The Obscure 'weird' Fictive Shame Is Real And I Think We Need To Change That

i love my headmates!!! >:D - 🌙 Lunar

I know I posted a video on tiktok about this but more people need to hear this

Don't date someone unless you can't handle all their disorders, let me repeat Do not date someone unless you can handle ALL their disorders

Don't date someone with a personality disorder unless you can handle the episodes

Do not date someone with a trauma disorder can you can handle the flashblacks

Do not date someone with mood disorder unless you can handle the mood swings

Do not date someone with a disorder you cannot handle

Do not date someone if you're going to villainize them or their disorders

Do not date someone if you're going to romanticize their disorders

It shows you have little to no understanding of their disorders or who they are as a person, it shows you can't truly love them because you refuse to learn the basics of the disorder, and it shows just how much of a shitty person you are

Traumagenic and endogenic headmates aren't enemies by the way. Sometimes they play Minecraft together. Sometimes they hold hands. Sometimes they kiss. Sometimes they cover work shifts or school for each other. Sometimes even within the same system. This goes for disordered and nondisordered systems too btw.

Just to throw this out there

it was not and is not your fault they groomed you (yes even if you were seeking it out.)

it was not and is not your fault they abused you (yes even if you weren’t the best person at the time.)

you are a survivor not an abuser sweetheart

if you ever need anything my DMs are open

and yes this is a post made half for ourselves be self indulgent <33

having to figure who you are right now is like playing "guess who!"

like mf just tell me who i am i shouldnt have to weed out who i am

We’re sorry for our absence recently we just want to take a break from creating for a while, explanation under the cut

heavy tw: suicide attempt & self harm

for a while now I’ve been doing quite horribly mentally, nonetheless I like running all my blogs just the same even when I feel bad

I’ve attempted maybe three or four times within the past few weeks and one was just a few days ago, and it drained me quite badly

I’ve also been trying to quit SH completely which is a huge task, mainly I struggle with these but if thistle fronts he does too

Anyway we’ve also been doubting our system worse than ever so we wanna get away from all things that trigger spirals of negativity and end up with us in severe danger

have a wonderful day friends, and remember, you’re loved

yep ! we used to, but it apparently wasn’t useful for our system so we no longer function that way. basically, its just a shit ton of fragments switching in and out, rarely consistent. we just randomly appear and just have little to no discernible identity.

are there any other systems that don’t have a host? just have a few alters that front more frequently? and usually that group of alters rotates over time

none of us identify with the body, none of us are the host, non of us hold a “host like” role

non of us feel like the “main alter”

we’re all just piloting a meat mech and there is no captain

-bennett

freaks out when they accommodate for us.......................... and listen............. expalodes

me when a friend takes the plurality talk well >>>>>>>

trying to unlearn misinfo and beliefs brought upon us from our abusers is by far one of the hardest things that we’ve ever had to do for our recovery, but we’re progressing.

i was going to make a post about some memory issues thing for system and thten i forgot so now im here again now.