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Of fucking course
What sick bastard doesn’t
[hey! here's an sa/sexual harassment warning for the tags of my reblog! abide by it!]
being a system has let me be less lonely, more curious, and more informed. i've seen so many terms and flags and even medical labels that i wouldn't have known otherwise. and these parts of mine, regardless of how much they front, let me know — consciously or not — that i will never truly be alone. and my system formed partially from my own loneliness in this world and at the time of it forming. but now, i don't have to worry so much. somewhere, someone will always have my back.
or.. my brain, i guess.
Tell us something positive about your system/alters/headmates/plurality:
We'll go first. If it wasn't for our system and the ability to relieve each other from fronting there's no fucking way we'd be half as functional as we currently are with the excruciating level of pain we're in. So god damn thankful I don't have to do this bullshit alone.
oh oh oh i am very interested about your thoughts on age is play
Okay, let me just clarify, this is my own personal opinion. I cannot express enough that this is how I, personally, as Jess, feel on this topic because of my exposure to it and instances in my own life. Completely personal. I’m not trying to make anyone else conform to my viewpoint. I’m just saying what I personally think about it.
So all that being said, I hate it more deeply than I will ever hate any other thing ever.
I don’t have problems with non-sexual age play! I completely respect sub-space and regression and understand how it makes a person feel safe (especially when they’re regressing to the age they experienced trauma and are using this as a coping mechanism)! I don’t have any problems with a caretaker/little dynamic that is purely about taking care of the little and making them feel safe while in headspace. I respect someone’s right to regress and get away for a minute into a safer space and wanting someone there to protect them and give them the opportunity to feel small. A lot of the times, people can’t even really control that headspace.
However, I believe firmly that sexual age-play is disgusting and should in no world be normalized. It’s a direct gateway to pedophilia and no one should be glamorizing the romanticization and sexualization of children in any way. I’ll go ahead and take this opportunity to link a post that describes what I think pretty perfectly. A little is literally unable to consent to sexual acts because of the nature of their headspace and a dom should in no way be sexually attracted to child-like behavior. I don’t blame the sub in this situation like I blame the dom. No person should be getting off to children or child-like behavior. I don’t care if it’s “two consenting adults” engaging in the activity. This kind of play inherently normalizes attraction to children and child-like behavior and if a dom is sexually attracted to their little exhibiting child-like behavior, they will condition themselves to develop that same attraction to real children. If a person is reading fiction and getting off to the idea of children being molested—or having sex with someone in real life who is acting like a child and associating their arousal with child-like tendencies—this will literally definitely lead them to actual consumption of real child pornography and inappropriate interactions with kids irl. This kink actively harms real children.
So those are my thoughts!! And nothing will change them.
can we talk about how when you try to make a relationship 'equal' between you and an abuser, they will always see it as you 'flipping the script' or 'engaging in reactive abuse' because if they aren't superior to you then they feel like you're threatening them? Like homie just saying 'Don't do this, it hurts me, every time you've done this it hurts me' and 'treat people like you want to be treated. if you're mean to me, I can be mean back' is apparently as bad as...checks notes... you beating and raping me and spreading lies about me to the public from your position of power. You don't owe your abuser the 'perfect victim. Fighting back is not something to be ashamed of.