vampfacing
some woman's secret feminist sideblog
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when a lesbian doesn’t want to have sex with a biological man: penises and vaginas are analogous organs and are pretty much entirely the same lol. Just get over it, stop being so unscientific and bigoted.
when you want aesthetic surgery done on your genitals: this counts as life saving support, penises and vaginas are so entirely different and people will die if they don’t have this procedure done
Dear misandrists,
In case you haven't heard it today, you're all hostile, aggressive, psychotic and a threat to men everywhere.
the term "tirf" just reminds me of those people who call themselves atheists but gasp when you criticize a religion other than the one their strict parents raised them in
makeup is a prison for women the reason i say that is because if you can’t go outside without a full face of makeup you’re imprisoning yourself
a small reminder to questioning people that it’s okay to read opinions you don’t agree with. there’s nothing immoral about reading and considering what other people have to say. taking in information and learning is not in itself a transgression and your beliefs won’t be shaken by reading things unless you do, in fact, think that they are accurate, which is okay and you should be free to explore that further without anyone breathing down your neck.
anyone who attempts to make you believe that you can’t read things said by certain people is trying to control you, because they know that alternative opinions could cause some people to stray from being under the influence of their own group, and they don’t care about these individuals’ well-being at all, only their own status and how many people will uncritically listen to everything they say.
it’s always okay to question. there’s nothing you aren’t allowed to think about.
"I don't feel like a girl" "I don't feel like a boy"
There isn't a specific way to feel as a girl or boy. Patriarchy has been forced to us how we're supposed to "act" in order to fit the patriarchal standard. Anyone can be feminine or masculine, anyone doesn't have to be feminine or masculine, it's okay to not "fit" in a gender stereotype. The point is we're not supposed to, we're just humans.
So why *can't* we have a word for, "adult human female?" Seems like a significant group with lots in common (and lots to talk about.) And why can't that word be "woman?"
i used to cry so much as a little girl cause the tights and dresses were uncomfortable and having my hair brushed and braided and put clips in it hurt and when i cried i was punished physically & emotionally; i learned that discomfort and pain is inevitable (and then being shocked to realize that this isn't the case for boys and men; how comfortable they are in their t-shirts and shorts and their bare face and short hair, with no pressure to change any of it). then having others act as if growing up as a girl is enjoying all those things that hurt you and having people take your emotions seriously. just like being a teenage girl is supposedly slumber parties and playing with makeup and gossiping about boys when in reality it was being sexually harassed and assaulted and being ashamed of your body and of being female at 12 yrs old and being terrified of men for as long as you can remember and being denied from seeing your girlfriend because your relationship is Sinful and being 14 and knowing you're seen as nothing but a sexual object meant to be used and abused by men; to be touched and groped and kissed and hurt and threatened and asked "how much" by a random man on the street; asked to cover your legs so you wont tempt adult men. and growing up to be a woman and being told none of that actually happened, or if it did, it means you're the privileged one for experiencing girlhood and femininity; not having the right to talk about how much it all hurt you, how much it hurts other girls and women all around the world, how males simply do not know what it's like; to be told to stay silent or you're the violent oppressor, because you talking about your experiences as a female human and showing dismay about the things that hurt us are the same as genocide. being mansplained these experiences by people who never experienced it. everything is the same except now i'm supposed to play along with pretending my oppression is actually a privilege.
Absolutely ALL eyes on Afghanistan.
Islamic men are literally banning women.
Women are denied proper education. They are forced to cover their entire body. They have no freedom of speech. They aren't even allowed to talk to each other. Their voices are now against the law. They can not sing, they can not shout.
After Taliban's takeover in 2021, Afghan women have been trapped in hell. "I was someone who was always out and about, who was very active in society. Now I'm stuck in the four walls of a house."
Cutting women out of workforce also led the country into deeper poverty, according to Global News. Girls and women are being sold like cattle so families can put food on the table. The insanely brave women participating in protests, fighting for their rights, face extreme punishment.
This has been going on for years and needs to be talked more about. Please make donations and/or spread the word. Do not shut up about it, do not get distracted.
exclusion of women from spiritual leadership (priests, pastors, imams, pandits etc.) is an explicit message that women are not fully human. women are not worthy to lead because they are inferior and deficient. they need a man to connect them to god, god did not make them equal with men
it isn't just about having female voices at the pulpit, it's an ideological foundation on which religions build their sex-class system. exclusion of women from leadership is a statement about the place of women. it encourages men to oppress and commit violence against women. it degrades the self worth of women until they learn to accept their abuse as divine. spiritual exclusion is how religions codify female inferiority as the will of god and it leads directly to real harm against women
Story: *medieval setting where a lesbian disguises as a man to marry the woman she loves, be able to practice sword fighting, and to avoid being married by force to a man*
The comments: omg transmasc?? Egg?? Whether she's a lesbian or transmac, it's still a 🌠queer🌠 story 🥰
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Children around the globe are being abused and traumatized in front of the screen and behind it by P*rnhub, its sister sites, and other free p*rn websites like them.
Yesterday it was reported, for example, that four children ages 9, 11, 12 and 15 sexually assaulted an 8-year-old girl. The children themselves told police that it was because they watched P*rnhub.
“They said they watched P*rnhub,” the mother of the victim lamented as she expressed concern for how easy it is for children to be exposed to online p*rn.
States across the U.S. have implemented age verification laws to protect children from p*rn exposure. In protest against the laws, P*rnhub is shutting itself down in those states and has sued the state of Texas to avoid compliance.
The U.S. Supreme Court will now begin hearing the case for online p*rn age verification to protect children starting January 15. Stay tuned.
We talk a lot about how it’s homophobic to tell lesbians that they need to be open to dating males.
But by focusing on on how harmful this is to lesbians, we leave bisexuals behind.
Many trans people have an attitude of “If lesbians/gay men don’t want me, at least bisexuals do.” And that’s just not true, and not fair to bisexuals. It leads to a culture of expecting bisexual women to be okay with any configuration of biological sex, hormonal status, and body parts.
Bisexuals are therefore framed as a group of women who are supposed to be available as a potential partner for anyone who wants them.
So it’s not just homophobic, it’s part of rape culture. Because it aims to teach (mostly) women that they’re not allowed to form their own feelings about their sexuality and their attraction. It teaches women that their sexuality isn’t for them. Their sexuality is a political statement, and there is a right and wrong statement to make.
The fact of the matter is that no one has to date someone they’re not attracted to. No one has to try to develop attraction for someone they’re not innately interested in. No one has to “examine their preferences” when it comes to who they want in their bed. This includes bisexuals.
Yes, women standing up for ourselves does lead to a lot of lonely mtfs who can’t get dates. No, that is not women’s problem.
This affects all of us, but it affects bisexuals in a unique way that’s worth talking more about.
The lie that testosterone is going to harm your gorgeous body is the most sinister thing I can think to tell young men. Testosterone is not going to make you sick, harm you, or turn you into an unrecognizable monster.
Testosterone is going to make you happier than you’ve ever been in your life. Testosterone is going to make you look down at yourself and finally smile, because the yearning is over. Your skin and your bones finally fit just right, instead of feeling foreign and out of place. Testosterone is going to let you finally reach an enlightened, happier version of yourself. Why would you ever tell someone the opposite if it’s not out of hatred and wishing to see them suffer?
Major Father Custody Myths 👨👧👦⚖️
There is a major MRA/redpill/manopshere talking point that needs to be confronted and debunked. Many redpillers argue that the family courts are unfair to fathers in custody disputes and always let the mother have the children.
It's important for women thinking about having children to realize that this isn't true. You could absolutely lose your kids.
First, the great majority (over 90%) of the time, the father doesn't ask for custody. It is a sad fact that when a male loses sexual access to the mother of his children (whether she breaks up with/divorces him or vice versa), he doesn't care about his children anymore. Of course, this is not always the case, but a large percentage of the time, possibly most of the time. This data point belies males' assertion that they care about and love their kids and the big, bad woman is keeping them away.
Second, the majority (about 70%) of the time when males request at least half custody, they receive it. Horrifyingly, abusive fathers are more likely to want full custody, and they often receive it. In fact, in multiple states, a rapist can get custody of the resulting baby. Remember that not long ago domestic violence and child sexual assault were considered "family matters."
Third, many males who have custody aren't even raising their own kids. Their own mother or sister or the new girlfriend is actually watching the kids. This is largely due to the fact that 75% of childcare is done by the mother, not the father, so many males do not know how to take care of their children, what their routines are, what their allergies are and the ins-and-outs of their medical conditions, etc. Most of the time these women are not getting paid to watch the kids, and the only reason he even asked for custody is so he doesn't have to pay child support as well as to spite the mother. We have all seen fathers go viral and get treated like superheroes for doing something simple such as brushing their kid's hair.
I have a couple anecdotes related to the above. I was once friends with someone who was dating a cop who was not in his 4-year-old daughter's life. When I asked why, she regurgitated to me what he had told her, that the evil woman wouldn't let him see his child. I told her that getting the other parent considered "unfit" by the court was actually a pretty high bar to meet and that especially with him being a cop, all he would have to do if he actually cared was to go to court and request joint custody, that he would surely get it. We all know of cases where CPS even gave kids back to drug-addicted, negligent, or violent parents. I informed her she was dating someone who didn't care about his kid. Her face was priceless.
In another situation, when my sister was a teen, she was friends with someone whose father had done prison time for raping a 16-year-old-girl and a 14-year-old boy. He was a house painter, which is how he had access to them. My sister's friend was a 16-year-old girl and her brother was a 14-year-old boy, the exact demographics of those their father had raped. Their mother allowed him back in the house when he got out of prison, which, shockingly, the law also allowed him to do. In fact, my mother didn't find out he was a convicted child sex offender until my sister had slept over at their house multiple times.
This is an important manopshere talking point to rebut and about which to set the story straight because it's one of those myths even women calling themselves "feminists" have largely fallen for. Please do not make children with males. There are a lot of great reasons not to do so, but this is definitely one of them. Do not go into parenthood with a false sense of security and wearing rose-colored glasses believing that if things go downhill, the children will stay with you.
*sees anti sex work sentiment*
*calls it terf bullshit*
These people keep telling us every way but out loud what being trans really is about, because what does sex work have to do with being transgender? hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
don't you just hate how
a media exploring male sexuality *shows random naked women*
a media exploring female sexuality *shows random naked women*
I think it's interesting how often "femininity" expects women to cover our faces. From the BDSM masks to Muslim women veiling to the expectation that women wear makeup and not our natural faces. I think it's to stop us from empathizing with each other and to mask the inhumanity in how men treat us. So that for onlookers, there's a clear demarcation between "person" and "woman".
one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners
i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))
i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners
i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner
constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it
some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable
its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia
It's crazy to me how many aspects of beauty culture are LITERALLY toxic. Like, nail polish has a lot of harmful substances that cause long term health effects in salon technicians. Fake eyelashes (eyelash extensions for sure, idk about the ones you just stick on) are glued to your eyelid with glue containing formaldehyde, a carcinogen. So many makeup products have been found to have heavy metals like lead because there is virtually no regulation. And that's not even getting into the issues with eating disorders or plastic surgery