Proship Safe - Blog Posts

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Hi proship selfshippers, your f/os wanted to remind you that they absolutely ADORE you, every little flaw, every unique aspect of you, every thing that makes you; you, they love it. If you were ever considering that they dislike you, that they're annoyed, fed up, or tired of you, you couldn't be further from the truth. No matter the struggle or the quarrel, their feelings for you will always be the same.

If an antiship selfshipper happens to come across this post, yes, this also applies to you too. This all applies to every selfshipper, no one's f/o would ever hate their partner or wish harm on their partner, period.

They love you, always remember that.

Big big big shoutout to the proshippers who are in fandoms overrun with antis. Shoutout to you for not letting them completely ruin your love for the media, shoutout to you for being strong and not letting them change you in any way. Shoutout to the ones who simply avoid the fanbase at all costs because of all the antis, shoutout to you for keeping strong even when it's a struggle to interact with fan content. Shoutout to the proshippers who are active in the community even despite all of the antis in the fanbase. Shoutout to the proshippers who can't even interact with ANYTHING in general without being hounded by antis even when the content has NOTHING to do with ship discourse. Shoutout to all proshippers, ily.

Caleb and I as kiddos :D my hair used to be longer as a kid now I keep cutting it 😭

I just came across ur post and r u srs proship is just anitharassment,,, I kept hearing it was only problematic ships from antis (-_-') m not deeply involved in the discourse so I didnt know but antis tell ppl proship is problematic ship so much I thought thats what it was too,,, I never thought that was good reason to harass ppl becuz it is just fiction right? But it sucks I was misinformeddd (-_-')

Hi anon, I'm sorry you were misinformed oh no 😭 Yes, proship is anti-harassment and anti-censorship especially for fictional ships. I assume you're referring to my post explaining the whole 'It's darkship not proship' situation, and as I mentioned in that post people can be a darkshipper and still not be a proshipper, because proship is just the whole anti-harassment part. You aren't obligated to like anything being a proshipper, it's just your actions towards other real, living people that determine if you're proship or antiship. I hope it's all cleared up, antis do (very frequently) incorrectly describe what proship is, unfortunately. Thank you for the ask anon and I hope you have a lovely day!

Hi lazy selfship doodle because I can't sleep 😭 Why does Caleb look so mad

Hi sorry I'm coming across some posts of people being confused if proship means 'problematic ship' and people misusing the term proship FOR problematic ship who call themselves a proshipper, I think I've even used proship as a broad term on my blog to INCLUDE people who are darkship, who are still proship, since I think many of my followers are darkshippers, but I've been trying to make sure I say 'proship darkshippers' instead to avoid confusion, but. Proship is 'for shipping', pro = for. It's anti-harassment with fictional ships, the idea that every fictional ship deserves to exist without the enjoyers of said ship being harassed for it no matter the nature of the ship and no matter if that ship isn't your cup of tea. Blocking instead of harassing if it's a ship you dislike and not looking at the content made of that ship but keeping in mind that just because you dislike it doesn't mean it shouldn't exist in fiction, things like that. Profiction is the same concept except replace ships/shipping with fiction in general, once again pro = for. Darkshipping/darkfiction (or some people use the phrase 'dead dove do not eat', dead dove being the indicator that the media has dark content in it) is the term used for when a ship or a piece of fictional content has dark ideas incorporated into it. Like incest, non-consensual sex, adult x minor/loli/shota, etc.

Now here's the fickle part. A person can in fact be a darkshipper and enjoy dark fictional content and still not be a proshipper. A proshipper does not NEED to be a darkshipper, they are just anti-harassment. A darkshipper can, let's say, like incest ships, but if they dislike minor x adult ships, and they decide to harass someone who does enjoy those ships and believe that minor x adult ships shouldn't exist because they think it's 'too far' or 'too gross', they are not proship. Alternatively, someone could be very uncomfortable by any sort of darkship, they only like ships that have healthy dynamics and never incorporate dark ideas into their ships, but they don't harass people who do indulge in darkships and don't believe in the censorship of said ships just because they don't like it (they block and curate their online experience to fit their boundaries instead of going out of their way to harass people who break said boundaries). That person is a proshipper. So to reiterate, proship does not mean problematic ship, darkship is the term you're looking for. Now, knowing how words tend to change overtime in communities, perhaps I'm wrong or I've stated some incorrect information, and if I have please correct me 😭 but if not, I hope this all makes sense and helps at least someone out whose been confused.

Just a reminder that 1. You owe absolutely nobody an 'explanation' on why you enjoy dark fictional content and 2. You don't NEED to indulge in dark fictional content for the sole purpose of coping with trauma/processing trauma for it to be a valid use of your time and attention. If you do, that's wonderful and I'm so glad it provides you with that comfort, but it isn't an obligation to be able to enjoy it. Have fun with it, and please don't let what others say make you feel like you need to explain yourself, or that you need to be doing it for trauma related reasons, because that isn't true. Okay? Okay. Take care now!

Guyssss I got Caleb's new myth already I'm so happy 😭 I had to spend like ten dollars but I'd consider that pretty lucky considering how my luck usually is in LADS. Auhhh <3

tbh ive been neutral on the whole proship antiship discourse for a long while now but seeing how you handle anti asks and your explanation on the most recent one is making me consider downright saying im proship. i never thought of it as dolls, but when you said it it clicked in my mind because its true? either way ive never been someone who harassed people. thank you for this blog op.

Hi anon, proship has always been anti-harassment especially towards fictional ships, just like profiction is the broader term for being anti-harassment with all things fictional. Basically, ship and let ship, don't like don't look, blocking instead of harassing, things of this nature. So if your views align with this, you're probably proship, BUT It's totally fine to not want to label yourself, you don't need to call yourself proship even if your views are adjacent to the label. Not everyone wants to be actively involved in communities or use labels. But if you are wanting to be apart of the community or call yourself proship, we're glad to have you! And even if not, it's nice to know you aren't someone who will harass others over their fictional preferences, and you are still welcome here of course. Thank you for the ask anon, take care!

As someone that also has terrible OCD, anti shippers made it so much worse than proshippers ever did. Even if I’m very uncomfortable with some concepts they’re fictional and often tagged, that’s been a lot easier to avoid than people trying to enforce the idea that thoughts or stories make you evil

Thank you for your input, I don't have anything to add onto this but I'm just answering since I feel it's important. Hope you're doing well anon

nah i have scrupulosity ocd and jerking it to fic of toddlers getting raped is wrong end of. get help <3

Sorry to anyone who reads this ask, I will have it tagged. First of all I don't read fics like that, but is it of a FICTIONAL character? Then there is no issue. I'm extremely uncomfortable at the idea of a toddler aged character in a situation like that but I won't harass someone or say it shouldn't exist if it is STRICTLY FICTION. Also I think you lot forget that fictional characters don't look like, and sometimes, don't act like, real people. They are drawn in proportions that would look arguably horrifying if directly translated to real life. They aren't real, nor are they breathing or capable of feeling real pain. They are, essentially, the pixelated equivalent of dolls. Any fictional character can be put into any situation at any age, anytime, anywhere, and it would not cause harm to a real person because that character does not exist. You have to be able to learn to distinguish a real person from a fictional character, they are not comparable to each other. Also, get help right? Whether you believe it or not darkshipping is approved by a lot of therapists as a healthy coping mechanism. If your therapist tells you it isn't good for you to do/utilize, it's because they recognize that those fictional concepts cause you some form of discomfort. They will form their therapy plans around YOUR needs, so everyone will have different coping mechanisms. It not being the best outlet for you doesn't mean it isn't a good outlet for someone else. Alternatively, darkshipping doesn't need to be confined to "it's only acceptable if its for coping", it's fine to like dark content in general. If it wasn't fine, you guys wouldn't freely enjoy horror movies or video games like GTA. As I've said before, if proshippers make you uncomfortable and are apart of your DNI, don't stress yourself out by interacting with me first. Have a good day/night anon

Proship selfshippers, did you know your f/os are so in love with you, like so in love it makes them look stupid... I'm chatting with them right now and they just won't stop talking about you! I don't mind, but I think they should be saying these things to you directly... Matter of fact, I'm sending them to you right now, your f/os can't wait to see you! Oh and for the f/os that are too devoted or introverted to talk to anyone but you, I just overheard them rambling to themself about you.. but I think they'll be on their way to see you soon as well :)

Gentle reminder for you lovely proshippers that what antis say about you doesn't mean anything, and you should never let their words get to you. You are wonderful and lovely and I, along with our community are so glad to have you here! You keep fandoms fun and safe, and that's amazing. Drink some water, eat something nutritious, and take a breather. Thank you for being you, despite it all! <3

Hello autistic proshippers, question, are any of your favorite ships perhaps a special interest? And if not the ship itself, is it the media the ship is from? Alternatively, if you selfship I could ask the same about your f/o(s) and their source(s), if this better applies to you! Light or dark ships, I'm just curious! Either way, I'm so glad to have you here and you are always welcome on my blog! Whether or not you feel you explore fiction, or anything for that matter, differently than other people, I will always be interested in hearing about your interests. Explore freely, do what makes you happy, no matter what you're interested in it is okay and you're valid for having an interest in that thing! No matter if it's dark fiction or not. And if it is, you aren't a bad person at all for being fixated on those dark fictional ideas. Have fun!

I made a darkship blog for the sake of dumping my dark scenarios, but it's also open for people to submit their own ideas too! Strictly MDNI (minors do not interact) though, unlike this account, just to make that known. If anyone is interested or has some ideas/scenarios they'd like to dump for any particular reason, the blog is @bl4ck0utg1rl ! There are no restrictions to what fictional ideas people can send in, no matter how dark or light or unhinged or sexual or whatever, as long as it is strictly fictional, and I will add corresponding tags for people to block if needed, so go wild :)

Hi proship darkshippers who struggle with moral OCD, just wanted to remind you that your fictional ships and interests do NOT make you a bad person what-so-ever. You are still a good person and the fact you don't go out of your way to harass people over their own fictional interests, the fact you don't wish harm on real people, is just one of many reasons why you ARE in fact a good person! It's okay to like dark media, it's okay to want to explore said media through art and writing and etc, your interest in these fictional ideas does not reflect your morals in real life situations. Repeat after me: You aren't harming anyone, you are not hurting any real, living person, by being interested in dark media. It's okay, you're okay, I promise. <3

Hey so I have a question what's a radqueer? Feel free to ignore if you don't feel like answering

To be honest I've been wondering this too 😭 I feel like everytime I try to read up on it something different is said. I don't know what identities/labels are included nor if they're in good faith or anything so that's why i haven't voiced my view on radqueers, I don't know enough 😭 If anyone sees this and would like to provide an answer it'd be much appreciated!

Sorry I mostly post positivity but it genuinely grates my nerves when someone on TT asks what proshipping means and an anti just says 'child x adult' NO ! 😭That's (one of many) darkships, proshipping is just the mindset of ship and let ship, live and let live, don't harass over fiction, don't like then block/scroll, etc, you can be proship without being into darkship content </3 Don't even get me started when they downright say proship is just straight being a pedophile, phew. Way off there, buddy.

That anon had the most atrocious energy so to get rid of those nasty vibes I just wanna say your an amazing person and a beacon of light❤️

You're so sweet, thank you! You're an amazing person as well, and I deeply appreciate this. I hope only positive energy flows your way. Take care and I hope you'll have an amazing day/night <3

i am sorry for that gross anon you got it made me sick.

They are so entitled. i Hope you are safe,

Remember, sending someone r//ape threat is sexual harrasment. Anon could face charges for that.

Hope you are okay don't be ashamed this was not your fault.

♥️

I'm sorry it made you feel sick anon <3 Hope you're doing alright, thank you for such a sweet ask. And you are right, harassing and threatening a real person is in fact a crime, I'm not sure why antis insist fictional ships and ideas are illegal but go on to do something that is legitimately illegal and harmful. But it's been like this for a long time now unfortunately. Take care of yourself anon, thank you again! <3

Hope yuo get raped and find yourself wiht a man who will beat you everyday you romanticize peopls trauma fucking weirdo i hate you

First of all, for those of you who didn't know, I don't ship anything besides mine and others selfships, I am just absolutely for every ship existing and being supported. Second of all any dark fictional concepts I enjoy is a reflection of my OWN trauma in some way or another and it helps me process and cope, though darkshipping is still valid even if it isn't for the sake of coping. Third of all I'm not attracted to real people like at all so getting with a man or anyone IRL is highly unlikely. Fourth of all trauma can't be gatekept, when people enjoy fictional darkships or dark scenarios I can assure you they more than likely are not sitting here like 'oh yeah this is this one persons trauma, I will incorporate it into a ship for the sole purpose of romanticizing this said persons trauma' like that just doesn't happen. Either they're coping with their OWN trauma or just find it interesting to explore in fiction. Fifth of all it's absolutely okay to hate or dislike me but interacting with me at all is breaking your own boundaries, boundaries have to be fulfilled by both parties and if you break your own boundary that isn't my fault. Sixth of all this sounds quite personal and emotional so I hope you have a good day and learn to respect your own boundaries so you don't cause yourself and anyone else any unnecessary distress. Bye now.

istg antis LOVE selfshipping but still need to put their anti stamps on it, like, bbg, what do you THINK proshipping is?

"WHY DO YOU SHIP YOURSELF WITH A MINOR, YOU CREEP!?"

now, this may be hard to get, but teens have been selfshipping since the birth of fandom and probably longer.

like idk he broke into my house and told me "hi sorry youre hopelessly in love with me now." and proceeded to burrow into my skull, he lives in my brain now. surely theres worse things out there than some teenager having a crush on a flower.

There's a lot of things i noticed on the anti side of selfshipping, where they find it disgusting for a minor to selfship with another minor character but they find it completely acceptable when said minor selfships with an adult character, and there have been plenty of instances of an adult calling a minor a pedo for selfshipping with a character that is, in fact, their age 😭 People of all age groups take up fandom and selfship spaces, I'm not sure where people got the idea that these spaces were only ever filled with adults anyways. Selfshipping itself has been a thing before fandoms and discourse and labels and whatever else, but it did used to be frowned upon for being considered 'weird and unconventional', proshippers are the ones who went 'hey, this is harmless, let people have their fun.' (naturally, as this is the proship mindset). Anyways anon you have your fun and enjoy your selfships and f/os however you want, you are supported and accepted!

For the pro-ship self-shippers who equally enjoy darkships and self-shipping, imagine your f/o making content of your favorite darkships with you as a way to show their support! Whether or not they're the artistically creative type, imagine your f/o still putting in the effort to try. Fics, art, blurbs, edits, roleplay, etc, they'd love to indulge in your interests with you, as a way to get closer with you and as a way to show that they're more than content with the fact that you find entertainment and/or comfort in these fictional scenarios. They think you are SO creative and feel so lucky to be with someone who has such an interesting and creative mind! Oh and yes, this also pertains to if those dark scenarios include them directly!

When I feel better, I was thinking about starting some more self-ship centered posts like imagines and maybe reblog games if anyone is interested. All for proselfshippers of course! And still post general proship positivity and encouragement while I'm at it. I also draw and have improved a lot over the years so, BUT if this doesn't interest you guys on this blog I'll make a separate blog instead :) !

I got hit with the flu </3 I will be back soon ! Once this flu goes away ahh. Always remember you are accepted and valued here, keep being awesome and creative !

Hi sweets! Just here to remind you that all of your ships are 100% awesome and valid and super cool no matter what the dynamic is! I love seeing the dynamics dark/comshippers come up with, the scenarios that can come to play and the creativity of it all, I think your mind is absolutely brilliant, don't ever let anyone take your creativity away!

Does anyone even read killing stalking anymore </3

Hi yandere enjoyers, specifically yandere otome enjoyers, do you have any recs for yandere otome games? Or games that have a yandere character/characters? I've heard itch has alottt but I dunno which ones are worth trying! 😭

> Ily proship self-shippers who are in fandoms that are practically overrun by antis, so you struggle to enjoy content of your f/os because of it.

> Ily proship self-shippers who don't feel comfortable or safe enough to post about your self-ships because of how the fandom is, your self-ship is just as valid as anyone else's and the fact you're private about it doesn't take that away!

> Ily proship self-shippers who enjoy making your self-ships dark, toxic, incestuous, etcetc. I also love you if you prefer keeping your self-ships healthy and light.

> Ily proship self-shippers who have hundreds of f/os, and ily proship self-shippers who have only one or very few f/os.

> Ily proship self-shippers who both self-ship with a character and also ship them with other characters. And ily proship self-shippers who are too jealous to do that.

> Ily proship self-shippers who have poly self-ships, and ily if you keep all your self-ships monogamous too!

> Ily proship self-shippers who self-ship for comfort and trauma processing. And ily proship self-shippers who simply do it for fun and entertainment!

> Basically, i just love you proship self-shippers, you are all awesome and deserve as much support as anyone else. If you are a proship self-shipper i'm all open for moots and i'll listen to all your gushes and info-dumps about your self-ships! 🫶🏻