I follow the path of Chastity because it is the path to the purification of Self. If you wish to learn the gnosis concerning the path of Chastity:
As explained in the attached video, the difference between Chastity and Celibacy is that Chastity is remaining without orgasm and transmuting your sexual energy into Pure Love. Celibacy is remaining without orgasm but the energy is stagnant resulting in the same damage caused by having orgasms. Sexual energy is transmuted through meditation and you will be cured of all diseases.
According to Gnostic Teachings, one can transmute energy by not having an orgasm as the orgasm slowly destroys the brain and you lose the sacred oil needed to restore the Third Eye (sex causes spiritual blindness). Without Chastity, it is not possible to reach the heights of Divinity because forgoing the seconds-long orgasm is considered a sacrifice for Cosmic Knowledge. This is the only way to obtain it. It can't be pondered on or read in a book, so all these people talking about sensuality, eroticism, sexuality, yet speak on being awakened are lying as there is a trade-off for all actions one engages in. The exchange for instant gratification is their potential for Awakening.
Selflessness is required when you are on the path of Christ-Consciousness because it is the path of the healer. Retaining your energy to perform meditation is required; if you do not have energy there is nothing to transmute. It is impossible to meditate when you are spending your sexual energy on orgasms. When you engage in sex meditation is futile which is why so many people struggle with it - when you save your energy and begin meditating regularly you will experience the ecstacy people say they get from sex, but this bliss is permanent. This is possibly the serotonin people speak of missing when they experience depression or other mental illnesses but they are resistant to the truth so they deal with depression for decades and some even their whole lives.
The definition of sex varies, but orgasm is considered sex regardless of the sexuality you label yourself. This includes masturbation. With that said, if you are not on the path of Chastity you would disagree with this, but not everybody is here to follow this path where lust is hell and orgasm is the death. Not everybody on Earth is interested in restoring their emotional centers or even having a Soul or a higher purpose and that is their karma.
I think there's another reason. Go on say it. You know what it is.
That's another thing I've noticed about feminism. There's a heavy focus on mother's needs and wants because they're the "creators" of every nation/country. Most of those mothers aren't even feminist (whatever that means anymore) and are still attached to XY partners. There's hardly ever been a focus on young women and girls, single women, child free women, spinsters, etc. Just women and girls who have opted out of or are not entirely a part of the world's machine.
Most mother-worshipping communities seem to only value the woman's presence as an incubator. Young girls are therefore dismissed from all praise and consideration until they reach their menstrual cycles. Only then is society hell-bent on uplifting them as baby makers in the making, not as individuals with the potential for actual empowerment. Young girls can't foresee a future without an XY because modern feminism has always been teaching them how to complain about circumstances that were avoidable for the most part. Their mothers have used feminism to complain about their own mistakes - heck, most of those young girls were their "mistakes" - then project those mistakes onto their daughters, telling them they won't do any better. That's practically the generational "curses" taking place. They're birthed with their mothers wanting them to suffer too (if they weren't wishing for a son the whole time, that is).
what made you move away from feminism, if you don't mind me asking?
My personal desire to do so. I'm not going to blame the movement. The more time you spend around women, the more you realize how male-centric their aspirations are. Opting out of reproduction and sexual gratification is oppression to them. Feminism is about making women's lives with men more palatable. I believe that attraction to men is oppressive, let alone acting out on it. My life started improving in earnest once I completely distanced myself from men and the women who made me doubt my judgement, cue feminist circles. Women are either unaware of what men are - read this book - , or thoroughly unintelligent because emotional fulfillment can absolutely be substituted. Women's pursuit of male affection is that of potential debasement and endurance. I say, why endure at all? If you cannot comprehend this question, we are unlikely to understand each other.
We were together. I forget the rest.
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The human brain is always open to change. Even if it takes baby steps, acknowledging how porn has affected you can be the first step. Society has uplifted it for so long and many have fallen victim to it. Now is the time to seek help and improve our mental healthš.
as radical feminists, we know we live in a society poisoned by porn on a global scale. if you are one of the many women who has fallen prey to the porn industry and are trapped in the cycle of degrading participation in viewing porn, no matter the origins of your usage, just know that you are not alone and that thereās hope for you. read this essay with an open mind - take what works for you and leave the rest.
BE AWARE OF NEUROPLASTICITY first off - your brain is not in stasis (like scientists used to believe!). discovering and understanding the concept of neuroplasticity was a first step in my healing process. neuroplasticity is defined as the brainās ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment. neural pathways are simply connections between parts of your nervous system that have formed from patterns of thinking. iād suggest taking some time to learn about neuroplasticity - thereās some very good articles & videos online!
so what does neuroplasticity mean in relation to porn use? we know that your brain is affected by porn, but you are not permanently pornsick. you are not doomed! hereās what happened: every time you had an orgasm to porn, the neural pathway between groinal response/arousal/orgasm and the stimuli of porn use was strengthened. the neural pathway for groinal responses/arousal/orgasm from stimuli that ISNāT porn is weaker and not in use. thatās why it can feel like porn is the only thing that turns you on or that gets you off, or you can lose groinal response to situations (like consensual & healthy sexual interaction with people youāre actually attracted to) that you feel like you should be turned on by.
Ā if youāve been using porn since a really young age and/or extremely heavily, your brain will be more affected, because the effects on your brain are culumative and neuroplasticity is more intense before adulthood. even still: you are not doomed. it takes a lot of time and a lot of effort to rewire your brain by avoiding the old neural pathways and using and establishing the new and healthy ones, but with that time and effort there will be progress. a healthy, loving sexuality is worth fighting for.
DONāT HAVE ORGASMS TO PORN so now that we know about neuroplasticity and neural pathways, we know they can be tackled. not having any orgasms to thoughts about porn or porn is the way to do this, combined with working on having orgasms to thoughts of healthy sex! iām going to share how i did this on a personal level. again, feel free to take what works for you and leave the rest.
when i was having sex or masturbating, if i had any intrusive thoughts about porn or violent/pornagraphic sex, i had a process for stopping those neural pathways from activating. when trying to have an orgasm, if i was thinking about porn/violence, i would physically stop trying to orgasm and then try to clear my mind. when i wasnāt thinking about the porn imagery any more, i would continue. if this was happening over and over again, i would stop all the way and decide i would try again later.
iāve been asked what to think about instead and it really varies person to person. if youāre not ready to fantasize, try to just focus on the physical sensations and keep your mind clear of thoughts of sex. when youāre feeling ready and less in danger of fantasizing about porn or violent sex, using healthy & loving sexual fantasies is great too, especially if you use them while you orgasm. it is normal to not have the same intense groinal response to these fantasies as you do to porn and doesnāt mean youāre doing anything wrong or that youāll never have normal arousal responses. it just takes time.
an important detail: if you have sexual partners, itās very important to be aware of how your reliance on porn affects the sex you have with them. if you are unable to orgasm with another partner without thoughts of porn, it will most likely be necessary to stop having sex while you work on healing your sexuality, which brings us to the next section. SUPPORT FROM LOVED ONES when you are struggling with porn, you need people on your side. if you have a sexual partner(s), you especially need them on your side. this is an intense journey and involves a lot of shame, especially if youāre a woman with radical politics. shame and isolation are huge barriers to recovery for any person struggling with any kind of addiction. if people donāt know what youāre going through and how youāre trying to fix it, how can they help you?
if your sexual partner is not understanding of this situation, i would urge you to examine that relationship. if you donāt seem to be able to make them understand the seriousness of this situation or if you struggling with this causes serious sexual incompatibility, it may not be the right relationship for you.
dependency on porn for sexual arousal is a very painful and frightening thing to combat, especially when so much of it is accompanied by sexual abuse and trauma. finding friends who are struggling the way you are and having a plan of action together can be really helpful. for example, having a friend who has the information to some sort of parental lock or filter on your phone or computer can be a good barrier. yes, pretty much any filter is by-passable, but that extra step can sometimes be all you need to say wait, i donāt want to do this, and reach out to a friend for help. that help can be serious talk about how porn has affected you or doing something fun and distracting until the urge has passed. feel it out.
KNOW THAT POLITICAL AWARENESS MAY NOT BE A FIX iāve had multiple women confess miserably that understanding what the women in porn are going through didnāt stop their porn use, and the continued use after that knowledge made them feel even more ashamed and isolated than before. being a female person that uses porn doesnāt make you immune to the effects of it - it causes us to see women as objects. iāve found that often the lack of empathy for the women we are watching mirrors the lack of empathy we feel for ourselves. many women consume porn that mirrors the kind of sexual abuse theyāve experienced or fetishizes specific oppressions that they face. i donāt think this is a coincidence.
it is frightening and disturbing when your eyes are open to the horror that is the porn industry, the physical and mental toll performing in pornography takes, the sex trafficking involved, and all the other details, and still once that video is on, it doesnāt make a difference. that is what porn does to your brain. itās an awful truth that you cannot rely on your sense of empathy to help you stop watching porn, because the porn itself has attacked that empathy so wholly. but that brings us to our next tip
MOTIVATE YOURSELF THROUGH RAGE righteous female anger and spite are an excellent motivators. framing your actions to yourself as actions of defiance is helpful in a lot of situations, but i think especially helpful in this one.
on a political level: learning about what women go through in the sex industry isnāt enough - but learning about the men who have created this, fostered this, and prospered from this is a whole new ball game. pimps, pornographers, and sex traffickers want you to watch porn. pornography corporations and pornography CEOs want you to watch porn. they want the ad revenue. they want you to be pornsick so you come back for more. they donāt care how much harm they do to performers or porn consumers, all they care about is the money. on this level, not watching porn is an act of resistance against a violent industry, a capitalist venture that has left nothing but ruin on an unimaginable scale in its wake. they donāt care about rapes or serial murders committed by porn addicts. they donāt care about the new rise of child on child sexual abuse where little kids are molesting and violently raping each other. they donāt care about the suicides and the drug addiction and the trafficking. they just want your mind so they can have your money. are you going to give it to them?
on a personal level, if you were exposed to porn by someone who sexually abused you and/or someone who was sexually abused and just passing it on, i am so fucking angry for you, and i hope you can get angry too. that never should have happened. if someone wanted you to act out porn, or wanted you to think porn was normal, iām angry at them, and iām angry at whoever taught them that, and back into that lineage of rape culture forever. porn wants you to feel like a fuckhole. porn wants you to feel like your worth is what a man wants to do to you. porn wants you to feel like an object. and not just you - all your female friends, your female relatives, little tiny girls. do you want us all to feel like fuckholes? no. thatās NOT what we are. get angry. grief comes in many forms and righteous female rage is one of them.
if you get the urge to look up porn - turn to these emotions instead. be angry at who did this to you on a personal or political level. say fuck you, iām not going to do what you told me i should do, iām not who you told me i was.
MAINTENANCE ORGASMS your mileage may vary wildly on this point but iāve known many people who have a lot of trouble falling asleep without having an orgasm, or have their mood affected negatively from not having regular orgasms. but when youāre trying to stop being pornsick, reaching orgasm without porn can become extremely frustrating, causing relapses because you feel like you canāt have an orgasm without porn.
my suggestion is an powerful vibrator and/or lube. i regularly recommend the hitachi magic wand for this purpose. i used it a lot in recovery and when iām struggling because you can simply induce an orgasm in a really small amount of time, giving you less time to struggle with not using old neural pathways as possible. i know there are debatable downsides of heavy vibrator use so i donāt want to say this is the most awesome solution ever, but if you need regular orgasms to keep an even keel, this can be a solution to that.
ITāS TIME TO STOP USING PORN
you can do this. we can do this! about 3 years after quitting porn (after being introduced to it at a very young age) i started to have normal sexual arousal come back. i still struggle with relapse, especially when re-traumatized or when trauma is coming up hard. this is a journey weāre undertaking, a reclamation of our brains from a sexually violent industry that seeks to destroy us. you can heal your sexuality from porn with time and energy, and it is absolutely worth it.
this year, get angry, get real, and get clean of porn. much love to you all.
There is no way forward for either women or the planet itself without enacting female separatism and agroforestry on a mass scale. You don't have the eggs to kill every rapist, CEO, anti-abortion politician you see? That's fair. The fastest way to destroy capitalism/patriarchy is for women to walk away-- completely remove themselves in body and spirit. Without their servants/broodmares/receptacles, everything men have built crumbles-- and fast enough to save the planet besides. We walk away, protect ourselves (yes, with violence if need be), and let them burn.
Everything you eat and wear must be locally produced, scavenged, or fairly traded for-- this is the only sustainable path. We need all-female land stewards, all-female livestock keepers, all-female shipping networks, all-female builders, all-female soldiers. Girls must be brought up free of male toxicity, mediocrity, society. If you bear children, bear only daughters.
We do not have time for small gestures.
I've heard of this Quantum immortality theory before. There's this idea that we have been experiencing multiple apolocalyptic events for many years and essentially restaring humanity with each wipe out. I agree with this lady. I don't think we every truly die. Rather our consciousness could live on in an alternate reality.
It's especially odd when you consider other phenomenon like the Mandela Effect. How do some people end up believing they remember events that others believe never happened? Perhaps this is a case of some people paying more attention than others? Suddenly, those theories about the world ending on certain dates don't seem so crazy. People have theorized the world's end for centuries. More recently, people thought the world would end in 2000 (where we would experience a digital apocalypse), then in 2012 (where we would suffer cataclysmic disasters)... maybe something did come to an end in those years, but it wasn't the physical change we expected? People spit on "conspiracies", but I think it's important that at least some people are asking questions about our existence.
It's quite literally feminists' responsibility to care about each other's husbands. The role of a "woman" is a role where her existence is related to males; feminism is essentially heterosexual activism which is why non-heterosexuals struggle to find belonging in it because it's not for them (and it's getting awkward they constantly voice this but don't remove themselves from it).
Feminism is for the adult heterosexual and bisexual male and female because they are 99% of the adult population. The #1 misconception surrounding feminism is that it is for all women when it is absolutely NOT that - it's about equality in heterosexual relationships; this is what liberation and the death of misogyny is to the average woman. A male taking a bullet for them is their version of divine intervention because man is their god. If you are not in a heterosexual relationship there is nothing to protest against because you've achieved liberation without the drama and self-victimization. Congratulations, you've made it. You're at a point where you're free from distractions to make minor tweaks to your thinking to make your life go in the direction you want.
Feminists are not lacking class consciousness. To the manlover, heterosexuals are the only class to be conscious of which is why they're hostile toward anything that isn't about their union. They would know about the movement they created more than the ignorant few trying to dissuade them from what the majority of them agree on; homosexuals are the main ones causing division within their movement. When you pledge your allegiance to a group, you are agreeing to be owned and used by that group. The average feminist's activism ends when they get into the relationship they want leaving celibates, asexuals and lesbians fighting for the rest of their lives. All feminists hold up the patriarchy they complain about because they support heterosexual women who put the energy and resources they received from feminists into males. Since these females put all of their attention into the patriarchy and males it gets fuelled - they are their own oppressors.
Manlovers do not have to prioritize homosexuals since they do not relate to your plight - how can a lesbian expect the herculean task of "care" from people who lack empathy? If anything you are privileged for not being attracted to males because Ys are intoxicatingly irresistible to the point where you're the obstacle to women's liberation. Lesbians are nothing but a body that fluffs up their movement's numbers, a stepping stool and a token to use in arguments against transwomen. Adopt an elite mindset where you genuinely believe you deserve more instead of being a mutt begging for scraps under the table heterosexuals create podcasts about.
The same thing can be said for the recruiting female separatist - it's all work for the heterosexual if they are accepted into those spaces. Only lesbians, asexuals and celibates are creating safe spaces for women. Heterosexuals and bisexuals are not interested and are even looking to destroy female-only spaces because they are waiting for the right man to come along (and that cannot happen when there are only women around). Those who want to live a peaceful life simply live it instead of trying to convince manlovers it's for them when it isn't. They like the thrill of disease and death. Separatism is only for the 1% who are already doing it and it starts in the mind. People trying to convince other women to separate are those who aren't living that life, ironically. Real separatists aren't trying to attract anybody male-minded into their circle. There's nothing to talk about when you've found Peace except Peace itself.
Focus on creating the life you want on an individual basis and you will find what you want happens quickly and your life will keep unfolding in that direction because you MUST get what you want. Activism does not work and it's just a time waster for those who are dedicated to it, but I understand the activist path is for the soulless so what else is there for them? When you ask for other people to get in line with what you want, you're asking others to go against their free will which means you depend on other people for your happiness and not yourself. In this situation you don't really want separatism, liberation or even peace, you want friends and it's okay to admit that.
This is a hottake. I've been thinking about this for a while. There are lesbian women that have this intense desire to get pregnant and start families. Of course, that means they'll need to use male sperm. That just feels like a dangerous game to play - especially considerng that the sperm is parasitic by nature. Also, aren't there enough children on this planet? I guess I'm stereotyping, but I never considered some lesbians would fall for the white picket fence fantasy so hard. And many people don't think to adopt because they only want children that look like them (as if that guarantees those children will grow up to become their carbon copies and behave exactly the way they do)...