What Should I Do If My Boyfriend Isn’t Really That Kinky But I Am?
What should I do if my boyfriend isn’t really that kinky but I am?
Hi there! That’s a good question! It can be really tricky introducing your kinks to your significant other depending on just what they are! Some are pretty easy and some a bit harder like lifestyle kinks such as Dd/lg or D/s. Without knowing what those kinks are I can give you some general advice, at least from my perspective and experience.
Start easy and build up! When you and your bf are being intimate try suggesting one of your simpler kinks to him! Just ask him for it, or tell him you would love it if he tried xxx. If he’s really into you and into pleasing you he will probably jump at it eagerly! He should want to please you just as much as you want to please him! If that goes well then slowly add stuff to the equation. Hopefully he will start opening up and telling you some of his kinks too! Ideally you want a relationship where you can both share your desires and fantasies openly without any worry of being judged or rejected. If your boyfriend isn’t receptive to those suggestions, doesn’t seem interested in returning those pleasures or learning about what excites you then that’s not a good sign for long terms satisfaction! You don’t want a selfish or inattentive lover! I imagine you are a pretty giving soul and you need to find someone that wants to give to you just as much! I can’t even begin to stress how important that is!
If you are talking about more lifestyle kinks not just in bed there are some things you can do there too. Hopefully you know already if your boyfriend is inclined towards your kinks. For example if it’s dd/lg does he like to take care of you and spoil you? Is he always checking on you and making sure you’re ok? If he’s shown he’s already a caregiver then it’s just a matter of introducing him to what your needs are and slowly introducing the terminology. Ask him to watch Disney movies with you while you cuddle. Ask him to play board games or to sit and color with you! Have him go shopping with you for stuffies or cute blankies. Hopefully that will lead to more open discussions about your little needs and how he can support you! If he isn’t into that or doesn’t like the whole caregiver thing then that’s another sign that maybe this isn’t the right relationship for you!
I know it can be so hard to find someone in real life when you can’t share your links or interests openly. This is especially true for Dd/lg and D/s. There are so many misconceptions about it and what it means to be in one of those relationships. Most people don’t understand that at its core it isn’t a sexual thing but an emotional thing, a caregiving and support thing! Be patient and keep trying! Introduce them slowly and be honest about your needs! Don’t sacrifice yourself and your needs to be what you think your significant other wants or needs! Be true to yourself and don’t accept anything less than you want and deserve!
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