Latest Posts by sarmatka - Page 2
recently I found a really cool male coach
and I think I'm also dissapointed in men as well
he's an older guy but he isn't like those therapists in my city
All they care about is:
- parties
- fucking
- they go to gym only to look buff and flex
Are sexist assholes and/or wimps with fragile masculinity.
I feel like a big part of it is this show off gender bs eating at people's brains, no matter if they're a man or a woman all they care about is putting on a show for people to prove their femininity/masculinity and affirm it.
Secure femininity/masculinity doesn't need to prove itself so badly. It goes beyond gender ideology. This whole obsession with gender concept and conformity is fucked.
It's literally eating at people's brains like a parasite.
I often have beef with feminists because they tend to shift ALL BLAME on men.
Apparently seeing women as human beings with autonomy and brains to think for themselves is sexist.
Imagine you are a slave and you work hard everyday with other slaves but all you dream about is freedom. On the other side of the fence there is another slave but that slave talks about how it's ok to be one, how we're destined to be slaves and there is nothing we can do.
Wouldn't you in your heart at least, judge that person? If you long for freedom and feel love towards a group of people but they go against their own interest over and over again, it's hard not to resent them at times.
Having ideals for them, standards for them, hopes and dreams for them is the most humanising thing there is. Even if at times it might come across as harsh judgement or might lead to bitter dissapointment.
I wish I had someone to talk to sometimes.
Idk it is a human need right? Same as sex.
We're herd animals after all.
I have many many fears.
Some can paralyze me. They make my voice weaker. I'm trying to speak up as much as I can.
And everytime I do I'm mad at myself I didn't say more.
I don't know if I'll change but I wish I could. I want to change. I want to be myself and not afraid of getting hurt.
Not afraid of speaking my mind. Loud and clear.
Loud and clear.
It's crazy how people don't see me as a human being everytime they find out I'm gay. Not everyone but for example almost every therapist I had, looked down at me for it or laughed at me or criticised my looks (because apparently it's weird that a lesbian woman presents feminine).
I don't like Foucault but medical gaze is real. Male gaze is bullshit but medical gaze is an actual thing.
a part of me understands incel mindset, sex is important to human beings and not having access to it + high libido is not the best combo
I'd never go to abuse women because of it though. I feel like it's mostly bad fate not their fault because most women are not gay, not compatible or my fault for being hurt in life to the point of internal struggle and mental health issues.
It does hurt though. So the anger and frustration is understandable.
I'm envious of people in relationships sometimes... so much it hurts because my mind can't even imagine how it must feel to be loved by someone like that.
I never had that in my life and I'm 23 and that's thanks to trauma and feeling out of control.
On the other hand I feel like I still need to heal to be able to even have that. To deserve that.
tolerant people are not truly tolerant when it comes to people with mental issues
once I get over my own problems and heal to a point where I can stand on my own and assimilate into society, I'll make sure to shame every single person who is needlessly cruel to someone who's neurodivergent and doesn't cause any harm
I promise this to myself.
having same/similar interests to those that predatory men have sucks
I don't hate all people who are religious but I struggle to understand them, some do it out of habit, some were raised into it and some just can't handle the idea of death being an end to life.
Those however who cling to the cross like it's everything they have, those who look to it not only as something that makes them fear death less but also a means of validation of their clay-footed superiority, those who cling to faith because they can't handle the truth that exists naturally and doesn't require any faith - those are simply weak men.
They can hate me for being a free woman and a homosexual, think whatever they wish but the second they turn their face towards the cross or the black stone to justify it, it shows how hard it is for them to cope with natural diversity of sexual and social behaviours. Truth hurts weak man's ego, only faith can uplift it.
Signs of unhealthy masculinity in women:
- hating your natural female traits (breasts, hips)
- hating your voice or height
- irrational fear of being percieved as feminine by other people
- obsessing with gender roles (especially in relationships, metaattraction - being attracted to someone only because this person will affirm your masculinity)
- fear of being vulnerable, being uncomfortable with receiving sexual pleasure from your partner (in fear it will "feminise you", it comes from unhealthy views about womanhood and sexuality)
Signs of healthy masculinity in women:
- wanting to be fit and taking care of your body
- embracing all natural traits of your female body and respecting them
- having strenght that doesn't fear vulnerability with a trusted person (it takes strenght to be vulnerable)
- wisdom to recognise negative/sexist thought patterns
- having sexual boundries but not being afraid of having someone pleasure you because you know you deserve it and it's not degrading
- dressing however you want, make-up/no make-up doesn't matter, just wearing what you think makes you look good
- not caring about gender roles much (doesn't matter if sth you do will be seen as "feminine" or "masculine" by society, do what you want)
- having discipline and determination, facing your fears, focusing on self improvement
- being kind to yourself
got perma banned on reddit, I don't even care
men invented god because they cannot stand that women create life
I'm a gold star btw. Idk if that matters. I just know what I like I suppose.
suffragettes became fascists because this is what spending too much time with feminists does to you
women have this ugly tendency of purity checking each other when it comes to everything, this is why feminism fails
it doesn't include all women, just a chosen elitist group which gets smaller and smaller
radical feminism should stop demanding from women to stop having sex, stop being mothers, stop eating meat those are ALL normal things that alot of women do
do you know what is not natural? being submissive to men, being dependant on them in every conversation and not respecting your own body and your own dignity and freedom as a woman
populist right wins because it allows majority groups to still have their freedom, for feminism to win it has to center ALL women aka biological females, lesbian, straight and bi, old and young and likewise let them have their freedom
you can have your core radfem beliefs but by excluding actual women (not men in dresses) you're shooting yourself in the foot and your movement fails, not to mention there already are hypocritical radfems who say one thing do another which is laughable
choose few core principles and let everything else by up to the individual women, they'll be grateful for that
GC narrative is already taken over by the populist right as we speak because they're sneaky and smart about it
radical lesbian feminists say they're okay with masculine women AS LONG AS they don't have masculine personality, values or interests
cutting your hair short, wearing suits and ties, having bodyhair, being a "stone butch": fine
valuing honor, having "male gaze", high libido, liking weapons: YOU NEVER HAD A PROPER MOTHER FIGURE IN YOUR LIFE THIS IS WHY YOU'RE A PORNSICK PICK ME WHO SUPPORTS THE PATRIARCHY!!
all types of SECURE masculinity in women are okay, as long as it's not compleatly averse or disgusted by femininity
we are supposed to challenge gender roles and just because I have other interests than most women, it doesn't make me a "man" or a "pick me"
I'm proud to be my own kind of woman
if you're a GC artist, hmu!
I'd like to follow and support GC artists 😊
self hating slavic people are pathetic
yall are doing EXACTLY what americans want, they want you to be ashamed of your own culture because they want to deflect from their own problems, their own shady history
they won't pick you bc you're using full english sentences in your everyday speech 🙄
Sometimes I forget I don't really have anyone I can truly rely on. My anti-depressants make it very easy to forget about it, they help me experience natural sorrow as less important, brush it off. The moment I realise it, what my relationships with other people are truly like, I can't help but to feel sad.
Everytime someone bitter points out that "you're not a happy person", I never deny it. Actually, idk what's the word for it in english. In polish I'd say that I'm not "szczęśliwa" which means being content with one's life as it is as a whole as opposed to "wesoła" which describes those moments of happiness or just experiencing positive affect. I am happy sometimes, there are things that make me happy but I'm not "szczęśliwa".
I don't understand why people use it as an insult. It's not something we can always control, the thing is, I want to be happy and I seek happiness but I will never deny who I am in order to get it. I won't sell myself for happiness, I'd rather take it and possess it but sometimes it's just out of reach.