You Are Missing The Point. It Isn't That Your Friend Fucking Other People Makes Her Husband Worship Her.

You are missing the point. It isn't that your friend fucking other people makes her husband worship her. It is that it enhances the feelings already there. The situation you described tells me that her husband already had that view of her and he thinks of her as more sexually attractive than other girls including those found in porn. So for him he is seeing his beliefs confirmed. He also thinks so highly of her that seeing her pleasure seems like something that is deserved by her. When she acts out on his fantasies she's giving him confirmation that she is exactly as sexy as he believes. It makes him feel lucky to be with a girl so sexual and sexy. She goes from being what he imagines as sexier than any porn star to proving it true. The more she does this the more his beliefs are made to seem true. He now doesn't just imagine she's his porn goddess, he's sure of it.

The same thing applies to when they've swapped. He views her as the sexiest so in those situations he thinks how lucky the other guy is to sample his wife who he thinks so sexy. The woman he is with no matter how attractive or sexually gifted is proof to him that his own wife is the best because he now has a recent comparison which happened alongside him witnessing his wife with another.

Your friends idea that you try out an alternative sexual lifestyle is fine. Her thinking it gives women power over their husbands like that isn't. She already had the power and what they do increases it.

If she fucks a guy in front of him it is proof she's as sexy as he imagines.

If they swap it is proof he has the greatest wife.

How you describe your relationship it would not be the same thing. A husband loving you doesn't mean he fetishes or worships you.

Hotwifing can be either beneficial or harmful to a marriage. Same with swinging. Hotwifing breaks marriages quickly if the man isn't secure or if he doesn't have a special kink that drives it. The balance is off. Swinging is a 50/50 situation. If your relationship is super strong it will enhance it. You'll become closer, understand eachother better, and in general love and respect eachother more. If your relationship is not strong or one of you doesn't love the other completely it will bring out every problem. It will shine a bright light on fake feelings and ulterior motives.

I suggest you talk all of this over with your friend. Then talk it over with her husband. Get him to describe your friend. That will show you what I'm talking about. He probably thinks she farts rainbow colored sugar candies and walks on cotton candy clouds.

Then talk it over with your husband. Talk till nothing is left to say. Talk until no more secrets or worries could be hiding.

Then without getting mad at him have him describe you.

Maybe you're twice as pretty as your friend and twice as skilled in bed. Your husband is still not going to describe you like your friends husband describes her. He has a fetish and sees her differently than you do. He sees you differently because you aren't her too. If you decide to swing with them no matter how good you fuck and how hot you are her husband will be worshipful of her afterwards. He may really enjoy you. The more he enjoys you the more he'll think how great she is. No matter what he thinks she's best. Think of it as an extreme delusion that causes no harm.

Private me to continue. We've hijacked the entire topic.