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This has been top of my mind for quite a bit but you need to tailor every metric. Individualize the data, elevate the game. What worked for her will very likely not work for you, nobody can offer you their blueprint to success because their story is not yours. You can take inspiration from the effective methods the girls have worked with before but tailor it to fit your own circumstances. Assess your cultural background, you can use geographical mobility and strategic relocation, and start building and leveraging connections, or develop and foster new hobbies and interests you genuinely enjoy, you can apply mindset shifts and strategies if needed, learn the languages that open doors for you, and start deciding how and where you invest your money to upgrade your lifestyle while making strides with your career/education to paint a general picture. But seeking insights into someone's specific choices and experiences can come across as misguided and replicating someone else's path won't give you their results because your personal narrative is one that only you can author. The only way forward is through action customized to you. There’s no shortcut, but the fastest way forward is understanding who you are and your current situation, while calculating every move based on your strengths, opportunities, resources, and realistic goals.

4 Types of guys I will not date:

1. Guys who are in love with love They are obsessed with the feeling of being in love than the person they're with. They chase the honeymoon phase, the high of attention and connection but when the relationship becomes real they check out. It's not about you, it's about their addiction to fantasy and when they are done with you, they will jump to someone else

2. Guys who want a wife This sounds good on paper until you realize they don’t care who the wife is. They’re in a rush to plug someone into a role, not build a life with a specific person. These guys want the optics of commitment without the emotional maturity or compatibility required to sustain one. A man who wants to get married < a man who wants to marry you

3. Guys who want kids These guys aren't necessarily looking for a deep connection with a partner—they just want the title of "parent" or the idealistic perception, not really about being a father. It’s more about the next step in their life plan than the emotional bond that should come with it. A man who wants to be a father > a man who wants kids

4. Guys who don’t love themselves, so they’re looking for love outside of themselves These people are searching for validation, comfort, security from others because they haven't learned to give those things to themselves first. They look for relationships to fill the emptiness or fix their own internal struggles. Without self love, any love they find is only a temporary fix

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After writing this, I realized that these are typically all the same type of guy. Also this should have been gender neutral cause it applies to everyone

What I’m not about to do is shrink myself just to make others comfortable. I’ve done that before, especially in dating and social situations—toning myself down to seem more easygoing or likable. But the truth is, I carry myself with confidence, and that’s not something I’m willing to suppress just to fit into spaces that were never meant for me. It’s not my job to ease other people’s insecurities by pretending to be someone I’m not.

When you’re feeling lonely, it’s easy to fall into that trap because the need for connection can be strong. But when you know who you are and stand firmly in it, your perspective changes. You stop worrying about whether people like you and start asking if you actually like them. The right people won’t be put off by your presence. They’ll appreciate it, respect it, and be drawn to the very things that set you apart.

YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA

You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it

Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle

You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control

When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again

Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body

We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc

You don’t need another explanation

You need a hug

A deep breath

A new boundary

Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault

Because it wasn’t 🤍

Study tips that i learned through failures!

1. It's so important that you do a first read thru of the text as fast as possible. Stick to annotations and brief summarizing notes/outlines. Our brain is constantly making connections even when we're sleeping, so even if you don't understand something at first, getting stuck on it is a waste of your present time AND sleep time. Some things will click while you're doing chores because your brain is still working in the background! But it can't happen if there is nothing to click. Try to expose yourself to all the material as early as possible. [If you're studying math, skip the derivations and proofs in the first read thru and just do the example problems and focus on the underlying assumptions. Depending on the class/exam objective, you might not even be tested on the proof]

2. The breaks. Even if you know you can study 4 hours straight - don't. I used to do this especially when I was anxious, but it just burned me out. Even as quickly as the next day! If you're doing your first pom of the day and you feel really fresh to the point that you feel like you can skip that first break - dont.. it will pile up!

3. The water and the sugar!! This might sound really obvious, but studying burns up so many resources. On days I don't study, I might be okay with 60-70 oz of water, but on days I do, it's normal for me to hit 100 oz. I also ate way more food in general and ate more sugar too, and I think that's pretty normal.

4. Flashcards and practice problems > annotations > having nice notes. It kills me to say it, but the last exam I took (and passed!), I relied on my very disorganized notes/screenshots on my tablet. I didn't have time to organize and transfer them nicely onto paper in order even though every perfectionist cell in my body wanted to soo badly. Making your own textbook can be helpful but I seriously just didn't have the time. Focus on what will actually get you that pass score!

5. Find the note-taking app you like BEFORE your study period or exam season and practice using it! The last thing you want is to fight the syncing mechanism as you're trying to study. I like to use Flexil because of the split screen feature, the linked screenshots, and the cross-platform sync. If you are studying math, either learn latex over the summer/off period so you can use it in Obsidian/Anki or commit to manually written flashcards and notes the whole way. Dont try to switch halfway through because that will be a waste of your time. I personally think writing out the math is faster than typing it out in Latex, but it's your poison (they're both poison). (And if you study any type of math, I 10000% recommend using a tablet)

6. Unless you are studying for fun, orient everything around the class/exam objectives. Unfortunately, you're not gonna have time to be curious. If you don't think something will be tested, quickly cut it out and move on.

7. Figure out what your exam taking weaknesses are. Out of every 10 missed problems, I realized I'd miss a question solely because i input the wrong number into the calculator. Now I say the numbers in my head as I put it in, do it at a relatively slow pace, and break up large formulas into itsy pieces and make sure the output is close to what I expect it to be. I write out all the steps on paper sometimes to make sure every calculation is as expected. You only get once chance during the real thing, so it's important to come up with a policy to reduce risk and to stick to it every time.

Go where you’re wanted and cherished, not just tolerated. This applies to every area of your life: relationships, jobs, environments. Our energy is like currency. If we keep investing it in things that give nothing back, we end up drained. But when we pour into what pours back, we grow. You can only try to force alignment for so long before it starts costing you more than it’s worth.

You might not be valuable in everyone’s eyes, but to the right people, you’re exactly the blessing they’ve been praying for. That doesn’t mean settling or forcing yourself into spaces you don’t like; it means opening yourself up to new ones you didn’t know you’d love, and that love you right back.

— Susan Sontag, from “Death Kit,” (1967) (via lunamonchtuna)

Fire and Air placements be like

Life began feeling so much better after I began embracing my uniqueness and stopped trying to blend in with others and instead continued to water the aspects of me that feel effortless. My racial ambiguity, my overachieving mindset, my sense of fashion and aesthetic likes, my values and beliefs, the way I carry myself, how I structure my relationships and my life, etc. Trying to fit in with others breeds inauthenticity, mediocrity, and even resentment. It’s ok if I’m not exactly like the rest and I stand out, there’s beauty in individuality.

Woman to woman, I tell you this because I want you to be in a healthy relationship:

• Be with a man that loves you a little bit more, because he's the one who will propose to you.

• Always get your degree and a job first, heal yourself and then start dating somebody.

• Know what you want in life and what you're looking for in a partner. Truly get to know your wants and needs first.

• Learn how to spot red flags in a relationship, unhealthy attachment styles, narcissism etc.

• Learn how to detach yourself from men and decenter men. Let men come to you.

• Have a life outside a relationship: Make time for your hobbies, spend time with your friends, go on solo dates... You had a whole life before him

Woman to woman, I tell you this because I care about you:

• Get your degree, get your bag and be your own man. Be independent.

• Don't get married or move in with someone until your brain is fully developed (age 25)

• Be obsessed with improving yourself every single day. You can create your own dream life.

• Don't get pregnant unless you're emotionally, physically and financially ready.

• Be surrounded by people that make you wiser, happier and prettier.

• You are still young in your 20's, 30's, 40's and more.

• A relationship is partnership: Make sure he helps you too

• Always take care of your appearance

How suppressing emotions affects your body

We may think holding back feelings, especially difficult ones, helps us cope. However, neuroscience shows that bottling up emotions, particularly negative ones, directly impacts our brain and body

Fear, anger, and anxiety trigger the body's "fight or flight" response. Suppressing them keeps the body in a prolonged stress state, leading to cortisol release, a weaker immune system, high blood pressure, and increased heart disease risk

Suppressing emotions doesn’t stop stress—it lets it fester. Ever feel your shoulders tense or jaw tighten when stressed? That’s your body storing emotions, which can cause chronic muscle pain, headaches, and tension

The brain and gut are deeply connected. When overwhelmed with suppressed emotions, the gut responds with bloating, constipation, and IBS. Emotional suppression also affects mental health, increasing anxiety, depression, and emotional numbness. The brain struggles to regulate emotions when they remain unprocessed

Long term suppression raises inflammation levels, contributing to autoimmune diseases, diabetes, and heart disease. A mental block can escalate into serious health issues if emotional stress is ignored

No emotion, good or bad, is harmful—emotions are signals guiding us. Anger can push us to take action, sadness helps us process loss, and fear prepares us for challenges. The issue isn’t the emotions themselves but how we handle them. Suppressing them only prolongs their impact

By embracing our emotions we can maintain a healthier mind and body. It’s not the emotions themselves that cause harm, but our resistance to them

It’s okay to feel. Your body and mind will thank you

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“You need to make space in your heart for someone who has the capacity to love you just as much as you love them.”

— Unknown

how do you do your brows?

Brow mapping string is my go-to method.

I've recently perfected my technique and my brows have never looked better! I'm actually shocked at how nice my brows look and I could have never guessed that such a small change could transform my entire look. I'm afraid plucking stray hairs here and there is not enough for me anymore, I'm never going back and I've learned that eye measurement is an accurate method for shaping brows. I like my brows to frame my face perfectly, I want them to be very symmetrical and I'm a major fan of the clean, defined lines that gives you that freshly done brow look. I use the golden ratio so my brows fit my face just right and I leave no room for mistakes. It's not complicated at all - I just follow the step-by-step tutorial linked above, I'm in love with this video in particular because it's straight to the point and easy to follow. The tutorial is designed as a framework for microblading, but I personally use it to shape my brows. I believe every woman should know how to shape her own brows at home without depending on an aesthetician, and it's a simple enough skill to master.

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mid march mantra

I want to be bread 😭😭😭😭😭😭

It's not fair