unfixable and just destined to be a monster forever, and that I deserve to feel in pain, how do I move on from that?
You aren't a monster or incapable of change. All you can really do though is keep your side of the street clean; keep doing better, and give yourself grace. We are allowed to be kind to ourselves, even when no one else is. We can't change the past, and we can't change how it affects other people, nor their response to what happened. I know it's a sucky thing to accept, and accepting that doesn't make any of those permanent, dehumanizing judgements true.
You are who you are today; not who you were before you learned better. Set boundaries as you need to, and remember there will always be people who will support and love you. People are complicated and far from perfect. There is a future for you, and that future can be bright and peaceful. Just stick around and keep going, and you'll find it. ♡
Julian K. Jarboe, “As Tender Feet of Cretan Girls Danced Once Around an Altar of Love.” Everyone on the Moon is Essential Personnel
Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it
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An Internal Persecutor is an alter who's persecutory behaviors target the system itself, whether it be other alters or otherwise internally. [An Internal Persecutor typically doesn't target those outside the body.]
coined by @destructionsys !! flag by @littlest-bugz [aka us!]
BASIC COLOR MEANINGS
Dark Red ; The negative feelings associated with being a persecutor
Medium Red ; The pain caused to the system by the persecutory behaviors
Bright Red ; The persecutory behaviors the persecutor participates in
Black ; The targeting of the system
White ; The safety those on the outside have
Light Grey ; Representing the system as a whole, all alters in the system
Dark Grey ; Representing the pain inflicted on other alters of the system
Darkest Grey ; Representing the negative feelings towards the system.
— June Gehringer, ‘I get so jealous of euthanized dogs’ (via lunamonchtuna)
Why try to fit in when I can become the most offputting and haunted individual in the family bloodline.
-Margaret Atwood, Selected Poems 1: 1965-1975
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