Made This Because An*ra Winning Best Picture At The Oscars Sparked A Bunch Of Prostitution And "swerf"

“I do not identify with being silent I do not identify with being pink I do not identify with being soft I do not identify with being scared I do not identify with being weak I do not identify with being submissive I do not identify with being irrational I do not identify with being hysterical I do not identify with being bad at maths I do not identify with being unintelligent I do not identify with being followed I do not identify with being grabbed I do not identify with being assaulted I do not identify with being raped I do not identify with being inferior I do not identify with being a woman as society has created it. I do not identify as cis. I am not cis. I am a woman trying to fight with every fibre of my being against everything that my “gender identity” tells me to be. Woman as defined by society is not my gender identity. My gender identity is fuck this oppressive bullshit, and let me be a human fucking being.”

— Week Feminist - A Pox on the Patriarchy (via staininyourbrain)

a small reminder to questioning people that it’s okay to read opinions you don’t agree with. there’s nothing immoral about reading and considering what other people have to say. taking in information and learning is not in itself a transgression and your beliefs won’t be shaken by reading things unless you do, in fact, think that they are accurate, which is okay and you should be free to explore that further without anyone breathing down your neck. 

anyone who attempts to make you believe that you can’t read things said by certain people is trying to control you, because they know that alternative opinions could cause some people to stray from being under the influence of their own group, and they don’t care about these individuals’ well-being at all, only their own status and how many people will uncritically listen to everything they say. 

it’s always okay to question. there’s nothing you aren’t allowed to think about. 

"as a feminist i'm politically homeless" "the left is just as sexist as the right" "i won't vote for the left because they support the trans agenda". okay yeah but also the left (not the right) support

equal pay for women

keeping women in employment

fighting against sexism/sexual harassment in the workplace

reducing religious influence on public life

increasing social welfare directed at single mothers

increasing pensions for elderly women

increasing social welfare for disabled women

scholarships for young women and girls in education

women owning a bank account

women owning a house

women having the right to divorce

abortion

birth control

lesbianism being legal

lesbians being allowed to adopt

gay marriage

woc being able to vote

better housing conditions, better working conditions, better healthcare (not a woman-only issue but definitely improve womens life)

maternal leave

welcoming refugees (including women)

other parts of the left are also the only part of the political spectrum that support

abolishing surrogacy

abolishing porn

abolishing prostitution

abolishing religion

like at some point if "the left" (not a monolith. also you often just mean liberals) supporting self id is a deal breaker for you you have to realize you must be very privileged when it comes to class race and disability imo. bc poor women, disabled women and woc need leftist politics if we dont want our lives to become absolutely awful. not to mention "the left" isnt a monolith and there are parts of the left that dont support transactivism

but sureee keep saying "the left is just as bad as the right" at a time when the far-right is on the rise pretty much all over the world (or is already in power) and religious fundies are repelling women's reproductive and human rights as a result. i'm sure this is a very responsible, smart and feminist thing to do

I think it's interesting how often "femininity" expects women to cover our faces. From the BDSM masks to Muslim women veiling to the expectation that women wear makeup and not our natural faces. I think it's to stop us from empathizing with each other and to mask the inhumanity in how men treat us. So that for onlookers, there's a clear demarcation between "person" and "woman".

I hate how people treat bisexual people (women especially) like we're just... sex receptacles, that have to put up with whatever in their sex partners want and who can't have any sexual boundaries. Bisexuals are still allowed to say no, to anyone, and anything, for any reason. No, we do not have to be your unicorns, we do not have to put up with "kinky" sex, and we can choose not to date men, even the one's who say they aren't men.

the word “woman” was bad to describe us, so people said “female”. the word “female” was bad so people said “afab”. the word “afab” is now bad too (“talking about afab experiences is transmisogynistic”), and you apparently shouldn’t talk about the experiences of “people with vaginas” only, either. 

discussing “radical feminism” was bad, so people said “feminism”, but that was bad, too, so people just talked about “misogyny”, but that was a “terf” dogwhistle, so people talked about “gendered socialization” but that’s a transmisogynistic discussion framework, apparently. So where do you go next?

It’s not that the words were offensive, it’s that the power they gave to women to exclusively discuss ourselves and our problems effectively and accurately was. It’s a silencing tactic. We could call ourselves anything as a sex class and it’d still be offensive that we found solidarity. You can’t talk about, find community with, or protect women if acknowledging sex is banned, and you can’t talk about women’s issues if acknowledging sexism is banned. 

Let me describe to you what kind of world gender abolitionists actually dream about: When a child would be born it’s biological sex, being an actual physical reality, would be noticed but not a single assumption regarding the child’s personality would be made based on it. Growing up, children would be free to chose what toys and clothes they prefer. If they want to play with toy trucks or dolls, it would be fine either way. If they want to dress comfortably or in frilly colorful dresses, it would be fine. Regardless of the child’s biological sex. Certain personality traits would not be encouraged in members of one sex and discouraged in the other. Females would be free to be strong, brave and assertive and males would not be shamed for being shy and soft spoken. No female child would be called a tomboy and no male child would be called a sissy. No kid would ever be bullied for what we in our gendered world call “gender expression”. When children would reach puberty they would still be free to dress how they want. Females would not be pressured to wear clothes that reveal their bodies and males would not be shamed if they chose to. Everybody would have a free choice of accessories, which would not be categorized as “men’s” or “women’s” but people could should whichever they liked. Or chose to not wear accessories at all if that’s what they are more comfortable with. Females would not be pressured to keep their bodies slim, soft and hairless. Males would not be pressured to be athletic and muscular. Expectations of femininity and masculinity upon the body would not exist and affect negatively people’s relationship with their own body. Everyone could choose a career without fearing stigmatization within that particular field because of their biological sex. The most important thing would be competence and not what someone has between their legs. Domestic work would not be considered “women’s work” and would be shared equally between the sexes. Biological sex would only be thought about when relevant. Like for example in regards to issues surrounding sexual activity, reproduction or treatment of medical conditions related to a person’s biological sex. And everyone would be free to be themselves without ever having to worry about gender expectations. Nobody would feel the need to repress certain parts of their personality and exaggerate others in order to fit into some gender role that is being forced on them. Gender abolitionism is not about restricting people’s choices but about giving them greater freedom.

http://burningax.wordpress.com/2014/10/06/a-gender-free-world-boring/ (via genderheretic)

-Sofia

(via askaradfem)

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