We Need More Men Like Him

I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.

Boston hospital REMOVES dying father-of-two, 31, from top of heart transplant list because he's not vaccinated: His father says 'my son has gone to the edge of death to stick to his guns'

Mail Online

Boston man, 31, removed from transplant list because he isn't vaxxed

DJ Ferguson, a 31-year-old father-of-two was taken off the list for a heart transplant at a Boston hospital because he is unvaccinated, even

What an asshole 😡

I’ve been noticing omething, and I am curious if @flamingdumpsterkittn and @accidental-muse and the other women speaking up are noticing it, too. The silence of men. The deafening silence of them. All these men that called him brother in their reblogs, why so quiet now?

If I found out someone I called brother had been actively preying on women I’d be hard-pressed not to publicly shame them. But that’s me. I lost a 50K blog speaking up and none of the women he preyed on were friends of mine or even acquaintances. Strangers to me.

So here is my prediction: all the men in this community? they are all praying this blows over or that they can just label women speaking up as crazy and keep being in satellite orbit around a predator beause of all the kink girls they find there. If they make the crazy label stick they can keep doing what they do: staying silent in the face of this and choosing instead to be endlessly reblogging photos of half-naked skinny white girls looking lustfully at the camera which they caption Sir knows you are a good girl 🖤🍾💣🗝🖤.

Here is my other prediction: if the crazy label doesnt stick, at some point a few, and then more and more of these same men, snowball effect style, will then start posting, weeks and months after this all came out, about how they just knew something was off with ole 144 the whole time. Some might even pretend they were out here the whole time, warning people, its just that post got deleted by their girlfriend in Canada, or that they were somehow, like heros, working behind the scenes to stop him. But they wont speak until some ridiculously large critical mass of women’s pain occurs, and thst might not happen because for them to decide to say anything, a LOT of women are going to have to drag their shame out in public and let people gawk for entertainment. Slap a popcorn eating gif on their pain.

These two reactions? This why men like ole 144 get away with it. Men enable it. His brothers enable it. If you are a man and he is your mutual and you said nothing yesterday, while blogging inane musings or dull porn, you are pathetic. Full stop. And now women know something about you: when the chips are down you will always choose being comfortable over doing the right thing. Sit with that deficit of character for awhile, while you write your blog posts about leadership and accountabilty and community.

don’t kill yourself. you need to see elon musk’s downfall first

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE BACK!

My friend Jayden Baez was brutally shot infront of a walmart after 2 passengers in his car were acused of stealing pokemon carde and pizza. Jayden never went into the store, he was simply the driver. Jayden was shot 6 times in the chest and twice in his hands. Joseph (passenger) was shot 3 times in each hand and was forced to have a finger amputated. Michael (passenger) was shot 3 times in the back. Police brutality is a real thing ! Jayden 20, Joseph 19, and Michael 18. I grew up with these kids ! Jayden was my bestfriend ! Police Brutality needs to stop. Theres an ongoing investigation, the cops that shot him havent released their names and they resigned from their work force. Why ? because they know they fucked up. Jaydens story needs to be heard. LLJ

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