• Be with a man that loves you a little bit more, because he's the one who will propose to you.
• Always get your degree and a job first, heal yourself and then start dating somebody.
• Know what you want in life and what you're looking for in a partner. Truly get to know your wants and needs first.
• Learn how to spot red flags in a relationship, unhealthy attachment styles, narcissism etc.
• Learn how to detach yourself from men and decenter men. Let men come to you.
• Have a life outside a relationship: Make time for your hobbies, spend time with your friends, go on solo dates... You had a whole life before him
random make up tip because I was experimenting last night: make your nose look smaller by making your eyes look bigger and your eyebrows looking full. Volumising mascara, falsies only at the ends of your eyes, concealer in the inner corners of your eyes + powder for a very natural look. Draaag it out towards the bridge of your nose and under the beginning of your waterline. bake under eyes, elongated wing and nothing on the waterline. Don’t go for the Nike justdoit eyebrows, but make them fit your face correctly and are as full as your face structure will allow.
this placement of the inner corner thing not with white shimmery eyeshadow but with your concealer and powder.
Stop giving your time and attention to things that are stealing you from your life. Stop vicariously living through others and calling it inspiration. Stop idolizing random people on the internet to a point you spend hours defending them knowing they have no idea you exist and they'll make bank anyway Stop playing PR for celebrities and your gurus Stop identifying yourself with a random ideology / political stance / set of beliefs so hard that an enemy to it is an enemy to you and whoever buys into it is a God Stop seeking instant connections and calling random people you just met bestie Stop arguing with people knowing full well your 20790880 word virtue signalling will not change their mind just give you props for status seeking Stop trying to change people that have not asked for your help Stop making excuses for them Stop denying yourself the pleasures you've worked so hard to enjoy Stop measuring your worth against external opinion Stop trying to do everything at once Stop trying to coach people into being decent towards you and others Stop thinking you're the exception of the rule Stop that magical thinking bs that disempowers you Stop watching those videos that you know you won't really actualize Stop mindlessly consuming content Stop that black and white thinking Stop valuing passion over mastery Stop with the self help books and gurus Stop with the excuses just. Stop floating across your achievements like you didn't pray for them seeking the next Stop picking sides on random stuff Stop that hero worship thing Stop buying into that feel good bs Stop listening to music that is insulting to you stop reading the comments knowing they'll annoy you stop going back to people that have shown you they do not care for you stop trying to defend yourself against people that have already decided you're guilty stop defending your tastes and preferences to people that just don't get it Stop Stop just. Stop
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I been tracking my mood & I think social media is affecting my mood tremendously. Anything you recommend for boredom without instagram, tik tok , twitter , and even limiting myself on tumblr. I mentally can’t afford to spend so much time like this behind a screen.
I have the perfect thing to focus on….. yourself 😍❤️
These are all the things I do, that I thorougly enjoy and aren’t related to social media… and they all make me better too.
Cooking, farmers markets
Learning and taking notes about health, beauty, history etc
Learning new languages
Reading
A very extensive beauty routine
Going on long walks, grounding
Making my million juices
Pilates
Stock market
Creative hobbies
Journaling
Hair, nails
More income related things
Etc etc etc
I set a timer on my phone, and I limit my social media use to one hour a day. When you focus too much on others, you end up living for them instead of yourself. But when you spend your time on things that fulfill you and help you grow, you stop feeling like you’re missing out. You won’t care what others are doing because you’ll be busy doing what makes you feel good.
Start doing things that make you happy & help you improve. Think of time away from the internet as a way to take control of your mind and emotions. Value your time and invest your energy in things that truly give you a high ROI.
Ascension in April. Alignment in April. Awakening in April. Acceptance in April. Abundance in April Artistry in April.
YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA
You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it
Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle
You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control
When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again
Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body
We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc
You don’t need another explanation
You need a hug
A deep breath
A new boundary
Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault
Because it wasn’t 🤍