No Because Tell Me Why These Stupid Ass Head Motherfuckers Are Always The Most Active At The Least Important

as a system, we agree on nothing, except for one thing. *yelling, in any form that can not be obviously seen as playful (and even caution on that)* is never okay if not behind closed and locked doors, and even then, we prefer not to yell in any capacity as it only harms others- especially when internal arguing occurs. we’ve seen what discourse between people, especially those you love, does to a person from a first-hand perspective.

UPDATE ON THE CRUSH SITCH????

HAHAHA, yeah, still going strong. been working up the courage to confess n such, trying to still figure out if they like me back and all things. also wanting to make sure we’re both ready for a relationship because that’s super important!

trying my best to learn about them and both pros and cons will come along with them and how i can help resolve things or support them in either case! because hey, we aren’t pissed to be friends for awhile longer, getting to know them a bit more before finally coming to the conclusion whether it’s just infatuation or genuine love is always great! :)

so id say it’s going pretty well, actually. thanks for the ask!

fronting alongside the traumaholder feels like this

birther after telling us it was all our fault for not watching our cats while we were out with our sibling 🦄🦄🦄🩷🩷🩷🐺🐺🐺 (for reference, our two kitties got into a fight. they were separated and slowly reintroduced after a few hours. no issues since but we’ve been keeping an eye on them. we are aware of the cause and it is a one time occurrence that is easily prevented. neither are physically injured either.) (it was our birthday so we wanted to spend time with our sibling. birther watched us leave. guess who was with the cats??) going to love it when our therapist tells us it’s just how she is and that we should understand her point of view when we meet with them!!! -blurry

Hii I’ve recently discovered that we’re a system and was wondering what your favorite thing the person you like or your friend you mentioned has done for you!! I’m kind of scared to tell our friends but your blog gives us hope

hey! welcome to the community! one of the best things one of our friends have done to accommodate us is by doing their own research themselves! i am absolutely blessed to have them, haha. they have also made sure to respect our boundaries, including not interacting with particular alters such as littles due to our own hesitance, and other forms of assistance!

if you have supportive friends, it’s definitely great to tell them about it! we were apprehensive at first as well, but they ended up being one of our most supportive people. :) something i recommend is allowing them to ask questions and explaining the basics! and if they’ve already heard of systems before, especially from ‘cringe’ posters, make sure to re-educate them and point them to more informational places or sites to correct any misinformation.

of course, they won’t understand, at least at first, but the important thing is they are willing to learn and try and understand, even if they cannot at first.

i remember all the times we were forced to go on long walks or standing for long prolonged periods and whenever we told and literally BEGGED someone that we felt faint and our chest and neck was hurting and we needed to sit down because we thought we were going to collapse, that we were told that it was just because ‘we were weak’ or ‘we needed more exercise’, and so, us, 8 year old child, just learned to deal with it. turns out we had POTS.

i forget that im diagnosed with things because they interfere with my daily life........ like what do you mean this isnt normal and i shouldnt be dealing with struggling through getting through daily chores and life in general because of this??? -blurry

yep ! we used to, but it apparently wasn’t useful for our system so we no longer function that way. basically, its just a shit ton of fragments switching in and out, rarely consistent. we just randomly appear and just have little to no discernible identity.

are there any other systems that don’t have a host? just have a few alters that front more frequently? and usually that group of alters rotates over time

none of us identify with the body, none of us are the host, non of us hold a “host like” role

non of us feel like the “main alter”

we’re all just piloting a meat mech and there is no captain

-bennett

CW: mentions of running away

the random urge to run into the woods bc we think we can survive and it’s better than here is always a fun one.

SERIOUS TALK . CENSORSHIP

the amount of censorship and ignorance regarding anything that isn't remotely 'normal' or seems 'realistic' to the average eye is absolutely disgusting and genuinely ableist. see someone who's visibly disabled? oh, no, you can never go up to them! come on! avoid them! they're too different from you. you would never be able to understand them. they would never be able to understand you. have a friend who has a stigmatized mental health condition? oh! they must be faking! nobody *actually* has that! it's too rare! we should stop being friends with them! they must be a monster! have someone tell you that you have an invisible disability? that doesn't exist! if i cant see it, then you don't have it! i know your body better than you do! prove you have your disability, then! and the funny thing is, these types of things are completely censored- viewed as 'wrong' or 'not something to be talked about'. when really, it's just an excuse to not talk about, spread awareness, or allow those who are troubled by these conditions to speak up. TALK ABOUT YOUR ILLNESS. TALK ABOUT YOUR DISABILITY. TALK ABOUT YOUR 'ABNORMALCY'. show the world that **you aren't weird or crazy or monstrous for not fitting the norm.**