Aspec - Blog Posts

Here’s a silly little metaphor for my aroace experience, as someone who grew up with romcoms and shipping and “romanticised” romance. Because I can’t express my emotions in a non-jokey way.

CW: kind of a vent so it’s a bit depressing

It’s like someone who really wants to eat meat, has to be vegan. Not by choice, but because they physically can’t eat meat. Let’s say they’re allergic or something.

Sure, there’s vegan substitutes for meat and milk etc, like facon (fake bacon) and vegan cheese. And sometimes, it tastes good, maybe even better than the real deal.

But they’ve heard of how great meat tastes, and to such details that they can imagine the exact sensation. Though they’ve never had a bite, they’ve always thought that one day, they’d be able to eat all the meat in the world.

Recently, it dawned on them that they can never take a bite. And they’re fine with that, they have to be. Eventually, they move on with their life. They try to avoid thinking of meat as much.

They see people eating meat, everywhere. And it’s much more noticeable, now that you know you’ll never be able to taste it. And you get more curious, and jealous. You want to ignore it, but people eating meat is all around you, it can’t be ignored.

And the way people describe the taste is so glorious that you can’t help but feel happy seeing other people enjoy their meat. You feel happy thinking about the unattainable. But at the end of the day, that only makes you feel more miserable and empty inside

I got two bingos.

I’m somewhere on the ace spectrum and I believe I’m demiromanic (I haven’t explored romantic attraction/the aromantic spectrum in a while, though).

💜

Found This On Reddit

So Of Corse i Had To Fill It In

Didn't Get a Bingo Unfortunately

HOW DID I NOT KNOW THAT INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY WAS TODAY?!?

Drew this last year. Here you go. This was supposed to be a profile pic for one of my accounts. I’ll try to draw something better to add to this, but this was all I had right now.

No, wait, because why is this literally me……

Aroace Experiences We Don't Talk About Enough (Infographic)

Icon Credits: hands with hearts - @blackholemojis face holding flag - @sammywammyclone paw - @paw-pride hug - @eldritch-emojis gem - @genderdoomed

Some @'s for reach: @our-aroace-experience @gray-ace-space @aroaceculture @acespec-ed @acexualien @cordwaner @asexualadvice @aromantic-diaries @aroacespecsafeplace @arospec-daybook

aroace flag but it's colorpicked from this image of tintin :)

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

Actually if you liked Redwall as a kid you’re

a-spec now. Sorry I don’t make the rules

every one of my dnd PCs

accidentally made all my ocs aspec. oops

if you support aspecs but you think microlabels are "weird" or "niche" then you don't actually support aspecs 👍 hope this helps!

why we got the same flags tho 🤨

aroace 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

aro 💚💚🤍🩶🖤

ace 🖤🩶🤍💜

apagender 🤎💜🤍🩶

genderqueer 💜🤍💚

rabies pride ♥️❤️🤍🩶🖤

make your pride flag(s) with heart emojis!

i’ll start:

aroace 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

aro 💚💚🤍🩶🖤

ace 🖤🩶🤍💜

agender 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤

apagender 🤎💜🤍🩶

genderqueer 💜🤍💚

lots of purple and green apparently!!

tagging @thediamondarcher @more-mousebites @paintedwingz @theo-zino-saurus @corryglover @the-world-wont-listenn @nobigdealeojustkeepitrealeo @bebop-robyn @cryingintoyourpillow & anyone else who would like to!!

For Ace week I will be posting about as many Asexual identities under the umbrella! I did Ansexual but now lets do some more!

(I'm Ansexual and Aegosexual, I personally think it's gross- but whatever floats your boat I guess....)

First the Asexual Flag! An Asexual or commonly Ace is someone who feels little to no sexual attraction.

Next Aceflux! Acelux is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum. It is defined as someone whose sexual orientation fluctuates but generally stays on the asexual spectrum. An aceflux individual may feel very strongly asexual one day and less asexual another day, they might feel demisexual or greysexual at times. Some aceflux individuals may feel like they are allosexual at times. (Yes I copy and pasted it, :p) There Are three flags, all three apply and if you choose or realize you might be this then you can choose whichever!

Nowwwwww onto Aegosexual. Aegosexual, also known as autochorissexual, is a term used to describe individuals on the asexual spectrum who feel disconnected from the subject of arousal. Although they may partake in such actions having to do with it. You can search up and learn more from other sources on the internet as well!

Next up is Autosexual, people are more attracted to themselves than to others. I'm giving basic descriptions on them and you can continue further research! Here's those flags!

Onto Cupiosexual. Cupiosexual are people who have a desire for sexual activity but do not experience sexual attraction

Swinging towards Demisexual, Demisexuals are  Individuals who only experience sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional connection.

That's all for now!

@leafiles

@panromanticturtle

I'm not a professional, nor do I know much about aspec labels, but I think you are aroflux. Again, I myself am still learning about the labels and discovering myself. From what you're saying, you sound like you are, in fact, aroflux which is ok!

am I aroflux?

So some days I really love my partner and wanna stay with him for years to come but other days I don’t really like him in a romantic way very much if at all so what do you think?

I, being female, have a lot of male friends, and my sister has joked about my best friend and I getting together even though the two of us are fine with being friends. You 👏 are 👏 allowed 👏 to 👏 be 👏 just 👏 friends 👏 with 👏 the 👏 opposite 👏 gender 👏!

Pride Month and The Aphobic Stereotypes

With Pride Month being here we will unfortunately see a lot of aphobia. The usual:

'you just haven't found the right one'

'are you x because you have suffered?'

'sex/romance is everything!'

'you're like an innocent child'

'you're a monster for not feeling (romantic) love'

'how can you write/draw smut or enjoy smut art if you're asexual?'

'how can you write/draw romance or enjoy romance art if you're aromantic?'

'you're going to die alone/be miserable without a partner!'

'that person can't be your friend; must be your lover/crush'

No aphobia allowed. Asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum. We're not all the same. I'm a sex-repulsed and romance-repulsed aro/ace. If you want to learn more research and kindly ask around. So Happy Pride Month to Aromantics, Asexuals, and Aroaces!

y’all

aro and ace are trending?? on the eve of pride month?? this year is for the aspecs for real

Ponias reaction to Valentine's Day comments

Valentine's Day post ✨💖

im pretty chill with being single but they, oh they just HAVE to be extra Gay today.

well its better for more art if them.

<- satou🏳️‍🌈 &(both are gay) Iraka🏳️‍🌈 ->

This. This exactly ^

tbh the aspec community has a bit of a problem with people assuming they're the only person they'll ever know who wants what they want. like it's a reasonable assumption bc of how society at large tells you you're the weird one, but I get the sense a lot of people here actually believe they will never meet people who want things like intimate platonic relationships, or romance without sex, etc... this assumption is making it harder to come to terms with being aspec if you're hopeless that no one will ever be like you. odds are you WILL meet other people who want these things because there are actually a lot of people out there waiting for you too. you're not the only one and it's not impossible.

Pride chibi!!

Alan, transmasc + demi aroace

Been thinking about the book Loveless lately, so I couldn’t resist drawing some fanart of Georgia!

After I started reading Heartstopper, my friend recommended Loveless to me. All throughout I related to Georgia even more than I had any fictional character in the past. During the scene when Sunil was telling Georgia was asexual and aromantic meant, I teared up.

That was the moment I realized I’m aroace.

This book is beautiful and it helped me in ways I don’t even think I fully understand. Thank you so much Alice Oseman. 💙🩵🤍💛🧡

Hi, I’m the one who asked this ask(?) and I have actually thought of identifying as either demiplatonic or greyplatonic in the past and after some looking into it I’ve decided that greyplatonic is the best fit for me between the two

So, I already know that I'm aromantic and that I don't experience romantic attraction like at all, but I'm not so sure about my platonic attraction. I know I love my friends, but I don't feel the need to befriend people when I first meet them. Rarely tho if someone approaches me first in the hopes of becoming friends and we talk and get along then I might think "hey this person is really cool I want to get to know them more". It usually take a while (tho not to long maybe a month or so) before I even consider someone a friend.

Would this be considered part (?) of the apl-spec?

that sounds a lot like demiplatonic definitely, but use whatever labels fit nicest for you

Source | Day 225

The bisexual to aroace pipeline is pretty much having the right idea and coming to the wrong conclusion. Yeah buddy you're not straight and you're also not gay. No not like that though, the other way around

The thought of someone having a crush on me is wonderful! I adore the thought of being the object of someone's idolization and affection. It's very validating and I enjoy it :)

And yet I, ironically, absolutely despise finding out people hold such feelings for me. It's akward, and I've never even came close to reciprocating such feeling. Every time I've actually felt anything similar to a "crush", it completely dissipated after: 1) I knew them better, 2) I found out they reciprocated it, or 3) it just disappeared into thin air, for whatever reason.

Alright, from the top guys!

Acespec = Asexual spectrum, from asexual, to demi, to ageosexual etc.

Arospec = Aromantic spectrum, from aromantic to demi to ageo and on.

Aspec: Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender spectrums.

Whenever i hear my friends talk about crushes or relationships i get really confused. Like, one of my friends was talking about how this guy (one he's hard-core pining for) called him "dear", and how happy(?) he was about it. And i'm just ???What???? Why is that good?? it just sounds really uncomfortable to me,,, Like i get platonic(?) crushes, i've had many of those, but i lack much understanding of romantic ones...

i've never really understood what people meant when they said they find people "hot" or attractive. i've seen people as pretty and nice to look at, certainly, but i've never quite understood the concept of physical attraction. i <3 being in a QPR, though, those are wonderful.

i'm quoiromantic, because i know i don't really feel romantic attraction the same amount as the average person, but i also know that i couldn't tell you the difference between platonic and romantic affection/attraction if you were to ask me.

as long as the DM is "hey can we be friends" and not "hey 😏 wanna be friends 😏😘"

Reblog if

It’s 104% okay to come to your DM and just say, “Hi, can we be friends?” And then start asking you random questions.